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Men Always Make the Exact Same Comment to Me After Sex
Dear How to Do It,
I’m a fiftysomething straight woman. Throughout my dating life, I’ve had men comment on the “tightness” of my vagina over and over. I know that women will tell men that they’re big or well-endowed as a compliment, but do men do the same with women? Tell them that the fit is tight or snug, even if it’s not? I’ve recently started seeing someone new, and he constantly remarks on my “tightness.” I can’t ask my girlfriends about this because who is going to say that they are loose? And what defines loose, anyway? And what defines tightness? When I first started having sex, it took several sessions before my boyfriend was able to achieve full entry. Sex has never been painful since then, and I’ve also given birth. My doctor has never noted anything out of the ordinary during routine exams. I do Kegels regularly if that makes a difference, and I’ve had various sizes of penises over the years that fit comfortably. I’ve only turned down one, and that one was way too big (he was OK with that). Obviously, it’s not something that one can brag about, but what do men mean when they say this? I guess it’s a compliment—but is it, really?
Men Always Make the Exact Same Comment to Me After Sex
'I am not a superwoman': Guardian readers on being childfree (or not)
How things are set up makes it an utterly shit gig for women. The last time I even considered marrying was 14 years ago. I’d been dating a guy for a few months (who had three kids I’d been cooking for). One day I found myself in his bathroom cleaning the toilet. It was like being slapped awake. How did I get here? I called him into the bathroom and he laughed, genuinely delighted, and said: I knew if I let it get nasty enough you’d clean it! He was serious. It was in that moment I realized what the marriage/kids gig really was: ceaseless servitude. – Kay, North Carolina
Over the years, I have been amazed at the outright rude comments made about my choice. A nurse once told me directly that my marriage would never be a real family because I had no children. People who have traveled a traditional path often seem to feel so threatened by those who choose a different route. Why would they care about my choice, when I certainly don’t care about theirs? – Marie, Tennessee
I was eight years old when I made the decision that I was never going to have children. As a mixed-ethnicity person in a predominantly white town I had just been racially abused, and right there I made the decision I would never bring a child into this world to face that abuse. – Natalie, England
'I am not a superwoman': Guardian readers on being childfree (or not)
Family gives away 14-year-old’s belongings for taking car on joyride
I’m a Conservative Woman Who Doesn’t Believe in Casual Sex
I’m horny constantly.
Dear How to Do It,
I am a single conservative woman in her 30s. I became a widow at the age of 30, and since then have only been involved with one other man. I firmly believe that sexual relations should occur only within the bonds of a committed relationship. However, I literally spend hours each day thinking about sex. Can a celibate person have a sex addiction?
My Husband and My Neighbor Are Bullying Me Into a Threesome
A YouTuber and her friend who got sick at Disney World's reopening are being criticized for ignoring medical advice to go to the hospital after 'violently vomiting'
Two Disney World fanatics who live-streamed their trip to the Orlando theme park's reopening over the weekend are receiving intense backlash for vacationing amid a pandemic and continuing to explore the park after one fell ill.
YouTuber Tonya Blakey, known as That Crazy Disney Lady to her 9,500 subscribers, streamed over 10 hours of footage of her trip to the Magic Kingdom on Friday and Saturday. In the videos, she and her friend, Robin, wandered the grounds, rode Splash Mountain, and experienced a brief health scare.
North Carolina Takeout Customer Refuses to Wear Mask, Invokes 'Trump 2020'
Shoppers are suing over mandatory mask rules, but doctors don’t buy it
Anti-mask activists rally in virus hotbed Florida
'People are dying, and you are doing nothing!' Florida governor Ron DeSantis is heckled as coronavirus cases soar and experts say Florida is the 'new' Wuhan
'No one is safe until everyone is safe': Vaccine nationalism threatens global coronavirus effort
Why I don't have a child: society isn't built for motherhood
I was 31 the last time I got pregnant. And after a lifetime of certainty that I did not want to be a mother, I felt an unexpected thing, cutting through the panic and the nausea: happiness.
Every morning since an intuitive nudge sent me to fetch a pregnancy test from the drugstore, my breasts oddly sore and my stomach in a low-level but constant state of turbulence, I would wake up with the thought: “I can do this. I want to do this.”
By the time I fell asleep at night, I was sure there was no possible way I could do this, this being raising a child on my own.
There has been a lot of hand-wringing about declining birth rates, the lowest in more than 30 years, across all race and class divides. We’re told millennial women “choosing” not to have children will be bad for the economy, it will be bad for the ageing baby boomer population, it will be bad for the real estate market. According to Forbes, it’s bad for older women desperate for grandchildren. But are people actually deciding to delay families, or are they finding themselves in unstable situations where the addition of a child seems unworkable? The reasons given when op-ed writers bother to ask millennials – too much debt, not enough financial security, a romantic market that is as rocky as the job market – point more to the latter.
