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Want To Avoid Raising Entitled Kids? Don’t Do These 4 Things.
“If your brain isn’t cognitively ready to imagine someone else’s experience, it’s harder to have empathy,” said Pressman.
Yet it is important that as kids move from toddler-dom into the school-age years, parents actively teach them that they will not always get their way. Parents also should explain to children that not getting their way may feel bad, which is expected.
For example, when your child is shopping for a friend’s birthday present and they ask for a toy of their own, don’t give in, Pressman urged. Instead, maybe say something like: “We’re going into the store to buy a present for Billy. I know sometimes that can feel hard, and it’s hard to focus,” Pressman said. That’s it.
You’re giving them space to grapple with what it feels like to not get their way, and you’re showing them that you expect them to get through it. It can be a pretty powerful lesson, particularly when it’s repeated often as a natural part of growing up.
Want To Avoid Raising Entitled Kids? Don’t Do These 4 Things.
Mother: White headmaster made Black son kneel during apology
The white headmaster of a New York Catholic school forced an 11-year-old Black student to kneel while apologizing to a teacher and later explained that the punishment was an "African way,” the boy's mother said.
Headmaster John Holian of St. Martin de Porres Marianist school on Long Island was placed on temporary leave after details of the Feb. 25 incident came to light, the Daily News reports.
Mother: White headmaster made Black son kneel during apology
Chuck Lorre's New CBS Sitcom Slammed for Handling of Afghan Character
Senior Teen Vogue staffer who supported ouster of new editor used N-word in tweets a decade ago... so will her woke colleagues now turn on her?
Straphanger urinates on Asian woman inside NYC subway car
Suspect bashed Asian woman with pipe during NYC attack
Man accused of attacking Asian woman and her daughter in Portland charged with hate crime
Woman arrested for hate crime, assault after hitting McDonald's employee in Mountain View
Elderly Man Left in Critical Condition After Unprovoked Attack on NYC Subway
Kentucky man who killed 2 Black customers at Kroger pleads guilty to federal hate crime charges
Investigators arrest members of alleged crime syndicate targeting Nashville Hispanic population
Italian bodybuilder, 30, admits killing both his parents because they asked him to take the family dog for a walk
The argument that led to the murder started when the father asked his son to get out of bed and take the family dog out for a walk.
When he refused an argument developed. Benno said: "Dad accused me of being a failure. I just wanted silence. So I shut him up."
Italian bodybuilder, 30,
Fort Lauderdale Honors Anti-LGBTQ+ Church; Gay Mayor Under Fire
The gay man who’s mayor of Fort Lauderdale, Fla., is getting a barrage of criticism for a proclamation honoring an anti-LGBTQ+ church and school.
Mayor Dean Trantalis presented a proclamation at Tuesday night’s City Commission meeting recognizing the 60th anniversary of the Coral Ridge Presbyterian Church and the 50th anniversary of its affiliated private school, Westminster Academy, the South Florida Gay News reports. Both were founded by anti-LGBTQ+ minister D. James Kennedy, who died in 2007. The proclamation designates this coming Sunday as Coral Ridge Presbyterian Church Day and Westminster Academy Day.
Fort Lauderdale Honors Anti-LGBTQ+ Church; Gay Mayor Under Fire
Gay Ft. Lauderdale mayor honors anti-LGBTQ church because they “changed.” Guess what happened next.
White House staffers asked to resign or work remotely after revealing past marijuana use
Several White House staffers were asked to resign, were suspended or are working remotely after revealing past marijuana use during their background checks, sources familiar with the situation tell CNN.
Five people are no longer employed at the White House, while additional staffers are working remotely. In many of the cases involving staffers who are no longer employed, additional security factors were in play, including for some hard drug use, the official said.
While marijuana use is legal in many states, it is still illegal on the federal level, which can present a hurdle in the federal security clearance process.
White House staffers asked to resign or work remotely after revealing past marijuana use
WH axes staffers over past pot use even though Kamala Harris has admitted she smoked it
Did Snoop Dogg smoke pot in White House?
Michelle Obama Talks Smoking Marijuana In New Memoir
Willie Nelson admits he smoked pot on ‘the roof of the White House’ during Jimmy Carter administration
A story about JFK explains the dangers of smoking weed in the White House
11 US Presidents Who Smoked Marijuana
No screaming on California roller coasters, state guidelines say
Theme parks in California are planning to reopen as early as next month, but thrill seekers may be forced to control their excitement while riding roller coasters.
The state's Attractions and Parks Association is recommending that park officials encourage riders to "mitigate the effects of shouting" on roller coasters and thrill rides to prevent the spread of COVID-19. Under the association's "responsible reopening plan" that was released in September, park officials can do so by requiring face masks and modifying the seating on rides.
No screaming on California roller coasters, state guidelines say
So if someone screams, they're dying. 19-Mar-2021
Why having kids doesn’t necessarily make you happier, according to research
Parents often refer to their children as their “pride and joy.” But research tells a different story: Having kids doesn’t necessarily make people happier.
Most parents feel that their children are incredibly important sources of life satisfaction, says Jennifer Glass, professor of sociology at the University of Texas at Austin and a demographer who studies the relationship between parenthood and well-being.
“But that’s not the same thing as happiness, and it’s not the same thing as financial well-being, good physical health or good emotional health,” Glass tells CNBC Make It.
So, why does having kids not provide the happiness that we think it will?
Why having kids doesn’t necessarily make you happier, according to research
Help! My Daughter Wants to Be a Single Mom but Expects Me to Help Raise Her Baby.
Q. Baby, not grandchild: Our oldest daughter is nearing 40 and frustrated by her lack of prospects in having a husband, a home, and a child. Her standards are profoundly high: must make six figures, be 6 feet tall, and no previous marriages or children. She is divorced herself. She is a very driven career woman and works 60 hour weeks regularly.
