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I’ve Talked With Teenage Boys About Sexual Assault for 20 Years. This Is What They Still Don’t Know
I thought I understood rape. It happened to me when I was 13 years old. I assumed my job was to model survivorship, and to show readers how to speak up after being abused, molested or attacked. I thought I was supposed to talk to the girls.
But I have also seen something that, at first, surprised me: The boys want to talk, too. Some want a private conversation; others ask bold questions in front of their classmates.
How sexual fantasies affect your relationship
The beginning of a relationship is exciting. You get to learn more about a beautiful person who wants to learn more about you at the same time. You both get the opportunity to make an increasingly deep connection with one another. But relationships can't stay in this exciting phase forever. Eventually, things slow down, less effort is put in, and interest might start to wane. However, it may be possible to restore excitement and interest in a long-term relationship.
Gurit Birnbaum and colleagues conducted a four-part study that examined how sexual fantasies affect relationships. Specifically, they looked at two types of sexual fantasies: dyadic fantasies—those that involve the other partner in the relationship—and extradyadic fantasies—fantasies that focus on some other person outside of the relationship. They found that by fantasizing about our significant others, we desire them more and behave in ways that strengthen the relationship.
Your Mother’s Romantic Past Affects Your Own Dating Adventures
Some people have their mother’s eyes. And some, it turns out, grow up to have their mother’s romantic history.
People whose mothers have been married multiple times or have lived with multiple romantic partners are more likely to do so themselves, according to a new study published Tuesday in the journal PLoSOne. The longer people are exposed to their mother’s cohabitation, the more sexual partners they tend to have.
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The authors looked at data from surveys of thousands of Americans followed for 24 years.
The argument against having close friends at work
Given the amount of time we spend at work, relationships are bound to form.
And that's a good thing. Having friends at work can increase job satisfaction, performance and productivity, research shows.
But you might want to avoid becoming too close with your colleagues.
"You don't need to be best buds," said Amy Cooper Hakim, an industrial-organizational psychology practitioner and workplace expert. "You want to be kind, professional and nice. But we don't need to tell every person at work our deep dark secrets, and long-term goals and dreams."
Experts Explain Why LGBTQ People Have More Eating Disorders
While the National Eating Disorder Association reports that the LGBTQ community is disproportionately plagued by eating disorders, experts are saying that being a minority contributes to this dilemma.
Dr. Norman H. Kim, national director for program development at Reasons Eating Disorder Center, believes that queer people are drawn to unhealthy eating habits because of minority stress. Behaviors such as binging, purging, and undereating are a symptom of chronic social stress LGBTQ people experience as minorities, he told Stylecaster.
The rates at which queer people are having this reaction to being otherized are alarming.
'Sexually transmitted debt' is something you can catch from your partner
There's another kind of STD floating around.
It's a nasty financial bug you can pick up from your partner: Sexually transmitted debt. And it may well amount to an epidemic, according to Finder.com.
Sexually transmitted debt is where one person in a relationship becomes responsible for their partner's financial debt usually after being convinced or misled into taking on debt in their own name.
If you’re wondering why you’ve lost friends in adulthood, this is probably why
What a lot of people don’t appear to understand is that the single easiest way to make friends is to show up when it matters — and the single easiest way to lose friends is to, well, not.
That sounds obvious, but a pattern I’ve observed again and again among the people in my social circle (a social circle that skews young and urban, to be clear) is that they often don’t have close, meaningful friendships. They want them, but they aren’t willing to go out of their way to dedicate time and effort to developing these relationships.
How Sex Robots Could Revolutionize Marriage—for the Better
With sexual needs outsourced to robots, marriages could become stronger than ever.
Technological change invariably brings social change. We know this to be true, but rarely can we make accurate predictions about how social behavior will evolve when new technologies are introduced. For example, no one should have been surprised that improvements in birth control technologies spawned more sexually permissive societies. But could anyone really have predicted that making it easier for women to control their fertility would lead to dramatic increases in births to unmarried women as a direct result of the loosening sexual mores that new birth control methods brought on? Likewise, early adopters probably knew that improvement in home production technologies would liberate women from household drudgery. But could they have known that the microwave oven would eventually contribute to societies’ more accepting attitudes toward same-sex marriage? Just as these technologies were catalysts for unintended social consequences, we should expect that the proliferation of robots designed specifically for human sexual gratification means that sexbot-induced social change is on the horizon.
Red states will lose the most in trade war with China: Citigroup
The U.S. officially implemented tariffs on Chinese imports, to which China immediately retaliated to with levies of its own.
