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Passenger who squeezed flight attendant’s butt & called him “gay boy” gets sent to prison
An unruly passenger was just sentenced to six months in prison for the sexual assault of a male flight attendant.
The passenger, Gavin Capps, was flying with EasyJet from Manchester, U.K., to Iceland for work this past January, when he attacked the flight attendant.
Related: 4 firemen arrested for attempted sexual assault of a male teenaged volunteer
Capps had three beers on the flight and went to the front of the plane to get more, but he was sent back and told to wait for the in-flight service. When the duty-free trolley came down the aisle, Capps took 400 cigarettes from it and hid them under his seat.
Flight attendants warned him to stop causing trouble, but then he attacked.
“Ex-lesbian” is “thanking God” for the COVID pandemic because Pride parades were canceled
South Korea's coronavirus contact tracing singles out LGBTQ community
Petition Calls To ‘Change Symbol For NHS’ From LGBT Pride Flag
A Straight Man Thinks the Pandemic Might Have Turned Him Gay
My Son Told Friends He’s Gay. He Tells Me He Was Joking.
Dear Care and Feeding,
My 11-year-old son has been spending a lot of time playing Minecraft with online friends. They talk (I can hear everything they say, mostly silly preteen jokes) and text, and I looked at his chat screen. I read, “Please don’t say anything out loud. My mom doesn’t know I’m gay.”
I asked my kid why he wrote that. He said it was a joke. Then he said his account was hacked. Then he said his best friend is gay. I’m shocked. His dad and I have no problem if he’s gay, and he knows it. Do I give him space? I don’t want to out him (if that’s what’s up), but I hate that he can’t talk to me. My love and feelings for him are not affected at all by whether he’s gay, and I want to respect his privacy. Still, I’m hurt.
Mum who ‘isn’t homophobic’ but scared her son’s HIV-positive boyfriend could ‘accidentally’ pass it to their children gets a blunt science lesson
The woman said she was recently introduced to Stephen’s new boyfriend Adam on a Zoom call, and was shocked when she learned that he is living with HIV.
“My son announced this on the Zoom call (I didn’t have time to process it), and then became irate when I asked some questions to better understand what that means,” she wrote.
“I remember the ’80s, and actually had a close friend die from AIDS,” she continued.
“My son claims I’m being ignorant, but I was alive during that time – he wasn’t!”
I’m not homophobic. I just need some processing time.
Bizarrely, the woman then went on to claim that she is “scared of what will happen if they stay together and have children.”
I Love My Boyfriend but Want a Girlfriend
My partner is the most compassionate, loving, and respectful partner I could ask for. He has supported me through difficult times, weight fluctuations, questioning my gender, changing my name, and sobriety, among other things. I am incredibly attracted to women. He knows this, and we have talked about opening our relationship. However, he is on the spectrum of asexuallity and is only interested in having sex with me. The thought of me having sex with other people makes him deeply uncomfortable, as we both relate to sex in very different ways. We have had this conversation a few times in the year that we have been together, but with no solid plan or outcome. I respect and appreciate our relationship more than my desire to sleep around, but I’m worried that I will be missing something. I’m only 20, and I know that feelings change, but he is an incredible domestic and sexual partner, and I would like to be with him for a long time. Is there a way to figure this out? Or will this core incompatibility be what breaks us apart?
Dan Patrick on coronavirus: 'More important things than living'
Texas Lt. Gov Dan Patrick doubled down on controversial comments he has made about the coronavirus pandemic, telling Fox News on Monday that Americans had to "take some risks" in reopening the economy.
Patrick was heavily criticized last month after he suggested in an interview with Fox News' Tucker Carlson that he and other senior citizens might be willing to die to save the economy. He stood by his statements in a new interview with Carlson on Monday night, saying, "We are crushing the economy."
"And what I said when I was with you that night, there are more important things than living. And that's saving this country for my children and my grandchildren and saving this country for all of us," Patrick said Monday night.
He went on to say that he didn't want to die but that "we've got to take some risks and get back in the game and get this country back up and running."
RHOC's Kelly Dodd Says Coronavirus Is 'God's Way of Thinning the Herd' Before Apologizing
Dear How To Do It,
Dear How to Do It,
I am a middle-aged gay man who has always been socially awkward and shy. I have struggled my entire life with dating, always diving into a relationship with pretty much anyone who showed any interest in me at all whether I was really attracted or compatible with them or not. This, of course, has not worked out. As I have aged, my self-esteem has deteriorated as well, especially with health issues.
