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From the Straight Spouse’s Perspective of a Gay Man Having an Affair
My husband is having an affair with a man. We have four young children. He moved out quickly after I discovered the relationship. I am worried about him and I don’t know how to make this better for him and for us. His kids miss him. I honestly thought we had a happy and loving marriage. Do you have any advice for me? Or for him?
Thank you for sending your question, and I’ve written a lot about how the gay spouse proceeds through this process. I only occasionally hear from women or men who have been left behind. So in this response, I’m going to focus on you and them.
The Good Men Project
Milwaukee County Declares Racism A Public Health Crisis
Milwaukee County Executive Chris Abele signed a resolution Monday (May 20) stating how racism is a public health crisis and that the county plans to take action.
"Everybody has been reading and hearing about the same set of statistics in Milwaukee for decades," Abele said. "We lead in an unfortunate way the racial disparities in employment, in education, incarceration, income and even things like ... access to capital."
The resolution hopes to take actionable steps to level the playing field in Milwaukee, a playing field that finds minorities disproportionately affected.
Drunk Airline Passenger Yells Racist Abuses, Kicks People On International Flight [Video]
Black Strippers Awarded More than $3 Million In Racial Discrimination Case
California Senate advances bill to provide abortion pill access for public university students at no cost
The California state Senate passed a piece of legislation on Monday that would require its public university systems — the University of California and California State University — to offer students access to abortion pills at no cost in the early weeks of pregnancy. The initiative would be made possible through privately-funded grants and insurance coverage.
The bill, Senate Bill 24, the College Student Right to Access Act, mandates that student health services clinics at all 34 public university campuses in California provide women access to "abortion by medication techniques" in early pregnancy, according to the bill's text. If passed, the legislation would give $200,000 to each student health center to pay for necessary training and equipment, and an additional $200,000 to set up a 24-hour hotline. The service would come at no cost to the woman seeking an abortion.
"We're going to expand access because that's what we do in California: we lead," said Sen. Connie Leyva, the bill's primary sponsor, in a telephone interview with CBS News on Tuesday. Senate analysis of the proposal notes that according to the National Institutes of Health, "ending a pregnancy with medications is an option for women who are less than ten weeks pregnant and would like to have an abortion at home with a less invasive procedure."
Lipslut Is Donating Its Proceeds To Organizations Supporting Reproductive Rights
‘We’re not going to have this’: Nationwide protests of extreme abortion bans draw thousands
"You cannot find a soulmate," relationship expert Belinda Luscombe says
It's well known that love, respect and trust are all crucial components for a strong marriage, but a new book suggests that science plays an important role, too.
Belinda Luscombe, author of "Marriageology: The Art and Science of Staying Together," shared what her research reveals about what can help strengthen a relationship.
One of Luscombe's major findings may come as a surprise: She says you'll never meet your soulmate.
"You cannot find a soulmate," she said Tuesday on "CBS This Morning." "The search for a soulmate is like searching for the only one pair of trousers that would make you happy."
Today's youth deserve inclusive masturbation education
For a kid, there are few things more awkward than sitting in a sex ed class and learning about masturbation. For a queer or transgender kid, the experience can be simultaneously uncomfortable and painful.
That's because, as some sex educators argue, sex education often fails to address masturbation in an inclusive way. In fact, it may not even be discussed at all. Less than half of American high schools and only one fifth of middle schools teach all 16 sex ed topics from the Center for Disease Control's recommended list. Masturbation isn't even on that list, much less inclusive masturbation education.
"Talking about self-pleasure doesn't happen that much in sex ed," says Andrew Townsend, teen program coordinator for Planned Parenthood Toronto.
By ignoring masturbation and not addressing it in a way that speaks to everyone, sex ed fails our youth. Inclusive sex ed should be a critical component of education, and masturbation should be a core topic. Regardless of gender identity or sexuality, the practice is an essential part of an individual's sexual pleasure.