This tit-for-tat trade war would mostly impact states that voted “overwhelmingly” in favor of Trump in 2016 as they possess “jobs and output significantly affected by tariffs,” says Dana Peterson, Citi's North America economist.
She notes, “80 percent of ‘red’ states produce goods subject to retaliatory tariffs totaling 10 percent or more of GDP, compared to 10 percent of ‘blue’ states.”
‘Stashing’ is the latest disturbing dating trend
Is your significant other not introducing you to his friends or family members? Congratulations — you’ve been stashed.
“Stashing” is the latest crappy relationship trend making couples miserable. It’s when one partner hides their better half from loved ones and doesn’t post about the relationship on social media.
...or maybe he doesn't want to ruin his relationship because his family is scary. You can always ask. 07-Jun-2018
This Teacher Went on a Rant About Parents' "Bizarrely Lenient Attitude," and Well, She's Not Wrong
Erin Axson, a middle school teacher and mom of three from South Carolina, admits that by the end of the year, she felt completely exhausted. And although she's aware that having three kiddos and a demanding job is a solid recipe for burnout, she's certain that's not the crux of the issue. In a now-viral Facebook post, Erin explained exactly why she's dog-tired — and parents might not like the reason.
"This school year has left me feeling depleted, defeated, and unsure of my place in my little corner of the world. Rather than throw in the towel, I thought I'd do some digging and try to get to the bottom of my feelings," she said. "I was surprised by my findings, and what initially provided me some twisted form of comfort — knowing I wasn't the only teacher feeling this way quickly turned into fear for our society's future."
These ‘harmless’ signs could mean your kids are spoiled brats
Former Facebook Exec: 'You Don’t Realize It But You Are Being Programmed'
Last month, Facebook’s first president Sean Parker opened up about his regrets over helping create social media as we know it today. “I don’t know if I really understood the consequences of what I was saying, because of the unintended consequences of a network when it grows to a billion or 2 billion people and it literally changes your relationship with society, with each other,” Parker said. “God only knows what it’s doing to our children’s brains.”
Chamath Palihapitiya, former vice president of user growth, also recently expressed his concerns. During a recent public discussion at the Stanford Graduate School of Business, Palihapitiya—who worked at Facebook from 2005 to 2011—told the audience, “I think we have created tools that are ripping apart the social fabric of how society works.”
Thanksgiving Text Hotline Offers Lessons, Responses To Racist White Family Members
A nationwide network of white Americans hoping to weed out support for white supremacy has set up a free texting service, the SURJ Holiday Mobile Hotline, to help people respond and report racist Thanksgiving conversations.
Last year, the Showing Up For Racial Justice (SURJ) network set up a similar service to text “SOS” in case unruly family members or friends attempted to bring up their support of then-President Elect Donald Trump or bigoted conversation topics. This Thanksgiving and holiday season, the group has expanded the free texting service to call out any openly racist white family members disrupting Thanksgiving dinner. The service hopes to "break silence about race in this country," according to the group website.
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3 Steps White Christians Must Take to Fight Racism and Intolerance
The World Needs LGBTQ Heroes (Real and Fictional) Now More Than Ever
If this were a book, this is about the time the hero would be born. Right on the edge of the tipping point, when things go from bad to abysmal. A shining light, a beacon in the darkness, that sort of thing. Someone to pull the world forward, back into balance.
It’s easy to think that hero isn’t going to come. Because this isn’t a book — this is real life, and we don’t have magical or genetic superpowers to get us through the dark. (At least not to my knowledge.) It’s easy to believe that all those stories we read as kids were nonsense. Instead, I think those stories are more important than ever. Not only because they are metaphors on how to overcome evil, but because they show us that the world doesn’t just need heroes — it wants them. And a good story will show us that anyone can take that role.
Americans have always hit their kids. Now, the majority of research says it’s time to stop.
In the U.S., more than 160,000 school children were beaten with a paddle during the 2013-2014 academic year. It was 50% more likely to happen to black children or kids with disabilities. Nineteen states still allow physical punishment in schools and, in 2012, more than 70% of Americans agreed that it is sometimes necessary to give a child a “good, hard spanking.” The United States is the only country in the United Nations that hasn’t ratified the 1989 U.N. Convention on the Rights of the Child.
Why? Probably because Article 19 says that children must be protected from “all forms of physical or mental violence.”
Research says it needs to stop.
The truth is, Americans are very much in favor of spanking. That’s despite decades of strong evidence that it puts kids at risk for serious psychological and developmental issues, and with no real silver lining.