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From the Straight Spouse’s Perspective of a Gay Man Having an Affair
My husband is having an affair with a man. We have four young children. He moved out quickly after I discovered the relationship. I am worried about him and I don’t know how to make this better for him and for us. His kids miss him. I honestly thought we had a happy and loving marriage. Do you have any advice for me? Or for him?
Thank you for sending your question, and I’ve written a lot about how the gay spouse proceeds through this process. I only occasionally hear from women or men who have been left behind. So in this response, I’m going to focus on you and them.
The Good Men Project
Should you text with your boss?
Having your phone blow up with texts from your boss is enough to get your heart racing.
Text messages tend to carry a heavier sense of urgency than an email or instant message -- whether that's the intent or not.
While you might be comfortable texting in your personal life, not everyone is open to using it for workplace communications.
Managers and their employees should set expectations of how they prefer to communicate in and out of the office. Some workers might find texting easier than emails or phone calls, while others might find it too invasive.
People are sloppier and lazier when it comes to texting"
"Have a conversation to determine preferences and reach an agreement on when you are going to use what form of communication," said Marie McIntyre, a career coach and author of "Secrets to Winning at Office Politics."
Do you consider your home a great investment? Think again
Your home may be many things. A place to raise your family. An opportunity to put down roots.
But one thing it is not is a great investment, according to Jonathan Clements, editor of HumbleDollar.com and author of “How to Think About Money.”
That’s because the price appreciation of a house is “pretty modest” — about 1% a year faster than inflation, historically speaking, he said.
Freddie Mac is forecasting home prices will grow 3.6% in 2019 and 2.6% in 2020. According to the latest figures from the Labor Department, the inflation rate as tracked by the Consumer Price Index is 2% for the 12 months ending in April.
“You put it all together and most people are not keeping up with inflation after costs, and they may even be underwater, ” said Clements, who prefers the higher long-term rate of return of the stock market.
"You cannot find a soulmate," relationship expert Belinda Luscombe says
It's well known that love, respect and trust are all crucial components for a strong marriage, but a new book suggests that science plays an important role, too.
Belinda Luscombe, author of "Marriageology: The Art and Science of Staying Together," shared what her research reveals about what can help strengthen a relationship.
One of Luscombe's major findings may come as a surprise: She says you'll never meet your soulmate.
"You cannot find a soulmate," she said Tuesday on "CBS This Morning." "The search for a soulmate is like searching for the only one pair of trousers that would make you happy."
To The Left! How To Tell When You’ve Reached A Relationship Dead End
Have you been dating someone for a while and, even though you both agreed to be exclusive or continue out your “situationship,” you feel like everything just flatlined? You wonder, “should I keep trying or is time to cut your losses?”
Here are 7 things to consider to help you decide whether it’s worth sticking it out or if it’s time to move on
1. Your Time Isn’t Being Valued
How to Find a LGBTQ-Affirming Therapist
Finding the right therapist—someone you trust, someone you like, someone you click with—is important for anyone to ensure their therapy is effective. But for those who identify as LGBTQ, finding a therapist who is LGBTQ or LGBTQ-affirming is critical for creating a safe, supportive space.
Rosemary Donahue writes for Them that after a taking a decade-long break from awful, ineffective experiences with therapy, she realized that finding an LGBTQ-affirming therapist might be the key.
So Donahue collected a variety of resources for others in the queer community who may be in need (or want) of an LGBTQ or -affirming therapist.
Ask Amy: Recovering mom doesn't want dog at home
Dear Amy: For the past 2 ½ years my son (now 9) has been asking for a dog. I’ve been saying no because while I like dogs, I prefer them in other people’s houses.
I didn’t want to take on the considerable expense and care for a dog.
Four months ago, I had a brain aneurysm. Thankfully, I am OK and recovering. However, during my recovery in the hospital I thought I was dying and that it would be a good idea for my son to have a dog to love and care for in the event that I did die.
I was coming off of anesthesia and on a lot of pain medication. I feel confident in saying that at the time, I was not in my right mind.
UK pet owner investigated after dog kills 9-year-old boy
Expert reveals the warning signs of male mental health issues including the loss of appetite and struggling to sleep - and the practical steps you can take to help
Male mental health is once again in the news following the suicide of Love Island star Mike Thalassitis, who was just 26-years-old when he tragically took his own life last week.
But while many of us are concerned about how it might affect the men in our lives, we might not be aware of the warning signs we should be looking out for.
Dr Mark Winwood, director of psychological services at AXA PPP healthcare, from the UK, speaks exclusively to Femail about the red flags that might give you cause for concern, and what steps you can take if you recognise any in your loved ones.
