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Love Too Much - Keane
The new relationship. 30-Aug-2019
Pop Is Crushing Hip-Hop in 2019, According to Hit Song Study
The number of new hip-hop songs reaching the Top 10 of the Billboard Hot 100 is dropping dramatically in 2019 as opposed to last year, according to “The State of the Hot 100 Top Ten,” a quarterly analysis of the compositional and industry trends issued by analysts Hit Songs Deconstructed.
While the study looks at just one element of the charts and year-to-year trends will be clearer in the full 2019 report, the drop in hip-hop is striking: Of the second quarter’s 15 new arrivals in the Top 10, just 34% were hip-hop as opposed to 60% last year — a drop of some 26% — while the percentage of pop new arrivals more than doubled to 49% from 23%. R&B/soul remained at 11% while other genres were 3% or below. The arrival of two new songs from Taylor Swift and one each from BTS and Ava Max certainly strengthened the pop category in Q2, although two new songs each from Drake and Khalid bolstered hip-hop and R&B, respectively.
DC Priest Found Guilty of Sexually Abusing Girls in Church
The Catholic priest accused of sexually abusing two children of his Washington, D.C., parish has been found guilty.
Urbano Vazquez was convicted Thursday on four felony counts of child sexual abuse.
Vazquez groped a 9-year-old girl and 13-year-old girl in 2016, two years after he was ordained as a priest in the Capuchin Franciscan religious order.
Katy Perry accused of sexual harassment by a second person
Audrina Patridge’s ex Corey Bohan addresses claims he sexually abused daughter
Senior Catholic Priest Says He’d Rather Go To Prison Than Name Confessed Paedophiles
NYPD suicide problem grows as eighth officer takes own life this year
A New York police officer killed himself Tuesday, marking the eighth NYPD suicide of the year and highlighting the persistent problem of suicide among police officers, according to the New York Times.
The officer who took his own life Tuesday has not been identified. He was a 35-year-old who had been an NYPD officer for seven years with no record of disciplinary issues.
Some of the most recent deadly US mass shootings
A gunman opened fire Saturday at a shopping mall in El Paso, Texas, killing at least 15 people .
A list of some of the deadliest mass shootings in the United States in the last two years:
— May 31, 2019: Longtime city worker DeWayne Craddock opened fire in a building that houses Virginia Beach government offices. He killed 12 people and wounded several others before he was gunned down by police.
A Texas officer kills a woman while shooting at an unrestrained dog, police say
We don't want to talk to kids about sex but we will allow them to assign whatever sex they like. When I was a kid I never thought about sex, even when I was being abused. I believe they should be allowed to express themselves but we shouldn't sway them either way and parents overreact when society views them. Loving them should come naturally. Putting so much pressure on it makes the media a bad parent. Why can't we accept that people will behave in a certain way when they have different beliefs. In the Bizzarro World my mother would have made me wear dresses because I played with a doll. I would have hated that. Pretending is not acquiescing. Eventually, they will hurt you. We need to encourage children to detach from negative people, not support them while they stab you in the back.
Parents destroy us but only the world can kill us. You want to create a better environment for LGBTQ youth to strive in, give them survival skills. Barking at other dogs isn't going to save them. You need to reach the wolves.
Hipitty-Hop and religion are notoriously hostile to LGBTQ yet we revere and turn the other cheek. God might strike us down and the black community will kill us. (We didn't struggle when they killed disco even though it spoke to our community.) So we keep going to Chick-fil-A and pretend that talking is finally singing. Why don't we hit what reverberates? Almost every gay white single has hip-hop listed as a preference but would never date anyone of color. We continue to masturbate to celebrities that hate us. We hate stereotypes but are constantly bombarded by them. We think commitment is a roommate and what's left over from a surrogate's abortion. We need to fix us to teach our children. We don't need coddling, we need action. My mother prays for everything while doing nothing. The world is ending...we can't save it...what do we do? (Give your kids some fucking books so they can become smart and solve that shit themselves.) Why are we making our lives more miserable to satisfy a kid of your kid I will never meet.
How about punishing parents who throw LGBTQ kids out into the street? It sounds like a crime. Start there. If parents raise a bully they should be fined and be required to attend parental classes. Fuck, make future parents get licenses to have kids.
If you're not going after the big guns, you are all hypocrites and your kids will continue to perish.
Campaigns shouldn't ring bells but bang drums... 01-Aug-2019
As a society we assign tremendous power to family esp. "the parents." I've never met these "mortals fantastic," generated from a Hollywood dream. Every parent is a composite of things well intentioned and future regrets. They know they can't be perfect therefore the excuses.
Mother: I was a single mother with no money fighting for our lives yet I found a way to clean them and feed them. Wilfred was his name.
