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I love my husband but I can’t stop fantasizing about having sex with a stranger: Ask Ellie
Q: I’m a 50-something gay man, married to the man of my dreams, together for 10 years, married for seven. We have a great sex life. He’s adventuresome, kind, patient with me.
Yet I have a strong desire to have sex with someone else, preferably a person we don’t know. I have a wandering eye, and my husband knows and enjoys it, even pointing out attractive guys.
I’ve not told him about my secret desire. I hate cheaters. I’ve been cheated on and it’s devastating. He trusts me.
Yet I’m fantasizing about meeting a stranger and having sex. It even happens during our actual sex, which he thinks is just our natural heat.
I’m afraid that if I tell him, he’ll be hurt, think that what we have isn’t enough, and take that as his fault.
From the Straight Spouse’s Perspective of a Gay Man Having an Affair
My husband is having an affair with a man. We have four young children. He moved out quickly after I discovered the relationship. I am worried about him and I don’t know how to make this better for him and for us. His kids miss him. I honestly thought we had a happy and loving marriage. Do you have any advice for me? Or for him?
Thank you for sending your question, and I’ve written a lot about how the gay spouse proceeds through this process. I only occasionally hear from women or men who have been left behind. So in this response, I’m going to focus on you and them.
The Good Men Project
Why Is Iced Coffee So Gay?
A thorough investigation, because you deserve to know the truth.
A cup of iced coffee with a rainbow striped straw
In late January, during the Polar Vortex that held America by the throat with an icy grasp, a picture of a man wearing a massive coat with his hood up while battling his way through a snowstorm went viral. It sounds unremarkable, except that, in 2°F weather, he was death-gripping an iced coffee.
The picture, fairly innocuous aside from the man’s choice of caffeinated beverage, was shared by the City of New York’s Twitter feed and paired with an incredulous caption. How could an individual in this freezing weather, the tweet suggested, be drinking an iced coffee? It’s obvious, people responded: He’s gay.
Obviously there’s no way commenters could’ve known this man’s sexuality. Honestly, I’m not sure anyone even knows who he is. But none of that matters, after all; what was clear to the corner of the Internet known as Gay Twitter, and to the site Gay Star News, was that this man was just exercising his rights—nay, his duty—as a gay man to drink iced coffee. Iced coffee, you see, is gay culture [ed. note: can confirm].
Who cares about the coffee, I've been described as a suburban mom. 30-Apr-2019
Coming Out as a Gay Man With a Mental Illness
My experience with being a homosexual male and having schizoaffective disorder/generalized anxiety Disorder, is like having two dogs inside of my body, sometimes fighting each other just to accept their personal truths. Being queer with the rise of fascism in the United States is downright terrifying. I hear stories daily about all genders/non-genders being confronted and sometimes assaulted for the way they look, or simply for holding hands while walking.
I’ve known I was gay since I was 16, after getting my first girlfriend. We had a very close relationship, but sex just never worked out, and I didn’t know why. I felt terrible because I felt that I had let her down, and being 16 and unaware socially, that I had let myself down by not passing the stereotypical, toxic misconception of the sexual right of passage. We eventually broke up and I didn’t know where to turn, or who to turn to. My dad said he accepts me either way, but I still felt jilted in ways because I didn’t feel, “Normal.”
The Good Men Project
Excerpt: Why are Giraffes mostly homosexual?
Giraffes are beloved of evolutionary biologists for a number of reasons. They are, of course, the tallest of all living animals, and that elegant neck is the primary reason why. The origin of that beautiful neck has also been attributed to sexual selection. It is extravagant and slightly absurd, like a peacock’s tail, so it might be one of those runaway traits that we see exaggerated in males of so many sexual beasts. This is where the sex lives of giraffes gets interesting. The neck is certainly a major part of sexual and social behavior. Since 1958, the male-to-male wrestling that giraffes are often seen engaging in has been called “necking.” They curl their necks around each other and rut. It’s incredible to watch, the necks twisting and bending at almost right angles, the normal grace of these animals replaced by ungainly aggression and awkward legs, with none of the elegant power of two stags clashing antlers.
I’m Ugly. Will I Ever Stand a Chance in the Gay Dating World?
I’m 25, just moved back to my hometown, and on three dating apps with no years of relationship experience under my belt. Papi, the truth is I’m beginning to think I’m...ugly. I feel I have a lot to give, but when it comes to getting a boyfriend, I’m scared I don’t look the part. I know it might sound shallow, but it’s all I can think about right now. What should I do, and will I ever find love?
You're more likely to have sex if any of these factors apply to you
There are numerous identifiable factors that can contribute to people having more sex, according to a new study.
UK researchers published their findings in the Sexual and Reproductive Health Journal last month. It looked at the sexual habits of 3,000 British men and 3,800 British women aged 50 and over.
They then analyzed certain sociodemographic and behavioural factors and found you’re more likely to have more previous sexual partners if you’re:
A gay man
Gay Star News
Grindr is being used by gay men to sell and buy drugs, says new report
NBC OUT released a new report that details how gay men are using Grindr to sell and buy drugs. The article features the accounts of a dozen men who recount their experiences with drugs on the popular dating app.
