Welcome to Errattic! We encourage you to customize the type of information you see here by clicking the Preferences link on the top of this page.
Almost Half of Gay Male Couples Experience Intimate Partner Violence, Study Says
This latest study deepens that existing knowledge with surprising results. After asking both members of couples surveyed whether they experienced violence, researchers were surprised to find that there was very little agreement between partners. Study participants were more likely to report perpetration than victimization.
"My hunch is that it's to do with concepts of masculinity,” says Dr. Stephenson. “It's [perceived as] more masculine to say that you beat someone than that somebody beat you.”
The study also measured internalized homophobia, using a method known as the Gay Identity Scale. Men who had negative feelings about their sexuality were more likely to experience or perpetrate IPV.
It’s difficult to say exactly why this is without further research, Dr. Stephenson notes, although he has some hunches. “We know that violence is often a stress response behavior,” he says. “What I'm finding through studies with male couples is in addition to stresses like unemployment, there's additional stress of being gay. They could be exteral, like experiencing homophobia, or it could be an internal struggle. … There are very few media representations of male couples and we're constantly being told that same sex couples are wrong. … If you don't have the right nurturing environment, it can make you worry about your own sexuality.”
That matches previous research indicating that IPV is more common among people who have themselves been victims of homophobic violence. It’s also more prevalent among whose attitudes about masculinity conformed to what a 2016 study referred to as “struggling to be the alpha.”
Emotional intimate partner violence experienced by men in same-sex relationships
This Late-Night Glove Salesman Masturbating Story Is Very Weird but Also True
For years there has been an urban legend in Halifax, Nova Scotia, about "Glove Guy," who would pick up drunk young men and ask them to try on his gloves.
This article originally appeared on VICE Canada.
It was 3 a.m. in Halifax, Nova Scotia, in the dead of winter—typical glove-wearing weather.
Andrew Blackbird had just finished a bartending shift and his wife, who was supposed to drive him home but had presumably fallen asleep, wasn’t answering his calls. Then his phone died. With all the cabs taken up, he started the 25-kilometer [15-mile] walk home.
It wasn’t long until a black SUV rolled up alongside him and a man who looked like Max Headroom asked if he wanted a ride. Desperate and freezing, Blackbird accepted. After Blackbird turned down the man’s request to “party,” the night took a disturbing turn.
According to Blackbird, the man told him, “Drive my jeep and wear my gloves."
Joel Schumacher estimates he’s had up to 20,000 sexual partners
Turns out Joel Schumacher‘s box-office figures aren’t the only sky-high record he’s got.
The 79-year-old director of smashes like “St. Elmo’s Fire,” “Batman Forever” and “The Lost Boys” recently gave a wide-ranging interview to Vulture in which he detailed some of the more fabled elements of his past, including his drug use and promiscuity.
“Have you ever guessed the number of partners you’ve had?” interviewer Andrew Goldman asked him, to which Schumacher responded, “It would be in the double-digit thousands, but that is not unusual.”
Canadian fashion designer and boyfriend attacked in suspected homophobic assault
Canadian fashion designer Markantoine Lynch-Boisvert and his boyfriend, Alex James Taboureau, have been attacked, with what is believed to be a homophobic motive.
The pair were targeted as they left a bar in La Malbaie by a man who threw homophobic insults their way. The man later approached Markantoine and headbutted him, while two men targeted his partner.
The group then later approached them again, this time pushing Markantoine to the floor.
CrossFit athlete Alec Smith comes out as gay
Alec Smith can squat 440 pounds and deadlift 505, but no lift was as hard as recording the four-minute video he released today where he came out as gay.
“Took a DNA test, turns out I’m gay.” Smith posted on Instagram.
In a halting voice and at times on the verge of tears, Smith, 26, told his 311,000 followers that he has struggled with his sexuality since he was 12.
I thought coming out meant you can finally follow the sound of your voice not listen to someone else's? 20-Aug-2019
CNN's Don Lemon Sued for Alleged Harassment of Man at Hamptons Bar
A Hamptons bartender has filed suit against Don Lemon, alleging the CNN anchor sexually harassed him at a bar there last summer. The plaintiff, Dustin Hice, is suing for “emotional pain and suffering,” according to court documents obtained by Mediaite.
The suit, filed Sunday, alleges that Hice recognized the anchor and approached Lemon, offering to buy him a drink called a lemon drop at the Sag Harbor bar Murf’s Backstreet Tavern following a shift at his workplace, the Old Stone Tavern in Sagaponack, N.Y.
26 men have been arrested in a gay sex sting in D.C. A lawyer says police are lying.
South Carolina cop charged with soliciting minor for sex in sting set up by his own department
Man Has Gun Stolen During Weekend-Long Gay Orgy
A Florida man — not my ex-stepdad, I checked — has been left reeling after his gun was stolen during a weekend-long anonymous gay orgy he hosted, reports The Smoking Gun. Cue Madonna’s “God Control.”