Men and Abortion
Emboldened by the placement of two Conservative justices on the Supreme Court, state legislatures have begun racing to become the test case for overturning the landmark Roe v. Wade case. Alabama has passed perhaps the most extreme of these laws, effectively banning all abortions without exception. Georgia’s law appears to cover miscarriages as well as abortions. Quite a few other states have passed or are working on legislation that appear to be on-their-face violations of the Roe v. Wade decision.
I’ve noticed that, on my social media stream, so many men are as silent as they were during the peak of #MeToo. It’s understandable that men would want to step aside and let women do most of the talking, and we should. However, we shouldn’t be completely silent.
So what should we say?
The Good Men Project
Recent abortion bans will impact poor people and people of color most
Why So Many Women Choose Abortion Over Adoption
Gay pop star from Singapore, where gay sex is illegal, shares coming out story
How old were you when you realized you were gay?
At 13! I’ve been a singer for seven years being in the closet. When I hit 30, I told myself I can’t live my life being someone else anymore. It was just taking away all the joy from me when I was with my friends because I was just busy thinking about hiding my sexuality. All the time.
I couldn’t write another word for a song. I couldn’t sing without feeling like I was being truthful. It’s just painful that my life was basically a lie. And I didn’t want to be lying all the time. It was tiring and tearing me down.
I love my friends and family a lot. And I knew if I were to live a lie, I’d never be able to share the authentic part of my life to the ones I love. So I decided that this was it, accepted who I was, what I loved and told my old self ‘bye bish!’
Gay Star News
Suicide Rate For Girls Has Been Rising Faster Than For Boys, Study Finds
The number of people dying by suicide in the U.S. has been rising, and a new study shows that the suicide rate among young teenage girls has been increasing faster than it has for boys of the same age.
Boys are still more likely to take their own lives. But the study published Friday in JAMA Network Open finds that girls are steadily narrowing that gap.
Researchers examined more than 85,000 youth suicides that occurred between 1975 and 2016. Donna Ruch, a researcher at Nationwide Children's Hospital in Columbus, Ohio, who worked on the study, tells NPR that a major shift occurred after 2007.
Researchers found the increase was highest for girls ages 10 to 14, rising by nearly 13% since 2007. While for boys of the same age, it rose by 7%.
"That's where we saw the most significant narrowing of the gender gap," Ruch says.
Kicked out, spat on and abused, new UK shelter helps LGBT+ homeless
LONDON, May 15 (Thomson Reuters Foundation) - Apart from being spat on and urinated on when he slept rough in London for over a year, 52-year-old Chabahn had to contend with another daily threat: being abused and attacked for his sexuality.
Chabahn, who is gay but kept it hidden on the streets, said living with HIV was an additional burden that some mainstream shelters did not have the capacity to support him with.
"When it comes to being LGBT, the amount of discrimination on the street is rather high. There is no safety, you have to fend for yourself," said Chabahn, who declined to give his full name.
"You have to become a very good actor and you have to be someone that you are not."
YouTube star Riyadh Khalaf calls out LGBT bullying
The stunning toll of Boy Scout sex abuse: More than 12,200 reported victims
Sexual abuse survivors sue the Vatican over predatory U.S. priests
Catholic school music director sought sex with undercover cop posing as teen: affidavit
The Latest: Bishop says church was not trying to hide files
Britney Spears May Never Perform Again, Manager Says
Britney Spears’s longtime manager Larry Rudolph says the singer may never perform again. Speaking to TMZ, Rudolph said, “As the person who guides her career — based on the information I and all of the professionals who work with her are being told on a need-to-know basis — from what I have gathered it’s clear to me she should not be going back to do this Vegas residency, not in the near future and possibly never again.”
Rudolph has managed Spears for most of her career, going back to her first album, “Baby… One More Time,” in 1999. “I’ve been with her for two-thirds of her life,” he tells Variety. “I look at her almost like I look at my own daughter. It’s very emotional for me … and really rough. Personally, I want for her to just find a peaceful, happy place — whatever that means for her. It’s not about a career anymore — it’s about life.”