If everyone makes it into the world safely, things that used to be taken for granted are now scarce resources one might fight and compete for. Vitally important systems like decent childcare, education and healthcare has disappeared, leaving parents to choose between inadequate choices or sacrificing untold amounts of money, time and energy to compete the limited amount of something better.
Mom’s Super Honest Post About Being a Stay-at-Home Parent Goes Viral
'Vile-Mouthed' Son Forced to Apologize After Harassing Supermarket Employees
My Neighbors Keep Sending Their Grandkid Over to Use Our Pool Uninvited
French man accused of molesting 305 Indonesian children
The New Film Exposing Hollywood’s Child-Abuse Epidemic
Drama queen! Hilarious moment girl cries and claims father's hair-brushing hurts - before he has even started
Her Landlord Asked To Spend The Night With Her After She Lost Her Job And Couldn’t Afford Rent
When Gail Savage’s landlord messaged asking her if she would “stay all night” with him, she assumed he’d texted the wrong number.
“I was like, He probably meant to send that to his girlfriend,” Savage, 29, told BuzzFeed News.
A single mom to 2-year-old son Salem, Savage lost her job working as a bartender at a popular Indianapolis cocktail bar and her gigs working as a burlesque performer when the state shutdown occurred on March 16. She’d let her landlord know and they’d been texting about how she was waiting for the federal stimulus check to arrive to pay her April rent, when he suddenly inquired if she could get a ride and “stay all night” with him.
“I don’t know if you meant to send that to me,” she replied.
“I did,” he wrote back, in text messages seen by BuzzFeed News.
McDonald’s Workers File $500 Million Sexual Harassment Lawsuit
On Monday, two women in Sanford, Florida filed a $500 million sexual harassment lawsuit against McDonald's, in hopes of addressing the company's alleged “systemic sexual harassment problem.” Jamelia Fairley, 24, who currently works at the Sanford, Florida location and Ashley Reddick, 28, a former employee, filed their class action lawsuit at a federal court in Chicago, Illinois, where McDonald’s headquarters is located. According to a press release detailing their suit, the two plaintiffs are seeking damages on behalf of not only themselves, but 5,000 women working at more than 100 corporate-run McDonald’s restaurants in Florida as of 2016.
Malaysia urges women to wear make-up and 'stop nagging' their husbands in 'sexist' ad campaign on how to avoid domestic disputes during coronavirus lockdown
Malaysian authorities have advised women to wear make-up and avoid nagging their husbands during the coronavirus lockdown, sparking accusations of sexism.
The south-east Asian nation has ordered its 32million people to stay at home to stem the spread of the coronavirus, which has infected more than 2,700 people there.
One showed a picture of a couple hanging up clothes together next to a caption that advised women to 'avoid nagging' their husbands.
Another post said women should imitate the squeaky voice of Doraemon, a cartoon robot cat from Japan that is popular across Asia.
Sexual assault is a consequence of how society is organized
The Department of Education is about to release new rules about how schools must deal with sexual harassment, stalking, and sexual assault. There's a lot that's disastrous about this interpretation of Title IX, which is supposed to promote equal access to education for women.
But what's largely missing from both the rules and the flood of public criticism they are generating is a discussion about prevention. This is typical of the national discourse about sexual assault on campus and beyond, and of the broader conversations in this era of #MeToo. The singular focus on adjudication reflects two assumptions.
The first is that victims frequently fabricate claims of sexual assault; all the evidence suggests that false accusations are rare. The second is that sexual assaults happen because of "bad" or "sociopathic" people. The only way to deal with them is through punishment harsh enough to strike sufficient fear into those who commit or want to commit assaults.
But what if the most sexual assaults were “normal”? Not in the sense that it’s acceptable, but in the sense that it’s often something that everyday people do— a predictable, if awful, a consequence of how society is organized. In doing the research for our book, Sexual Citizens, that’s exactly what we found. And there’s an important consequence to this finding: we’re not going to punish our way out of these normal assaults.
Parents may object that talking about sex is awkward, or that it's the children themselves who shut down the conversations. But many parents are frequently the source of much discomfort.
When they choose words like "hoo-hoo" or "pee-pee" instead of vulva and penis, they are communicating that some body parts are unspeakably shameful. Children learn very early that sex is not something they can talk about, especially with their families.
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Nicki Minaj’s Husband Registers As Sex Offender In California After Being Arrested For Allegedly Failing To Do So
A Study About ‘The Perfect Penis’ Reveals Women Are Actually a Lot Like Gay Men
A few years ago, Dr. Nicole Prause found herself with 33 blue, 3-D-printed penises and the desire to obtain data about the “perfect penis” — more specifically, about women’s preferences in the penis size of their sex partners.
The results of her “perfect penis” study — in which 75 women were given the fake penises, each of which was a different length and girth, and asked to pick the most appealing — were later released by UCLA and the University of New Mexico. Those results were as follows: Most women’s “perfect penis” (something which Prause insists doesn’t actually exist) is rather close to men’s average penis size (12".) Basically, women aren’t asking for too much, y’all!