Everybody applauded her and put her on a pedestal. It was an argument no child could win. The world was incapable of seeing her true self. She brewed a glow from a mother's sacrifice. We were branded silly little liars if my sister or I complained to an adult. Now, I am clinically insane so they wont believe my stories of abuse. Family first. Keep your witnesses close and the snitches chained.
She accepted my coming out with a "but" and a lifetime of attempts at changing it.
Mother: thank God you're not a flamer. I wouldn't know what to do with myself.
You mean it could have been worst?
She drugged me so I could sleep with a cousin while two other cousins and herself, watched and cheered. She had my lesbian aunt make out with my boyfriend and grind on him so no one would question anybody's sexuality. When I would break up with a boyfriend she'd scowl at me and tell me to get over it. It wasn't real love. It was two guys. My stepfather concurred. I sounded like a maniac rendering my feelings.
Mother: you should stop this shit now with the guys. Only a woman can make you happy.
I had to come out every time it didn't work out with a boy.
To everyone, she represented survival and progression. She accepted everyone. She was a goddess. She knew the power of a woman. She was not a threat to her brethren and she knew what a man wanted. She told me it was pretense. It was a secret between mother and son. She created a role fitting the person she was trying to mentally seduce from pieces scattered in her reality. She changed them. (OMG. That's Errattic.)
Blah, blah, blah...she's a monster.
I believe every person deserves respect. Every time the media latches onto the joy of parenting without consideration to how the child feels, it's inconsiderate. You are giving them the right to kill us. Almost every person I've ever met has been abused by their parents. We act like it's an anomaly. My mother told me she loved me everyday and did unimaginable things to me. She'd rather celebrate my failures than allow me a win.
Mother: I told you so.
The scary parents aren't going to be talking to experts about their skills. Experts are for the privileged. They have their own fuck-ups. These are the parents we are confusing and bullying to love everything about a kid. Just because they said "hello" doesn't mean that they will love you. Those parents are going to bolt the door and you will find out about the abuse when he or she is dead. That's dangerous.
We don't need scary people pretending. They will infiltrate your lives and wait for that moment to slice you because..."they told you so."
Teach the kids to run. It never gets better. "They never understood, they just accepted it."
In old age mother finds different but no less strategic ways to abuse. It always takes me back to the room where I cowered from her fists as a wee.
I wish society would allow us to shoo away the monster without guilt.
"It only takes one member to poison a family." 01-Aug-2019
‘Parenting expert’ says grandparents should ask their grandchildren for consent before hugging them
Parenting expert Jane Evans says that grandparents should receive verbal consent from their grandchildren before giving physical affection, such as hugging or kissing.
Evans made the remarks during Wednesday's broadcast of British daytime show "This Morning."
What are the details?
Evans, who appeared on the show to speak with hosts Ruth Langsford and Eamonn Holmes, said that grandparents asking consent to show physical affection can only benefit young children, encouraging them to "take control of their own bodies from a young age."
Why wealthy parents who bankroll their adult children are hurting them
For some wealthy parents, the pressure to extend their social and financial status to their adult children can be overwhelming.
The recent college admission scandal revealed shocking things parents were willing to do to secure spots at top schools. But those same motivations drive some parents to bankroll their kids' lives into early adulthood, often to the detriment of the family.
"How many times have we seen in wealthy families where the breadwinner is so inundated with making a living and providing for a family, that love, intimacy and closeness are shown through financial means," says Dr. Alex Melkumian, a psychologist and financial therapist.
Support that keeps a young person living above their means can undermine their independence and create deep insecurities.
Michelle Obama's advice to 1st-gen college students: 'You are faster, quicker, smarter, sharper'
Former first lady Michelle Obama has a message for students who are the first in their family to attend college.
"It’s going to be okay as long as you don’t quit," Obama told students Wednesday at her annual #BeatingtheOdds Summit for first-generation college students. "There are lesser people than you who have gone further."
Obama described being at "probably every powerful table there is to be at."
"Let me tell you," she told the students, "they’re not smarter than you. I’ve met these people."
Good Morning America
Research Shows High Prices Of Healthy Foods Contribute To Malnutrition Worldwide
First global examination of affordability of both healthy and unhealthy foods shows prices matter for diet and health outcomes
Poor diets are the now the leading risk factor for the global burden of disease, accounting for one-fifth of all deaths worldwide. While the causes of poor diets are complex, new research finds the affordability of more nutritious foods is an important factor.
A new study by researchers at the International Food Policy Research Institute (IFPRI) is the first to document that the affordability of both healthy and unhealthy foods varies significantly and systematically around the world. The study also suggests that these relative price differences help explain international differences in dietary patterns, child stunting and overweight prevalence among adults.