Dr Winwood says that your boyfriend or husband could act out of character, or display a range of varying emotions:
'It could be anger, irritability and aggressiveness, or they could struggle to show or feel positive emotions.
Psychology Explains 10 Ways To Let Go of Worry
Stress can be debilitating, but it doesn’t have to be. We all deal with stressful situations in life, but some of us know the secret to overcoming these struggles. As you learn how to let go of these stressful moments and feelings, you’ll be able to live life to the fullest.
HOW TO LET GO OF WORRYING
It’s impossible to eliminate all stress from our lives, but we can all do a better job of learning how to manage stress and handle our own fears.
If you’re ready to learn how to let go of your anxiety, keep reading.
1. IDENTIFY THE CAUSE
Figuring out why you’re worried is the first part of letting go of your anxiety.
Power of Pos
I’m Ugly. Will I Ever Stand a Chance in the Gay Dating World?
I’m 25, just moved back to my hometown, and on three dating apps with no years of relationship experience under my belt. Papi, the truth is I’m beginning to think I’m...ugly. I feel I have a lot to give, but when it comes to getting a boyfriend, I’m scared I don’t look the part. I know it might sound shallow, but it’s all I can think about right now. What should I do, and will I ever find love?
Science Says Doing These 11 Things Will Help Love Grow In Your Relationship
If you're looking for ways to help love grow in your relationship, you're in luck. There are all sorts of things you can do as a couple, and new habits you can adopt, to make your bond stronger. And what's even better is these tips can be applied at any time, during any stage of your relationship.
They can be a great way to keep your love going, throughout the years. But they're especially helpful if you happen to be feeling disconnected, unsure, or unhappy. "Many couples get into set routines and the relationship turns stale and predictable. Then, they grow apart," Jonathan Bennett, relationship and dating expert at Double Trust Dating, tells Bustle. "It’s always possible to increase your bond with your partner and there are many ways you can accomplish it."
How Parents Are Robbing Their Children of Adulthood
Helicopter parenting, the practice of hovering anxiously near one’s children, monitoring their every activity, is so 20th century. Some affluent mothers and fathers now are more like snowplows: machines chugging ahead, clearing any obstacles in their child’s path to success, so they don’t have to encounter failure, frustration or lost opportunities.
Taken to its criminal extreme, that means bribing SAT proctors and paying off college coaches to get children in to elite colleges — and then going to great lengths to make sure they never face the humiliation of knowing how they got there.
Dear Therapist: My Boyfriend’s Depression Is Making Me Question Our Future Together
My boyfriend and I are in our early 20s, and we recently moved in together after being in a long-distance relationship for four years. I've always known that he battles depression and has mild Asperger’s. Recently, his depression has gotten much worse, and because this is the first time he has gotten very depressed since we’ve been physically together, I have no idea what I’m doing. It is like I’m walking on eggshells every time we speak, and if I say the wrong thing, he just shuts down. I can’t push him for information or try to get him to help me with something around the house. I can barely get a normal conversation. I feel so alone.
How sexual fantasies affect your relationship
The beginning of a relationship is exciting. You get to learn more about a beautiful person who wants to learn more about you at the same time. You both get the opportunity to make an increasingly deep connection with one another. But relationships can't stay in this exciting phase forever. Eventually, things slow down, less effort is put in, and interest might start to wane. However, it may be possible to restore excitement and interest in a long-term relationship.
Gurit Birnbaum and colleagues conducted a four-part study that examined how sexual fantasies affect relationships. Specifically, they looked at two types of sexual fantasies: dyadic fantasies—those that involve the other partner in the relationship—and extradyadic fantasies—fantasies that focus on some other person outside of the relationship. They found that by fantasizing about our significant others, we desire them more and behave in ways that strengthen the relationship.
Cargill ground beef recall after E. coli outbreak kills 1, sickens 17
More than 132,000 pounds of possibly tainted ground beef sold nationwide is being recalled in an E. coli outbreak that has killed one person and sickened 17 others, the U.S. Department of Agriculture said Wednesday.
Cargill Meat Solutions, a division of the nagribusiness giant Cargill, is recalling approximately 132,600 pounds of ground beef products made from the chuck portion of carcasses that may be contaminated with E. coli, the USDA's Food Safety and Inspection Service, or FSIS, said in a statement.
Needle found in mango in latest chapter of Australia fruit crisis
Measles cases have hit a record high in Europe. Blame austerity.
Puppies to blame for drug-resistant infection in 118 people
Celebrated food researcher to step down after research is questioned