She announced to her father and me that she will be proceeding forward as a single mother and getting a sperm donation. We were happy but hesitant. That quickly turned to horror when our daughter told us she was looking to move back home with us. Her expectations were that I would be taking care of the baby while she continued her career normally. I love my children and I love my grandchildren, but I am done raising babies. My husband and I are nearing retirement and have plans that do not include diapers and midnight feedings.
We told our daughter this would not be possible and she became upset. She accused us of being “selfish” and denying her the chance of being a mother. My husband lost his temper and told her the only one who was being selfish here was her. She is the one making the choice to have a child and demanding everyone rearrange their lives over it. At this point, our daughter is no longer talking to us but is speaking to her siblings. She is proceeding with her plan and has an appointment at a clinic. If this works, this will be our first biological grandchildren (our son married a woman with older children). It breaks my heart that we might miss this. We tried reaching out to our daughter but no response. She can carry a grudge to the grave. What can we do here?
Help! My Daughter
Biden tells migrants 'don't come over' in ABC News exclusive interview

President Joe Biden said in an exclusive interview with ABC News' George Stephanopoulos on Tuesday that his message to migrants is "Don't come over."
Amid a surge of migrants and unaccompanied minors on the U.S. southern border, Stephanopoulos asked the president, "Do you have to say quite clearly, 'Don't come'?"
"Don't leave your town or city or community," he added.
Biden tells migrants 'don't come over' in ABC News exclusive interview
My grandchild is trans, what do I do?
“My granddaughter just informed me she has decided she would be happier living as a boy, and she has gone so far as to legally change her name,” the grandmother, labeling herself “Grandma in Pain” wrote. “I want to be supportive, but I admit I’m having a lot of trouble accepting it, or at least figuring out how to deal with it.”
“She’s my only grandchild and most likely the only one I’ll ever have,” Grandma in Pain continued. I loved my granddaughter with all my heart, and I don’t know how to shift gears to a grandson. I keep stumbling when I try to use the new name. I would welcome any suggestions you could make, including information about support groups you might know of.”
My grandchild is trans, what do I do?
Should I Abort My Pregnancy and Tell My Husband I Miscarried?
I am happily married, financially stable, and a mom of a beautiful, feral toddler. On a drunken night I convinced myself that I did, in fact, want a sibling for my toddler—quite the 180 from my staunch stance of being “one and done!” I’m now 10 weeks pregnant with my second child and plagued with nausea, vomiting, and most of all regret. Should I terminate this pregnancy and tell all (including my husband) that I miscarried? He, his parents, and my parents are all excited about baby No. 2. I, however, am completely disappointed in myself for having a lapse in judgment and thinking I would be OK with getting pregnant again.
—Thinking About Termination
Should I Abort My Pregnancy and Tell My Husband I Miscarried?
She bullied and insulted students for years; her Florida school let her keep teaching
By the time school administrators in Florida moved last year to fire Susan Oyer, the Boca Raton Middle School teacher had spent nearly a decade drawing harassment complaints from children and parents.
There were accusations she quarreled with students. That she mocked their grades and intelligence. That she used their race or nationality to demean them. That she threatened to sue them. That she revealed confidential information about them to their classmates.
Students reported she pushed a girl from behind. That she prohibited students from using the bathroom. That she belittled a girl for not being an American citizen and threatened to report her to immigration authorities.
She bullied and insulted students for years; her Florida school let her keep teaching
Fitness-obsessed dad made daughter sign ‘contract’ to never get fat
A fitness-obsessed British man made his daughter sign a lifelong “contract” promising to never get fat — and weighed her almost daily as he ruled his family with an iron first, according to a report.
Rachid Khadla, 56, faces charges of child cruelty and assault over his alleged treatment of his now-adult daughter, Amira, and sons, Hicham and Karim, Hyde News & Pictures reported.
“I, Amira Khadla, will never let myself get fat. I will do lots of exercise to make sure I will never get fat, even until I die,” Khadla’s daughter wrote in her 2012 agreement, a court heard.
Fitness-obsessed dad made daughter sign ‘contract’ to never get fat
NYC school encourages kids to stop using words like ‘mom,’ ‘dad’ in ‘inclusive language’ guide
A Manhattan private school aiming to use more “inclusive language” is encouraging its students to stop using the terms “mom,” “dad” and “parents” because the words make “assumptions” about kids’ home lives.
The Grace Church School in Noho — which offers academic courses for junior kindergarten through 12th grade — issued a 12-page guide to students and staff explaining the school’s mission of inclusivity.
NYC school encourages kids to stop using words like ‘mom,’ ‘dad’ in ‘inclusive language’ guide
We Can Raise Boys To Become Good Men By Treating Them Like Girls
When I was a kid in the 1970s, the “tomboy” was queen — or maybe king. Even a non-sporty girl like me was dressed in the unisex uniforms of white-piped track shorts, Keds, and t-shirts, just like my brother. The lesson I learned from my parents, peers, the media, and the passage of Title IX in 1972, was that I had legal right to everything culturally marked as “for boys.”
But the same access to girls’ worlds has still not been granted to boys. Despite the recent media focus on toxic masculinity, boys still feel insistent pressure to be violent, to shut down emotions, to watch porn, and to have sex even when they don’t want or aren’t ready to. They feel pressure to reject anything associated with what’s culturally marked as “feminine” — kindness, vulnerability, love, seeking help, let alone dolls and the color pink — and pressure to look down on girls and women. Boys learn that “girly” is an insult, and they must at all costs distance themselves from it.
We Can Raise Boys To Become Good Men By Treating Them Like Girls