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Lesbian teen murdered after being viciously stabbed 13 times on Human Rights Day
A South African lesbian teen was stabbed 13 times to death and her friend gravely injured by three men Saturday in an attack that has stunned the country, occurring on Human Rights Day.
As swathes of South Africa celebrated the establishment of the Human Rights Commission, Liyabona Mabishi, 16, was fighting for her life, Daily Voice reported.
Murderer who stabbed his teen Grindr hook-up more than 100 times had ‘sinister’ chats with four other men
Gay Guys With Small Penises Share Their Hookup Horror Stories
“Are you hung/XL”?
If you’re a queer guy, chances are that question has shaped a good chunk of your Grindr experience. Sure, it’s a casually posed enquiry. But the question reinforces the stigma surrounding penis size – particularly in male-male hook-up culture – that drives many men to feel ashamed, embarrassed or undesirable.
When it comes to penis size in male-male hook up culture, individuals can end up afraid of dating, put off sexual activity and in some cases abstain from sex altogether to remove themselves from the risk of being shamed, or feeling shamed. Yet, penis size-shaming continues to be broadly presented as a joke in popular culture, as this recent Guardian article surmised so well.
So in the interest of smashing the stigma and humanising the situation, here are four men with smaller penises who have told VICE the reality of their experience, and how it feels to be discriminated against.
“I asked if everything was OK, and my hookup said: ‘Only men with big cocks can fuck me’”
How to be queer and celibate
Queer people -- and particularly trans people -- are often introduced to sex in a way that can skew their relationship with it later down the line. For trans people that can manifest in the form of relationships with “chasers”: cis men who see trans bodies as a purely carnal, rather than emotional thing to engage with. Heteronormative and cis-Eurocentric ideals of dating often make it feel like if you’re not in a relationship, you’re not worthy of one. As a result, you end up reaching out to whoever is willing to give intimacy as a way to feel like you are, too, part of the expected normality.
At this point in my life, my relationship with sex is skewed. Fucked, if you will. As I lay on my back looking into the mirrored ceiling, wondering whether or not dinner is going to be fish and chips or the leftover stir-fry from the night before, I forget that there’s a person in between my legs. Another late night turned into a hook-up that means nothing. Another person to avoid when trotting around the supermarket next week. It makes me ponder whether or not celibacy could be the answer to my problems. Like many people who have negative or harmful relationships with sex, I’ve been asking myself: is going cold-turkey the best way to sort it out?
A lot of young queer people are switching up the way we see casual sex. Research in the US of LGBTQ+ students at college saw that they were more likely to ensure their 'hook-ups' were the antithesis of heteronormative: focusing more on communication and discussion and sometimes not even including sex at all. Celibacy is often confused with asexuality, an orientation in which someone may experience romantic feelings -- but not physical, sexual attraction. Voluntary celibacy, however, is something that queer people actively choose to partake in, as a reaction to their complex sexual history.
Jail for woman who posed as man on Grindr and stalked young male couple
A judge has jailed a woman who posed as a gay man on Grindr then harassed a man and falsely accused his boyfriend of being a pedophile.
The woman used multiple identities to harass the couple. She circulated private sexual images and even sent men looking for sex to their house.
Yannick Glaudin, 31, carried out her campaign of harassment in the UK and she pleaded guilty to all the offenses in July 2018. But she evaded justice for over a year by then fleeing to her native France.
However, French authorities extradited her back to Britain in January under a European arrest warrant. And she appeared before a judge at the Inner London Crown Court in Southwark, south London.
Gay dating app Chappy announces it’s closing down this month
The popular gay dating app launched in 2017 with the goal of providing genuine and honest connections between queer men, offering users the option of finding Mr Right or Mr Right Now – and more recently, platonic friendships.
But users were left disappointed when they were informed that the app will be closing down for good on 28 February, with no new people appearing from 17 February. It will be merging with parent dating app Bumble, which caters to all sexualities.
This Is Why Growlr ‘Suspended’ All Those Accounts
Chicago Sees String of Grindr Stun Gun Robberies
Chicago police are investigating a string of robberies in which suspects used Grindr to lure men to hotel rooms, then robbed them using stun guns.
At least five similar robberies involving the gay dating app were reported in the downtown area between Dec. 22 and Jan. 28.
Man confesses to viciously stabbing gay men in alleged hate crimes
Chicago Man Arrested for Robbing Grindr Dates With Taser
The gay men risking their health for the perfect body
Jeff Ingold, from LGBT charity Stonewall says it is "crucial" that we see more diverse representations of gay and bisexual men with different body types in the media.
"Not only would this help gay and bi men see themselves reflected in what they watch, it would also help break down harmful stereotypes that affect gay and bi men's body image and self-esteem."
But as it is, Jakeb says he still gets people online telling him they "wouldn't leave the house if they looked like me".
"I didn't go on pride marches and have bricks thrown at me to have the community we've got now," he says.
"We have equality, but we're horrible to each other."
