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My parents are currently trying to “help” my 29-year-old brother by allowing him to move out to their new beach house and subsidizing his rent so he can get a fresh start in life.

My parents have always seemed to favor my brother, and I was finally able to heal and move on from the hurt a few years ago. I am two years younger and my husband and I have our own house, own two new cars, and have two stable incomes.

I have worked for everything that I have in life, and I am grateful for how I was raised because being forced to earn everything, including my parents affection, has allowed me to have the life I do now

My parents have always supported my brother emotionally and financially. They currently pay for his phone plan, his cell phone, his car loan — after he totalled his last car two weeks ago — and now his rent.

He depends on them for almost everything in life. They are encouraging him to move to get a fresh start on their dime instead of taking a leap and getting an apartment. They are doing this because they didn’t want him to have a mortgage.

Meanwhile, I am finishing my accounting degree before sitting for the CPA (my husband and I are paying 100%), and my parents are encouraging me to NOT get my master’s degree because it’s useless and would make my brother feel worse. They say that we are already married and have a house so why do we need more.

My husband and I have been together for four years and married for one. I love him immensely and would do just about anything for him—except have kids. We discussed this before getting married, and I was indifferent. I pushed past not wanting to get married, so I thought I’d be able to push past how I felt about raising children.

Then I came up with a solution that may be extremely harmful to us or may be the answer to our prayers. I’ve suggested he co-parents with someone local, with whom he can have shared custody. He would be able to interact with his child every day—nurture, love, and raise them. The child can live with us occasionally, and I could be like an aunt: caring but ultimately not responsible. My husband did not initially like this idea. He saw it as intentionally having an “outside” child and felt he’d be painted the unfaithful partner whose wife was gracious enough to accept his infidelity. He argued that no one would believe that it was my choice. After the nth conversation, I think he realized that what was indifference from me has turned into an actual no. So now he’s come around.

But now a new problem has arisen: Hearing him talk about this potential child and opportunity and how he would spend hours a day away so he could get maximum time with this child has made me … jealous? I’m not even sure what this feeling is, because I can’t identify it. I don’t even recognize myself—I’ve turned into a monster who is threatened by a nonexistent child. I actually feel ashamed. Now I’m stuck. On one hand, if we negotiate a co-parenting situation, he could be satisfied and even happy. Yet this feeling I’m having is starting to get worse. I’m thinking about all the possible ways it could go wrong: custody battles, garnished wages, him leaving me for this woman he will be co-parenting with, and (shamefully) my feelings being hurt. I don’t know if we’d survive, and I feel he’d blame me if it went awry. On the other hand, he wants kids, and there’s a very real possibility he could leave. There’s a part of me that says I could just have his kids and solve this problem, but then I’d be the miserable one. Is there a solution somewhere that I’m not seeing?

—His and Not Hers

About 300 companies that received as much as half a billion dollars in pandemic-related government loans have filed for bankruptcy, according to a Wall Street Journal analysis of government data and court filings.

Many of the companies, which employ a total of about 23,400 workers, say the funds from the Paycheck Protection Program weren’t enough to keep them going as the coronavirus and lack of additional stimulus payments weighed on their businesses.

Matthew Camp, the gay NYC go-go boy turned adult performer, shared a video of former Trump “fixer” and personal attorney Michael Cohen enthusing about Camp’s OnlyFans account.

It’s unclear who paid for the video, which was recorded using Cameo, the platform in which public figures including celebrities and politicians charge a fee for short personal messages on video. Cohen charges $100 per message on the platform. It’s also unclear if Cohen is aware that OnlyFans is a mostly adult platform.

“Obviously, walking off the field was emotional for everyone that day,” Martin said during a phone conversation we had over the weekend. “I was feeling a ton of different things, slight embarrassment and anger among them, but in the locker room after the game, and after losing our chance for the playoffs, it was also a lot for my teammates to handle; however, realizing that together we took a big stand, it became a really big deal, and it was a testament that really showed not only their support for me, but how close we all became over the season.”

Since that awe-inspiring moment, Martin has received a flood of support and encouraging comments from all around the world. He appeared on Good Morning America, interviewed by former NFL star and GMA host Michael Strahan. However, perhaps the most surprising occurrence was the call Martin received from Flemmings a few weeks after the episode.

Earlier this year, the San Diego Loyal team walked off the field in support of their openly gay teammate Collin Martin after he was subjected to a homophobic slur from an opposing player.

At the moment the team walked off the field, Collin said he felt “distraught” adding: “I was just embarrassed that my sexuality had anything to do with the outcome of a game or us forfeiting it, so to me it was really a bit too much to handle. And I was just pissed that we had to deal with this!”

Early exit polls culled from The New York Times show LGBT support for President Donald Trump doubled since his match-up with Hillary Clinton, when he only managed to capture 14 percent of the demographic.

The Times, querying 15,590 people at polling places, early voting sites, and via phone calls, found that 28 percent of self-identified LGBT people supported Trump, while 61 percent went for Joe Biden (Biden is currently leading in the Electoral College and popular vote tallies). Clinton managed to nab 78 percent of the LGBT vote, according to national exit polls from 2016.

Every year since 2017 (when Trump became the U.S. president), Gupta’s group has been celebrating his birthday. “We have always supported Trump and will continue to do so,” said Gupta.