But another part of the “perfect penis” study proves that in one aspect, these straight-identifying women aren’t all that different from gay men (or, really, anyone who enjoys sex with a penis-ed partner), and that’s the idea that the ideal penis actually depends on the situation.
Half Of Women Are Unhappy With Their Sex Lives — Here's Why
Survey participants included nearly 7,000 Australian women ages 18 to 39. They each filled out questionnaires that asked about things such as sexual desire, arousal, orgasms, sexual distress, and self-image, as well as your basic demographic. And as the results showed, many of the problems women face are not uncommon.
The last of the findings revealed 20% of the women were taking psychotropic meds (i.e., antidepressants), which appeared to have the most widespread impact on the women's sexual function.
And not for nothing, previous research has suggested women may only have orgasms 50% of the time during intercourse (with men at 90%).
LIKE A VIRGIN? THE PAIN AND POLITICS OF RESTITCHING YOUR HYMEN
It’s hard to believe that the hymen, a thin piece of mucosal tissue that partially covers the vaginal opening, has been getting so much airtime recently. It was only a few months ago that rapper T.I. made (unlikely) headlines when he revealed that he takes his 18-year-old daughter to the gynecologist every year to check if her hymen is intact. Earlier this year, the UK health secretary began an investigation into the “dreadful practice” of “virginity repair” surgery, following a report by the Sunday Times, which revealed that there’s at least 22 private clinics across the UK offering hymenoplasty procedures. In short: it’s 2020 and, somehow, men are still trying to control our bodies.
Despite years of research that disproves the myth surrounding the hymen – that it breaks after the first time you’ve had sex – it’s connotations of purity pertain. You can break your hymen horse-riding, or riding a bike, but the social constructs surrounding virginity seem dependent on it staying intact.
“In Muslim communities, women should be virgins when marrying their husbands. If it’s found that a woman has lost her virginity before marriage, the consequences can be dire,” says Halaleh Taheri, who heads the Middle Eastern Women and Society Organisation, which supports women refugees or asylum seekers who have experienced gender discrimination and honour-related violence. “Even if a woman is not directly pressured by her family to undergo it, the beliefs that she has been indoctrinated with since childhood, the shame and dishonour that she will bring to her family if they find out she’s no longer a virgin is enough pressure to force herself to resort to this practice, whether she wants to or not.”
Calls for 'virginity repair' surgery to be banned
Campaigners are urging the government to outlaw "virginity repair" surgery.
Many Muslim women risk being outcast, or in extreme cases killed, if their spouses or families discover they have had sex before marriage.
And some are opting for a medical procedure in which doctors restore a layer of membrane at the entrance to the vagina.
But there are concerns a ban would increase the dangers to Muslim women by driving the procedure underground.
Vagina rejuvenating therapies 'pose serious risk'
The rise in women seeking a perfect vagina
Guidelines from the General Medical Council (GMC) state a patient's consent to undergo a procedure should come into question if it is suspected of being "given under pressure or duress exerted by another person".
Black Woman Dies After Waiting Hours in ER for Help
It is often suggested that women, especially black women, go ignored and/or unseen due to implicit bias in the American healthcare system.
Such may have been the case for Tashonna Ward, a 25-year-old day care teacher from Milwaukee who died Jan. 2 while trying to find a doctor to help her, USA Today reported.
Ward waited for over 2 hours in the emergency room of Froedtert Hospital before leaving to find faster help. She collapsed and died shortly after and now her family is looking for answers as to why she wasn’t seen sooner after she reported severe chest pains and trouble breathing.
“How can you triage someone with shortness of breath and chest pain and stick them in the lobby?” said Ward’s cousin, Andrea Ward. “Froedtert needs to change their policy.”
My Husband Is Very, Very Bad in Bed
Yes, I am in marriage counseling—but our marriage counselor is uncomfortable talking about sex. He’s great with helping us communicate better, but he just does not cover that area of things. Yes, I know there is such a thing as a sex counselor, and no, my insurance doesn’t cover any that I’ve been able to find. Yes, I’ve tried to teach my husband where my clitoris is. We’ve been married for five years, and he cannot be dissuaded from thinking it’s my urethra, which, ow. Yes, I’ve tried teaching my husband to touch me gently, but anytime he tries, it’s not only NOT my clitoris, but it’s also way too rough. He will not learn.
My question is whether all men are like this—because in my dating life, they all were—or whether it’s worth it to try to have an affair. For me, sex has always been all risk and no reward. I have become deeply cynical in this area. But there is a little tiny sprig of hope that makes me wonder: What if there is a reward to be had? What if some straight men are interested in the clitoris and understand how to operate it? What if I can have an orgasm with someone else before I die? That reward would be worth the risk.