Grindr is sharing users’ sexual orientation and location data, says study
The LGBTQ dating app Grindr has been caught sharing users’ sensitive data with thousands of ad partners, reports Bloomberg. That’s according to a study from the Norwegian Consumer Council. The NCC’s report says Grindr uses Twitter’s ad subsidiary MoPub to funnel the personal information of Grindr users to ad partners.
The data includes a Grindr user’s location, age, gender, and sexual orientation, which malicious individuals or parties could then use to identify and target LGBTQ people. As a result of its findings, the NCC and European privacy advocate Max Schrems has filed no fewer than three complaints against Grindr and five ad-tech companies. Those complaints were filed with the Norwegian Data Protection Authority, and they allege Grindr’s sharing of personal data breaches the EU’s GDPR privacy rules.
Suspect Pleads Guilty in $250K Online Gay-Sex Extortion Scam
A 28-year-old Nevada-based man pleaded guilty Wednesday to extorting more than $250,000 from men who responded to his ads offering gay sex services on Craigslist and other sites.
Tyler Buchanan, who went by the name “Thuler O’Naill,” faces up to 10 years in prison when he is sentenced in May on several federal felony charges.
Tampa Man Charged With Threatening to Wipe Out City's Gay Community
A Tampa, Fla., man has been arrested on charges of making a threat to wipe out the city’s gay community in a mass shooting.
Ralph Perkins, 50, made the threat after being rejected on a dating app, police told the Tampa Bay Times. The app was not identified.
Terrorists planted a bomb in their gay brother’s luggage because he brought “shame” to the family
Attackers kicked & punched a gay man while shouting slurs. Now the victim is fleeing New York City.
Gay newlyweds say their honeymoon was ruined after cruise ship staff mocked them nonstop
Judge who was sanctioned for being anti-LGBTQ sues to get a religious exemption from the law
In gayspeak, does LTR mean overnight or weekend stay? 24-Oct-2019
Almost Half of Gay Male Couples Experience Intimate Partner Violence, Study Says
This latest study deepens that existing knowledge with surprising results. After asking both members of couples surveyed whether they experienced violence, researchers were surprised to find that there was very little agreement between partners. Study participants were more likely to report perpetration than victimization.
"My hunch is that it's to do with concepts of masculinity,” says Dr. Stephenson. “It's [perceived as] more masculine to say that you beat someone than that somebody beat you.”
The study also measured internalized homophobia, using a method known as the Gay Identity Scale. Men who had negative feelings about their sexuality were more likely to experience or perpetrate IPV.
It’s difficult to say exactly why this is without further research, Dr. Stephenson notes, although he has some hunches. “We know that violence is often a stress response behavior,” he says. “What I'm finding through studies with male couples is in addition to stresses like unemployment, there's additional stress of being gay. They could be exteral, like experiencing homophobia, or it could be an internal struggle. … There are very few media representations of male couples and we're constantly being told that same sex couples are wrong. … If you don't have the right nurturing environment, it can make you worry about your own sexuality.”
That matches previous research indicating that IPV is more common among people who have themselves been victims of homophobic violence. It’s also more prevalent among whose attitudes about masculinity conformed to what a 2016 study referred to as “struggling to be the alpha.”
Emotional intimate partner violence experienced by men in same-sex relationships
Gay dating apps Grindr and Romeo can expose user locations, leaving men vunerable to hate crimes
Several of the most popular gay dating apps have flaws that allow their users’ exact locations to be determined, the BBC reports. Researchers from the cyber-security company Pen Test Partners found the flaws in the Grindr, Recon, and Romeo apps.
All of those apps allow users to share their general location by displaying their distance from each other. But while that location information only reveals distance from another user’s current location and not direction, the researchers found anyone with basic computing skills could use that information to determine another user’s exact location using a method known as trilateration. Here’s how the BBC describes the method:
Your taste in music could be ruining your relationship
Here are some highlights from the survey:
* Nearly 1 in 5 people wouldn’t date someone with “bad” taste in music.
* Only 46% of women and 54% of men would date someone with music tastes they’d consider “bad”
* Men believe hip-hop is the most unattractive genre (45%), while women find heavy metal the most unattractive (37%). The most attractive genre for men: classic rock (41%); for women: hip-hop (39%)
We speak to the gay men who pretended to be girls online to flirt with boys
Growing up in the closet can be an isolating experience. So, in the early days of social media, it’s little surprise that some gay men resorted to unorthodox methods to explore their attraction to other boys.
Thomas* is one of them. As a closeted teenager, he used to “catfish” boys by pretending to be a girl online. “I was really desperate and lonely,” he says, telling me that early social media sites such as Bebo were where he started this behaviour. “I’d add them over MSN Messenger and flirt. It was a thrill at the time, I guess, though I’m really ashamed of it now.”
Thomas says he was mostly interested in talking, but the boys he catfished would usually turn the conversation sexual. “It wouldn’t take long for the horny straight boys to ask for nude photos,” he says. “But I initially just wanted an outlet to talk to cute boys because I couldn’t. While all my friends were getting off with each other and going out, I just wanted someone to talk to me in the same way.”