Earlier this week, Hindu Sena organised an elaborate prayer meeting for Trump’s victory in New Delhi.

“Both India and the U.S. are suffering from Islamic jihad. Donald Trump is one of the very few people who have spoken about this,” said Kaushik.

The fondness for Trump also stems from his perceived close relationship with Indian Prime Minister Narendra Modi. In 2019, U.S.-based Indians organised the “Howdy Modi!” event in Houston, Texas, which was attended by both Modi and Trump.

When a friend suggested to gymnast Danell Leyva he post a message of support in honor of Coming Out Day recently, the three-time Olympic medalist instead decided to use the occasion to write his own coming out story on Twitter. He told the Olympic Channel the decision was difficult, in large part due to his own stubbornness and the fact he still doesn’t quite know how to identify, but he chose to go public in order to help others.

“I didn’t think it was gonna blow up the way it did,” Leyva said, noting that the responses were both positive and comforting.

Gus Kenworthy is back on the slopes — in spite of a sizable bruise.

The Olympic skier, 29, shared on Thursday some footage of a recent fall while training on a halfpipe in Switzerland.

"I had a couple really stupid little crashes like this one," he wrote atop an Instagram Story video. The Switzerland trip marked the first time Kenworthy got back on his skis after undergoing knee surgery earlier this year.

In another slide on his Instagram Stories, Kenworthy added that he "ended up with a huge bruise on my a— just in time to fly for 15 hours!"

"The President wants to send stimulus checks to workers because he knows they need direct relief," Benjamin Williamson, White House senior communications adviser, told Newsweek. "It's telling that the Speaker is openly admitting she's holding financial support for Americans as a leverage play."

"The president needs this legislation. He wants that check to go into people's pockets. He doesn't care about any of the rest of it in terms of what it does for working families," Pelosi said. "So that's our leverage, you know, that he wants that, and that's how we're going to try to get the rest of it."

Pelosi told The Joe Madison Show that Democrats also want the "purchasing power" to be in Americans' pockets. But her party can't "abandon" the necessary funding for education, health, and state and local government aid just for a $1,200 stimulus check, "as important as that is," she added.

Growing up as a black kid in England’s white West Country, a car trip east to the busier, more exciting parts of the country meant one thing: KFC on the way back.

No matter how thrilling the purpose of our trip, the promise of salty, greasy chicken on our return would be the highlight of our day. My brother and I would get excited in the back seat just as the colonel’s bright face was due to make an appearance on the horizon. We knew what was coming.

“Shall we?” Dad would ask, as if it were a question and not an inevitability. Mum would nod, and soon enough I’d be savouring my two pieces of chicken – leg, if I was lucky. I can still smell the sharpness of the lemon hand wipe that would clean me up afterwards.

Back then, I was not even conscious of the racist baggage fried chicken came with in the US. But it was seeping into my subconscious, and I felt it.

As with most things, what happens in the US winds its way over to the UK. Including, it turns out, racist tropes. In my day job as a writer on a national newspaper – my supper clubs then were still a hobby – I sat next to someone who would often crack the same joke when I stood up to go for lunch. “What you getting?” he’d grin. “Fried chicken?”

Millions of unemployed Americans faced an income "cliff" in July when the extra $600 in pandemic jobless benefits came to an end. But millions more are now facing another — and perhaps more dire — hit to their income as they exhaust all their unemployment options at both the state and federal levels.

"People are saying, 'Oh my god, I'm running out of money,' and they have no idea what's to come," said Alex Emanuel, an actor, filmmaker and musician in New York whose unemployment aid ran dry two months ago.

The issue is affecting a range of workers, including people who lost their jobs toward the end of 2019 and have run through multiple unemployment aid extensions provided by Congress earlier this year. Gig-economy workers and others who tapped the federal Pandemic Unemployment Assistance (PUA) program early in the crisis are also about to run out of aid.

These benefits aren't particularly generous — the typical weekly unemployment check amounts to $333 a week — but out-of-work adults tell CBS MoneyWatch that the additional money has helped them pay for necessities like utilities and rent.

Across the country, Black Americans feel under siege from the coronavirus pandemic and raw from the police brutality fueling Black Lives Matter protests. But some are nursing another intimate wound: their church’s failure to acknowledge their pain. Many Black parishioners, especially those at multiracial institutions, bristle when they hear rhetoric from church leaders that ignores how health inequities and racism are affecting the Black community right now. Others are hurt by their church’s conspicuous silence on these issues. The result is a quiet but resolute contingent of Black church members leaving their congregation to seek spiritual healing elsewhere.

Like others I talked with, Delisha, 58, isn’t one to miss church. For the past seven years, she has made sure to be in the faithful number of a large, multicultural New Orleans congregation. But after the pandemic hit in March, she decided to attend services only via live-stream. Black people like her are disproportionately at risk for severe illness or death from COVID-19, and Delisha, who lives with her elderly mother and a daughter with asthma, has hypertension. (Delisha asked that I identify her using only her middle name, because she had not yet contacted the church about her concerns.)

What she saw on video one Sunday dismayed her. As the camera panned over the congregation, she noted that some people had masks on and some didn’t. The church did not require them. What’s more, the pastor, who is white, scolded the missing members over live-stream: “Why are y’all not here today? You scared?”