Here are a few of them:
“The issue with drugs has been a gay community plague since the ‘80s, but in the modern era, you don’t need a guy who knows a guy. All you need to do is open up your app and look for that capital ‘T.’”-Derrick Anderson, a Grindr user from Chicago
“Today with Grindr, men can have sex and drugs delivered to their door instantly. I think it’s gotten worse in the past couple of years. The apps are making it easier for people to find him.” – Phil McCabe, social worker and president of the National Association of LGBT Addiction Professionals
“Drugs were always sprinkled throughout the app, but now it’s nothing like before. Of course drug sales are happening on other dating apps, but at a fraction.” – George, a Grindr user in New York
“It gives me more clientele than I would normally get on the street.” – Mike, a teaching assistant in New York City who also sells drugs
The article also profiles how drugs users and sellers use various code words and emojis in headlines and profile descriptions to describe what drugs they are looking for or selling. For instance, a diamond is used to represent meth, while a snowman is used to represent cocaine.
The HIV-positive man who stopped thousands getting the virus
Greg Owen wanted a new drug, not available through the NHS, that would stop him becoming HIV-positive. But it was too late - he already had the virus. Despite this, he and a friend worked on an ambitious plan to help thousands of others get the new treatment.
"You know when you do one thing… when your whole life changes? Pressing that send on Facebook was actually the moment my whole life changed."
Greg Owen grew up in Belfast, the eldest of six children. It was the 1980s, the height of the Troubles, and he was, as he puts it, "very gay".
The Next Time You Crave Chicken, Remember That Chick-fil-A Is Still Very Much Anti-Gay
In September 2012, after years of publicly opposing same-sex marriage and donating millions to anti-LGBTQ groups, Chick-fil-A — the Christian-founded fast-food chain known for their chicken sandwiches and billboards of half-literate cows encouraging folks to “EAT MOR CHIKIN” — said that it had “ceased donating to organizations that promote discrimination, specifically against LGBT civil rights.”
According to ThinkProgress, the Chick-fil-A Foundation’s most recent IRS filings from 2015 reveal hundreds of thousands in donations to anti-LGBTQ groups. They gave $1 million to the Fellowship of Christian Athletes, a religious organization with “a strict ‘sexual purity’ policy, prohibiting any ‘homosexual acts.'”
They also donated $200,000 to the Paul Anderson Youth Home, a Georgia-based group that runs a “Christian residential home for troubled youth.” The organization believes that the “sexual, physical and mental abuse of children” resulted in “the explosion of homosexuality in the last century.”
Meet the gay designer of men’s tights who wants to let your bulge breathe
Among aficionados of men’s tights, there’s one designer to name-drop these days: Jeffrey Scott.
Known simply as the ‘TightsGuy’ online, Scott is building a brand as a bespoke designer of stretchy tights, leggings and singlets for men.
Gay Star News
Thinking About a ‘Scrotox’ Procedure? You May Want to Check This Out First
Some men are getting botox injected into their junk to smooth out wrinkles and make them hang lower.
The procedure, informally known as “scrotox”, makes the balls extend and improves some people’s sex life according to Dr. John Mesa, who performed the procedure on Grant Stoddard, a TONIC reporter.
21 hot gay Instagram travelers giving us serious wanderlust this week
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Gay Star News
One of the boys
Everybody knows that being a teen isn’t easy. Being a gay teen is even harder which Vanessa R. Panfil, a white lesbian and author of “The Gang’s All Queer,” knew.
Her work in a Columbus, Ohio, LGBT center for young adults showed her realities beyond what she’d lived herself and it sparked an interest in gang membership within the community. She already knew a handful of gay gang members. After she gained their trust, those men introduced her to a web of people who opened their world to her.
When most people think of gangs, they picture tattoos and machismo. Panfil found some of the latter, but that was often used as cover for sexual identity. Many (though far from all) of the men she interviewed kept closeted to their fellow gang members. Panfil says there are three distinct kinds of gangs: all-gay gangs, of which there aren’t many; heterosexual gangs, in which being gay could be dangerous; and more tolerant, easy-going “hybrid” gangs in which the mix of gay and straight could be up to half of each.
The history of LGBTQ people isn’t being taught in our schools
Understanding LGBTQ history beyond Harvey Milk and Stonewall.
“Everyone in the world needs to know about this. This can change the world,” a 12th grade student named Mohammad told his social studies teacher at the time, Deb Fowler.
Mohammad shared these thoughts after Fowler’s LGBTQ-inclusive history lesson during the 2014-2015 school year, but she learned later that the class continued to shape his perspective on the LGBTQ community. She said a couple years after he went to college, she caught up with Mohammad and he shared a story with her. He told her that he had two close male friends and that one of the men came out as gay.
“The third young man completely disassociated from the friend who came out as gay,” Fowler said. “Mohammad said to me that because of what he had learned in our class, he could understand his friend better and that they became even closer. That is the point of this. It’s to create better connections between friends and safer schools and communities.”