The man, who chose to remain anonymous, advertised an “open house party” at his Deltona bungalow “on a gay social media site,” and he probably wasn’t talking about Twitter. According to the police report, the man told officers the “theme of the party was ‘anonymous sex,’ where guests were “encouraged to come and go as they pleased” (obvious emphasis on come), and the host welcomed them to “bring along any friends or acquaintances they desired,” and all were “encouraged to utilize fictitious names, or use no name at all.” She knows how to stick to a theme! Of the approximately 20 guests who visited between July 19-21, the host “only knew five or six personally.”
Gay men more likely to cheat than straight men, say psychologists
"In the gay life, fidelity is almost impossible. Since part of the compulsion of homosexuality seems to be a need on the part of the homophile to “absorb” masculinity from his sexual partners, he must be constantly on the lookout for [new partners]. Constantly the most successful homophile “marriages” are those where there is an agreement between the two to have affairs on the side while maintaining the semblance of permanence in their living arrangement. [p. 208]"
Gay life is most typical and works best when sexual contacts are impersonal and even anonymous. As a group the homosexuals I have known seem far more preoccupied with sex than heterosexuals are, and far more likely to think of a good sex life as many partners under many exciting circumstances. [p.209]"
The Wing Founder Calls Out Gay Politician for Posting Shirtless Photo
One of the founders of elite women’s club The Wing publicly criticized New York City’s openly gay City Council Speaker for sharing a picture of a shirtless man on social media.
Audrey Gelman, who co-founded The Wing with Lauren Kassan in 2016, tweeted a screenshot of a recent Instagram post shared by Corey Johnson, who has served on New York’s City Council since 2014 and as City Council Speaker since 2018.
Johnson’s post, shared just after midnight on Friday, depicts an unidentified man who isn’t wearing a shirt. [UPDATE: Johnson is dating the man in the picture, his office confirms.] Gelman tweeted her screenshot of the photo approximately eight hours later, calling out what she perceived to be a sexist double standard.
“Corey Johnson, the NYC Council Speaker, posted this photo on social media at midnight,” Gelman wrote. “If a woman elected official did this, they wouldn’t have a job in the morning.”
Magnum slammed for ad comparing eating ice cream to gay men being jailed
Magnum are facing criticism over their latest advert campaign.
The popular ice cream brand have received backlash after a new advert, which played on music streaming service Spotify in the UK, compared the “guilty pleasure” of eating an ice cream to gay people being imprisoned in countries with anti-LGBTQ laws.
“A hug for my boyfriend. That’s my guilty pleasure. Because in my country, just a simple hug with the man I love could send me to prison for more than 10 years,” says the voiceover in the controversial advert.
Father who killed his son because he was gay let out of jail after two years behind bars
A father who is accused of killing his own son for being gay has been placed on house arrest. Now the victim’s mother is speaking out.
In 2017, Giovanni Melton, 17, was shot and killed in Henderson, Nevada. His father Wendell Melton was arrested because police believed that he was responsible for the murder.
Now a judge has let Wendell Melton out on $200,000 bail and placed him on house arrest as he awaits trial.
“I felt betrayed,” said Veronica Melton, Giovanni Melton’s mother.
Diplo tells fans he “might be gay” as plane makes emergency landing
Diplo appeared to address his sexuality in a recent Instagram post.
The 40-year-old songwriter, producer and DJ from America told his 5.5 million followers ”I might be gay” in an Instagram post after his plane had to make an emergency landing due to a cracked windshield.
“Dear Colombus and Minneapolis, my jet window just cracked open and the pilots are wearing masks so not sure ill make my shows tonight,” he wrote, before adding: “Also i never told you this but I might be gay.”
He later updated the post’s caption to let fans know he was safe, writing: “We landed and no one died I still might be gay but I’m definitely not going to tye die anymore jets.”
When all your relationships end up the same, burn the script. 28-Jul-2019
So, You Wanna Know About Fisting
Taking a fist can seem daunting, but according to enthusiasts, it’s one of the most intimate and powerful sexual acts you can experience. Porn actors and vers fisting couple HungerFF and FFurryStud are beloved for their incediary JustFor.Fans videos, so we asked them some of our most pressing questions about going shoulder deep.
What are the most important steps in fisting preparation?
According to HungerFF, diet is a major factor in being fist-ready. “You want to make sure that what you ate the day before (or the day of) is something that is going to pass through your system clean and easy.” For Hunger, that means avoiding foods that look the same going out as they do going in: corn, black olives, whole blueberries. He also chases every meal with a glass of Metamucil, which helps keep everything smooth on the way out. Hunger prefers to clean out in the shower rather than the toilet, which he acknowledges isn’t for everyone. “I generally use lukewarm water and rinse and repeat over and over until the water runs clean. For me that process might be a little more involved because my hole is so deep, but it’s basically the same as for getting fucked.” When it comes to play, lube is king — you can literally never use too much. Hunger also advises tops to keep their nails filed to avoid scratches or injury. And, he advises, the most important part of fisting is patience. “Remember: it’s not a race, we’re all just here to enjoy our bodies and have fun.”