These Horrible Portion-Control Plates Are a Symptom of a Bigger Problem
Baseball Team's LGBTQ Pride Night Featured Chick-fil-A, Sean Spicer
The minor league Pawtucket Red Sox delivered a double header in bad taste Friday night, giving out free Chick-fil-A and having a former Trump administration official throw out the first pitch on Pride Night.
Sean Spicer, President Trump’s first press secretary, tossed the first pitch, according to The Boston Globe. Spicer appeared as a representative of the Independence Fund, a nonprofit that serves wounded veterans.
The former press secretary made no reference to Friday also being Pride Night at the stadium, but critics noticed.
“The PawSox are having Sean Spicer throw out the first pitch on Pride Night. What an insult to all their queer fans,” wrote Longreads sports columnist Britni de la Cretaz on Twitter.
New bill allows Oregon students to take 'mental health days'
Oregon will allow students to take "mental health days" just as they would sick days, expanding the reasons for excused school absences to include mental or behavioral health under a new law that experts say is one of the first of its kind in the U.S.
But don't call it coddling. The students behind the measure say it's meant to change the stigma around mental health in a state that has some of the United States' highest suicide rates. Mental health experts say it is one of the first state laws to explicitly instruct schools to treat mental health and physical health equally, and it comes at a time educators are increasingly considering the emotional health of students. Utah passed a similar law last year.
Oregon's bill, signed by Gov. Kate Brown last month, also represents one of the few wins for youth activists from around the state who were unusually active at the Capitol this year. Along with expanded mental health services, they lobbied for legislation to strengthen gun control and lower the voting age, both of which failed.
We speak to the gay men who pretended to be girls online to flirt with boys
Growing up in the closet can be an isolating experience. So, in the early days of social media, it’s little surprise that some gay men resorted to unorthodox methods to explore their attraction to other boys.
Thomas* is one of them. As a closeted teenager, he used to “catfish” boys by pretending to be a girl online. “I was really desperate and lonely,” he says, telling me that early social media sites such as Bebo were where he started this behaviour. “I’d add them over MSN Messenger and flirt. It was a thrill at the time, I guess, though I’m really ashamed of it now.”
Thomas says he was mostly interested in talking, but the boys he catfished would usually turn the conversation sexual. “It wouldn’t take long for the horny straight boys to ask for nude photos,” he says. “But I initially just wanted an outlet to talk to cute boys because I couldn’t. While all my friends were getting off with each other and going out, I just wanted someone to talk to me in the same way.”
“A LOT OF POWERFUL PEOPLE...COULD GO DOWN”: THE JOURNALIST WHO PUBLISHED JEFFREY EPSTEIN’S BLACK BOOK AND JET PASSENGER LOGS COMES IN FROM THE FRINGE
With Jeffrey Epstein denied bail and prosecutors building their case in his sex trafficking indictment, one of the next shoes to drop—possibly many shoes—will invariably be: Who within Epstein’s social orbit might be implicated in the scandal one way or another? As someone involved in litigation against Epstein told my colleague Gabriel Sherman earlier this week, “It’s going to be staggering, the amount of names. It’s going to be contagion numbers.”
Ever since Epstein’s arrest on July 6, there’s been growing scrutiny of his vast network of rich and/or famous and/or powerful friends and acquaintances—or former friends and acquaintances, as it were. There’s a road map to that network in Epstein’s now-infamous black book, filled with many bold-faced names, phone numbers, and addresses, from Donald Trump, Bill Clinton, and Ehud Barak to Alec Baldwin, Ralph Fiennes, Mick Jagger, and even Courtney Love. “It is a mosaic of Epstein’s social contacts,” the investigative journalist Nick Bryant told me.
Bryant first got his hands on a copy of the black book in 2012, after the feds caught Epstein’s former house manager trying to peddle it for $50,000. At the time, Bryant was shopping a feature on Epstein, without success. “My Epstein article would focus on the government malfeasance that enabled Epstein to skate on scores of child abuse charges,” Bryant wrote in a pitch he submitted to various editors, “and I would also look into covert ties that the government may have had with Epstein. Moreover, the little black book opens up multiple vistas of investigation, and I would attempt to amass sufficient corroboration on some of the power broker perps who molested these girls.”
9 Signs Your Daughter Might Be a Mean Girl
There's a mean girl in just about every school, clique, band, soccer team, religious education class, or carpool. This type of bullying is scary for parents, because we often worry that our sweet daughter is the subject of such relational aggression, but what if the tables are turned and your child is actually the mean girl? Would you be able to tell? Check out these telltale signs that your daughter may be taking her pack-leader status to straight-up tyranny.