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How to Tell Your Partner You Want to Be Sexually Degraded 

 

“The repression industrial complex is strong,” Lil Government added. “Many of us grow up being told that discussing sex openly is inappropriate, all porn is bad, dressing a certain way invites harassment, etc. Views like this shut off healthy communication about sexuality, in society and in our own bedrooms, allowing puritanical shame to flourish. With your partners, the fear may be rejection or being seen as weird or fucked up. These fears are valid, and we all must weigh the risks of derision or judgment to find a deeper sense of ourselves and our community.”

...You Want to Be Sexually Degraded

Tags: Advice, Preference, Sex

Filed under: Health/Food

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18-Sep-2021


Size DOES matter! 

 

Reducing the depth of penetration by an inch led to a statistically meaningful drop in the amount of pleasure experienced.

'The longer the erect penis, the less likely the rings had an impact on sexual pleasure,' they write.

Size DOES matter!

My Husband Is Suddenly Very “Well Endowed”

Teen gets USB cable stuck in penis...

Tags: Advice, Anatomy, Discovery, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Satisfaction, Sex, Study, Women In Charge, Youth

Filed under: Health/Food

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17-Sep-2021


I Saw My Son and His Boyfriend Hitting Each Other  

 

My son Jackson came out as bisexual last year, and my husband and I do not have a problem with that at all. Sexuality doesn’t matter to us, and we were just so happy he decided to open up. Jackson introduced us to Nathan about a year ago. Nathan seemed like a great guy—smart, funny, got along with everyone, and was great with Jackson—and it seemed they were very much in love. For the past year, their relationship has been going seemingly smoothly, and they are glued together whenever we visit.

But about three weeks ago now, we witnessed a rather troubling fight between them. There is no street parking outside their apartment, so we had to park a while away and walk (we were slightly early for a planned lunch outing with the boys). As we got closer, we saw Jackson and Nathan having what looked like a heated argument between them in a public street. Nathan shoved Jackson in the chest. Before my husband reached the boys, Jackson had already responded by punching Nathan in the face.

I Saw My Son and His Boyfriend Hitting Each Other

Tags: Advice, Gay, Mental Health, Parental Burden, Parental Responsibility, Pride, Relationships, Safety, Treatment, Violence

Filed under: Gay+

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09-Sep-2021


13 Red Flags In A Relationship You Shouldn't Ignore 

 

8. Gaslighting

Gaslighting is a type of manipulation that's used to maintain control over another person and involves actively denying that person's reality. For the person on the receiving end, being gaslit can feel extremely disorienting and make them question their own emotions and intuition. Page notes this is a big red flag. If you're upset about something, and this person tells you "you're being dramatic" or "that never happened," not only are they not taking accountability, but they're trying to control you and the narrative of your relationship.

13 Red Flags

Woman, 24, kicks stunned boyfriend out of their apartment when hearing him swear at her beloved cat

Florida woman is charged with animal cruelty after throwing ex-boyfriend’s caged cat Stanley into a river

8 DATING RED FLAGS YOU NEED TO LOOK OUT FOR

Tags: Advice, Animals, Hostility, List, Pets, Relationships, Warning

Filed under: Health/Food

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08-Sep-2021


My Wife Is Mad I Found Our Child’s Donor Siblings 

 

My wife and I, both women, have one child, who is now 5. We used a sperm donor from a federally licensed bank, to ensure our legal parental rights. I conceived and carried the baby, and both our names are on the birth certificate. Here’s the thing: A couple of months ago, I brought up with my wife the prospect of finding our kid’s donor siblings. She told me she wasn’t crazy about the idea but that I should go ahead and do what I want (obviously, this was said without enthusiasm). I brought it up to her several times after that, and her response was the same fatalistic, “Do what you want, obviously my wishes don’t matter here.” I took my spouse at her word, and started looking. In a secure, vetted fashion (through the sperm bank itself), I was able to find a group of other families who used the same donor. And there are a bunch of kids—over a dozen!

I am overjoyed. I’m excited about the prospect of meeting these families, of our children having close relationships with their half-siblings as they grow up. Seeing pictures, hearing family stories, and learning about medical histories are all great outcomes of this. And as a lesbian, I am excited to connect with a lot of other families, many of them LGBTQ, and have a sense of community with them. My wife is threatened by all of this. She says it feels like I am saying, “Here’s our kid’s real family.” I feel that her stance is emotionally immature and centers herself, not our child’s needs. My wife was really upset over my findings. She has asked me to not tell our child (yet?), and told me she felt hurt because deciding to contact donor siblings was something she wanted us to do together. Which is clearly not true!

