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Help! My Husband’s Been Sending Skeevy Messages About College Girls to His Friends.
Q. Is my husband a perv? I am married and have two kids. Recently I came across a series of text messages between my husband and his buddy. My husband texted a photo from a poster of female college athletes from my daughter’s sport hanging in her bedroom. They then said this athlete, previously discussed to be hot, was “false advertising”—she’s actually more like “Jabba the Hut or a cow.” My husband sent a photo of a college freshman from our daughter’s poster to make up for having sent the ugly photo.
There were many other messages remarking upon waitresses, cashiers, co-workers, etc., which maybe is more normal “guy talk.” But this interaction really disturbed me, especially given that there are high school seniors on my daughter’s team. Also, this is a sport where sexual abuse is rampant.
Additional background info: Yes, I did look at my husband’s phone, but it was after inadvertently learning that he was secretly taking drugs. So while normally investigating is not a cool thing to do, I felt like I had to figure out the extent of the problem to protect my kids. That’s a question for another day!