Homophobes Attack Congressional Black Caucus Over Equality Act
A right-wing group aims to spark outrage among black voters over an impending vote on the Equality Act.
Organizers for the Gone 2 Far Movement released an open letter through Christian Newswire attacking leadership from the Congressional Black Caucus.
The bizarre rant, signed by failed Congressional candidate Stephen Broden and right-wing radio host Randy Short, suggests the “Gay Equality Act” will set back minority rights.
The letter singles out Rep. Karen Bass, CBC chair, and other caucus members for refusing to “defend the real purpose of the 1964 Civil Rights Act as a scam to make 'Gay the New Black' wherein pedophiles, sodomites of all stripes, and persons of debased fetish needs are accorded protected class status akin to Blacks and women.”
The letter compares a vote for the Equality Act to the biblical story of disciple Judas Iscariot betraying Jesus Christ, though its unclear how many pieces of silver were exchanged or who will be crucified should the legislation pass.
Pat Robertson: Equality Act Will Cause 'Atomic War'
Violent mob attacks Indian priest because they think he is gay
LGBTI incels: what it's like to be queer when no one will sleep with you
What is it like when no one will have sex with you? Months and years go by with no success on dating apps. Facing a sea of ‘no’s at bars and parties.
What does that do to a person?
The answer is complicated if you’re a sexual person. For some, it’s just a part of everyday life.
For incels, it is everything.
The involuntary celibate community spawned on the internet two decades ago. It is as multi-faceted as it is confusing to outsiders – boasting their own belief system and vocabulary.
But where do LGBTI people fall within the incel community? Mirroring ‘normie’ society, many incels reject LGBTI folk. Yet that hasn’t stopped them from existing. Instead they’ve created their own group – and a unique way of being incel.
Gay Star News
Group ranks best and worst countries in Europe for LGBTI rights
Azerbaijan, Turkey and Armenia are the worst countries in Europe for LGBTI rights, according to a new assessment from the International Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans and Intersex Association.
Malta, Belgium and Luxembourg come in at the top of the list of 49 nations ranked according to legal and policy practices for LGBTI people, according to a news release from advocacy group ILGA-Europe. LGBTI is an abbreviation for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and intersex.
Being too hard on yourself could lead to these debilitating disorders
Do you feel like the fate of the world rests on your shoulders? As well as being stressful, that mindset may be affecting your mental health. A sense of over-responsibility is one trait that makes people vulnerable to developing obsessive-compulsive disorder or anxiety, according to a study published in the International Journal of Cognitive Therapy.
While it’s normal to feel anxious, and also to act in ways that one might casually describe as OCD – such as keeping your house spotlessly clean – it’s when these behaviors become persistent and intense that they develop from traits into disorders, researchers say.
How to support a partner who's experiencing mental health issues
Guest opinion: Our legislators must understand mental health better
How flying into an angry rage is a sign you could be seriously ill
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Having Psoriasis May Increase The Risk Of Mental Health Disorders, New Research Shows
I started being as nice to myself as I am to my friends and it did absolute wonders for my mental health
City life damages mental health in ways we’re just starting to understand
FHE Health Announces Scholarships To Encourage More People To Enter The Addiction And Mental Health Field
I Masturbate Every Morning & It Does Wonders For My Anxiety
By 7am, I’ve already had two orgasms.
I have to get up if I want to get a shower in before work, but I can’t resist going for one more. In the end, I rush for the bus in a haphazard outfit, my self-induced bedhead neatly packed away in a bun.
The lack of shower aside, it’s a regular scenario – getting myself off is part of my morning routine. It’s about more than sexual satisfaction; I use it as a form of relaxation.
My stress levels are generally quite high. I work in a fast-paced environment where tight deadlines come as part of the package and my mind is constantly 'on'. I also suffer from anxiety, which adds another layer of tension to my already overworked brain. Switching off is difficult – as a natural workaholic, my evenings and weekends are frequently filled with more work.
Exercise is better than a pay rise for your mental health, study finds
Police officers suffering PTSD on 'alarming' scale, study finds
Should life be this stressful?
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