My Wife Is Mad

Tags: Advice, DNA, Family, Lesbian, LGBTQ, Mental Health, Parental Burden, Relationships, Respect

Filed under: Health/Food

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05-Sep-2021


Stars Banned From 'Saturday Night Live' 

 

Martin Lawrence hosted the show in 1994, and his monologue caused some severe controversy.

During the segment, he spoke about the then-recent John and Lorena Bobbitt incident, and then improvised a rant about feminine hygiene. The comments were removed and replaced by a voiceover in future broadcasts: “At this point in his monologue, Martin begins a commentary on what he considers the decline in standards of feminine hygiene in this country. Although we at Saturday Night Live take no stand on this issue one way or the other, network policy prevents us from re-broadcasting this portion of his remarks. In summary, Martin feels, or felt at the time, that the failure of many young women to bathe thoroughly is a serious problem that demands our attention. He explores this problem, citing numerous examples from his personal experience, and ends by proposing several imaginative solutions.”

Stars Banned From 'Saturday Night Live'

Orlando residents are asked to cut back on water usage as the virus surges in Florida

It Appears My New Boyfriend Never Got a Crucial Lesson About His Penis

Tags: Advice, Ban, Celebrity, Clean, History, NSFW, Sacrifice, Safety, Sex, TV, TV Trivia, Water

Filed under: Gay+

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24-Aug-2021


Gay Man Called Out For Refusing To Accept Coworker’s Apology After Homophobic Rant 

 

A gay man on Reddit got into drama with his coworkers over this sort of situation after he refused to accept the apology of a colleague who went on a homophobic rant.

I told him and my manager not to bother with any apology since I don’t believe it would be sincere in anyway and pretty much only motivated to avoid more severe repercussions.”

“That sparked a discussion, my manager and some coworkers told me I should just go with it and let him apologize to let him save some face, others are saying I’m downright an a** because everyone should have the chance to redeem themselves and some coworkers agree with me that an insincere apology is worthless.”

Gay Man Called Out

Tags: Advice, Apology, Argument, Employment, Gay, Hostility, LGBTQ, Social Media

Filed under: Gay+

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17-Aug-2021


A gay man wonders: Are condoms bygone?

 

“What is it with queer guys insisting on never wearing a condom anymore?” the writer, identified only as Wrap It Up writes. “My Grindr message log is full of guys who ghosted or blocked after learning I wouldn’t bareback. They’re on PrEP, they say. What I don’t say is the last time I was cavalier about condoms, I ended up with herpes. Do these guys not remember the HIV crisis (still very much a thing)? Other STIs? Is the Venn diagram of anti-maskers and anti-rubbers a circle?”

Are condoms bygone?

Woman on a date is left stunned after a gay stranger passes her a note urging her to 'RUN'

Tags: Advice, Danger, Dating, Disease, Etiquette, Exclusivity, Gay, LGBTQ, Safety, Sex, Support

Filed under: Gay+

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16-Aug-2021


I’m Being Shamed for Not Being an “Activist” on Social Media. 

 

I know this is a ridiculous question but bear with me. Is it OK to not use my social media to post about activism, racial justice, etc.?

I (a white woman) work at a pro–racial justice nonprofit (and have done so my entire career), actively making decisions in my own life—schools, neighborhoods, houses of worship, etc.—to live my values. I have generally used social media to stay connected with folks and share more personal updates about my nonwork life. Last summer, I began feeling guilty that I didn’t engage in public activism on my social media. I follow a number of activist accounts, but don’t share or broadcast this. The guilt pushed me to post more actively about racial justice. But every time I posted, it was never just the right thing—folks on both sides of the political spectrum sent me messages nitpicking my phrasing or what I chose to share/not share, and I constantly felt angry and on edge. I also engaged less in in-person conversations because I was so jaded by the “unproductivity” of these online conversations.

I’m Being Shamed

Tags: Activism, Advice, Bullying, Culture, Environment, Guilt, Loneliness, Politics, Relationships, Social Distance, Social Media, Treatment

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12-Aug-2021


Want To Avoid Raising Entitled Kids? Don’t Do These 4 Things. 

 

“If your brain isn’t cognitively ready to imagine someone else’s experience, it’s harder to have empathy,” said Pressman.

Yet it is important that as kids move from toddler-dom into the school-age years, parents actively teach them that they will not always get their way. Parents also should explain to children that not getting their way may feel bad, which is expected.

For example, when your child is shopping for a friend’s birthday present and they ask for a toy of their own, don’t give in, Pressman urged. Instead, maybe say something like: “We’re going into the store to buy a present for Billy. I know sometimes that can feel hard, and it’s hard to focus,” Pressman said. That’s it.

You’re giving them space to grapple with what it feels like to not get their way, and you’re showing them that you expect them to get through it. It can be a pretty powerful lesson, particularly when it’s repeated often as a natural part of growing up.

Want To Avoid Raising Entitled Kids? Don’t Do These 4 Things.

Mother DELETES 14-year-old influencer daughter's social media account with 1.7 MILLION followers

Many parents are saying no to sleepovers. At what cost?

Tags: Advice, Children, Choices, Fear, Friendship, Mental Health, Neglect, Parental Burden, Responsibility, Self-defence, Training, Unruly Child

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11-Aug-2021


How parents can help kids deal with back-to-school anxiety 

 

As a researcher who’s studied children’s mental health for decades, I know that predictability helps prevent anxiety in children. Predictability means things going along as they’ve always gone: sleep at night, up in the morning, cornflakes for breakfast, off to school, activities in the afternoon, dinner with the family. In Louise Fitzhugh’s children’s novel “Harriet the Spy,” Harriet’s mother can’t believe that her daughter always takes a tomato sandwich to school. Always. Harriet has no interest in variety. She’s perfectly happy with the same sandwich, year after year.

Given children’s fondness for sameness and predictability, it should be no surprise that a global pandemic that halted school as kids know it, slammed the brakes on seeing friends, stopped extracurricular activities and banished all but immediate family members would have a profound impact on children’s anxiety

How parents can help kids deal with back-to-school anxiety

Tags: Advice, Anxiety, Children, Health, Parenting, Support

Filed under: Health/Food

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06-Aug-2021


My Teen Changes Their Queer Identity Every Week and I Can’t Take It Anymore 

 

I need some help gaining perspective on my 15-year-old child’s whiplash approach to gender and sexuality. For the last three years, they have been on a journey with regard to their sexuality, declaring and changing identities one every few weeks or months, even when those identities have been both contradictory (how can one be both asexual and polyamorous?) and hypothetical (my kid isn’t dating and hasn’t dated). They are committed to being anything but cisgender and hetero, and that identity—whatever it turns out to be—appears from their actions and words to be the central part of their sense of self. They spent a lot of time on queer wikis, looking up new possible identities. They avidly “ship” fictional characters into same-sex couples, express anger/disappointment when shows/books have hetero couples, and talk constantly about LGBTQIA issues, representation, etc.

I have been, and want to be, supportive. My kid deserves to be loved and celebrated for who they are, and however their identity settles out is fine with me. But I am also struggling with these rapid changes. In the last two weeks, my kid has changed their name once and pronouns twice, colored their hair, worn exaggeratedly feminine eye makeup, pinned their hair up to look masculine, purchased a bikini and a dress and then asked me to buy them a binder (because they think it would be “fun” to look like a boy sometimes). At this point, it feels like they’re trying on identities like costumes, and that makes me very uncomfortable. None of it feels authentic—it seems more like a bid to stand out in a crowd or perhaps to find the limits of my acceptance.

I have worked so hard to make sure my kids know they are loved unconditionally, but if this kid is looking for a boundary, maybe I should set one? I literally squirmed when I wrote that sentence; setting a random limit on acceptance goes against everything I believe. But at the same time, I am so, so tired of hearing about their identity day after day after day and of trying to keep up with the changes. They’re a great, smart, interesting kid for a dozen different reasons; their gender/sexuality is just one aspect of their personality. Would it be wrong of me to say, in essence, “I love you, and will never not love you. When you figure out your identity let me know, and in the meantime can we maybe stop talking about it all the time?” Also, as the world opens up and my kid spends more time outside of our home, can I/should I ask them to be more thoughtful in how they present themselves? It seems to me that trans and nonbinary people cannot simply change their identities and expression for “fun,” so my kid’s behavior feels a little bit like cosplaying in a way that could be hurtful. Or do I just keep keeping my mouth shut, do my best to remember this week’s identity, and pray that this phase ends soon?

My Teen Changes Their Queer Identity Every Week

Three family members are charged with child abuse 'after they shaved the word

City councilor facing calls to resign says gender identity is “magical thinking”

She Told Everyone How Painful Her Gender Confirmation Surgery Was. And Then She Died.

Fourth-Graders Told Not to Tell Parents About Questions on 'Equity' Survey They Were Forced to Fill Out

Moment man in yellow floral dress is arrested 'for stealing school bus

Father plans legal action after gender clinic planned to give his 9-year-old autistic son puberty blockers

Ex-barrister lost his job as a volunteer counsellor with the charity after raising fears over the way children confused about their gender are rushed into changing sex

Virginia police arrest Internet personality 'Chris Chan' following leaked confession of elder abuse and non-consensual 'love quest'

AMA proposes not recording babies' sex on birth certificates

Tags: Abuse, Advice, Children, Choices, Confusion, Education, Employment, Enforcement, Helpline, LGBTQ, Medical, Mental Health, Opinion, Parental Burden, Parental Crime, Rape, Safety, Seniors, Sex, Sex Identity, Surgery, Trans, Treatment, Video, Violence, Youth

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02-Aug-2021


Why So Many Younger Guys Are Taking Viagra 

 

We're all familiar with female-driven wellness brands like Goop — but so far, there hasn't been an equivalent for men. The startup Hims is trying to fill space in the market for male wellness by offering solutions for pretty much every nexus point of masculine insecurity. It sells a suite of shampoos and vitamins to counter receding hairlines, and it's working on a skincare line to clear up any lingering acne. It also offers is a $20-a-month subscription of Sildenafil, the active ingredient in Viagra, an FDA-approved medication that's been used for decades to treat erectile dysfunction.

Why So Many Younger Guys Are Taking Viagra

Woman, 23, who is dating a man 34 YEARS her senior says strangers often mistake her for the 57-year-old's daughter

Tags: Advice, Anatomy, Choices, Dedication, Drugs, Insensitivity, Men, Opinion, Program, Science, Sex, Study, Treatment

Filed under: Gay+

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30-Jul-2021


My Husband Won’t Speak to Me if I Don’t Pay Him a “Tithe.” 

 

I have been married to my husband for about 10 years and together for 15. We sort of have a great marriage, but only “on paper” and “when things are working.” I am most likely the problem. My business was decimated during COVID, so I took a full-time job. But I still have my (entrepreneurial) business and it has also returned to full-time. My husband doesn’t want me to give up my full-time stable paycheck—I get that. He also makes at least quadruple what I do. Part of the issue is that he controls our finances. I do contribute, but the amount I pay monthly is referred to (by him) as “the tithe.” If I don’t pay “the tithe,” he speaks to me less. But none of this is the real issue! It’s that when I do something wrong, whether by accident or not, he stops speaking to me. If I do something he doesn’t like, he won’t speak to me for HOURS until he asks me if I am ready to apologize. I am not a pushover type of person. I am strong and smart and dynamic and a leader. But I am not passive-aggressive and don’t have the energy to battle this on a passive-aggressive level. I tend towards direct confrontation. It doesn’t work. Trying to discuss things calmly doesn’t work. I just don’t know what to do. I think my husband hates me but won’t say it. How can I deal with our different styles of conflict?— Hated By Husband

My Husband Won’t Speak to Me

Tags: $, Abuse, Advice, Cheating, Mental Health, Relationships, Struggling, Survival, Threat, Woman's Rights

Filed under: Health/Food

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30-Jul-2021


I Think My Adult Stepsons May Be Sleeping Together. 

 

My husband and I are at crossroads about how to confront our sons about a discovery we made while visiting their shared flat. They are stepbrothers technically—note the word “technically.” My husband and I are both widowers who met and bonded at a support group for single parents surviving after cancer.

My son was 10 when I met my husband and 12 when we married. My stepson is 9 months younger, so they are very close in age. After a somewhat rocky start (both boys were grieving and trying to adjust to a new family norm), they became the best of friends, inseparable from about age 13. They even took the same classes together in high school so they could spend more time together, and made sure to go to the same university.

They are both adults now (25 and 26), live a state over, and rent a flat together. We went to visit them once COVID restrictions had eased, and my husband accidentally walked into the second bedroom (in a two-bedroom flat) thinking it was the bathroom, and discovered it was set up as an office. My husband’s curiosity got the better of him and he snuck around, discovering one king-sized bed in the only other bedroom that contained both of their stuff.

I Think My Adult Stepsons May Be Sleeping Together

Should I Tell My Father I Slept With His Horrible Wife?

Tags: Advice, Boundaries, Family, Gay, LGBTQ, Marriage, Parental Burden, Priorities, Relationships, Sex

Filed under: Health/Food

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25-Jul-2021




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