My question is in regard to my workaround. Ever since I was first discovering my attraction to other men in my early teens and 20s, I have actively looked to pay straight men for the chance to have sex with them. What this has usually amounted to was me paying them cash to give them oral sex. It’s not something that I’m proud of, but it has really been the only consistent way that I’ve ever been able to have the sex that I desire and need. All of the guys that I have had these experiences with have been guys who were completely out of my league. I’ve simply accepted that this is how I can have sex.
Recently, I spoke to one of my acquaintances about this during a long night of conversation we were both having while self-isolated for the current virus situation. She was appalled at me and told me that this was unhealthy for me and exploitative for the guys I deal with. The conversation ended on a frustrating, hostile note on her part. I’m just trying to get some impartial reactions or advice on this long-standing practice. Am I being unfair to myself and others getting the sex I need? I’ve never tried to force anyone to have sex with me, just offered them financial incentives to do so.
Dearly Beloved, I Miss His Big Dick Energy (But Not His Big Dick)
I’m 24 and I’m from the suburbs outside of NYC and I’m in love with this guy from some “West Bubble Fuck” area in New Jersey. He’s 29 and has his life somewhat together; however, I can’t trust him. We went out for a few months and I had the best time of my life with him, but my asshole wasn’t happy with his dick size.
Well, his dick is like ten inches long, very thick and I’m just not trying to have a gaping asshole.
The times when I’ve taken enough muscle relaxers, the sex was great, especially the time that we were fucking on the balcony of our hotel suite — that was definitely porn scene material.
Haha. Anyway, after a while having sex with him just became unbearable and I couldn’t manage. He wants to have sex spontaneously and would randomly pull over asking if we could fuck in the car right now. However, having sex with him for me has to be planned so that I won’t feel uncomfortable, but he hated that.
One day I was going through his phone and I saw that he was messaging other guys and meeting up for sex, so I broke up with him.
Time after time, he would hit me up saying he misses me and blah blah, but the truth is that I miss him, too, and not for his dick.
A year later we met up in Manhattan and we hung out, it was clear that he’s been to the gay bars there a lot because a lot of cheap skanks kept coming up to him and left when they saw me with him. The bar scene in NYC was new to me since I never really cared to go before; however, I did learn that I should never wear anything designer to the Ritz again. I even lost my Louis Vuitton bracelet there, but I wouldn’t be surprised if it was even stolen.
Anyway, he wants to get back together now, but I think it’s pointless because I can’t handle his dick but I still have feelings for him. What should I do? Please help me…
Oyster Bay Hunty
US medical chief has some sage advice for anyone even thinking about a Grindr hook-up during the coronavirus crisis
A leading medical chief has offered important advice to any LGBT+ people considering hooking up on Grindr during the coronavirus pandemic.
This mum is convinced her daughter’s boyfriend is gay because he’s ‘thoughtful and nurturing’
A mum has asked an agony aunt for advice, convinced her daughter’s boyfriend is gay because he cooks for her, buys her flowers and is generally “thoughtful and nurturing”.
The anonymous mother, who identifies herself as “trusting my gut”, wrote in to the relationship advice column in The Mercury News.
LGBT charity tells young people to ‘hit pause’ on coming out while in lockdown with parents
The Albert Kennedy Trust (AKT), a charity that cares for the LGBT+ homeless, has warned young people to “think hard” before coming out at this time.
The advice comes as LGBT+ helplines see a surge in calls from people who are stuck self-isolating with abusive family and partners.
“If you’re a young person and you’re thinking of coming out, press pause on that until you get support,” Tim Sigsworth, AKT’s CEO, told Sky News.
He expressed concern for how families may react to their child coming out in this particularly stressful time, and warned of the dangers of being made homeless during the pandemic.
Coronavirus pandemic a perfect storm for LGBTQ homeless youth
"I'm 51 and gay, but I can't come out": callers opens up to James O'Brien
This is the powerful moment a caller came out as gay to James O'Brien and opened up about why he can't tell anyone else.
This Morning presenter Phillip Schofield, who has been married for almost 27 years and has two grown up daughters, has announced that he is gay.
James' caller Joe found the story "amazing" and felt compelled to call in because he is gay and feels unable to tell anyone.
"I've turned to drugs," said Joe, "I'm 50 years old and I turned to drugs 12 months ago."
"Because the stress of keeping it secret was too much for you?" asked James, and Joe confirmed that he at times has felt suicidal having to hide the truth after realising he was gay at 12.
Authorities warn that abbreviating "2020" on documents could leave you vulnerable to fraud
The new year has just begun, providing a new opportunity for scam artists to forge documents. Authorities are warning that shortening "2020" to just "20" could leave you vulnerable to fraud.
If you wrote a signed check dated "1/3/20," for example, a scammer could easily change the date to read "2019," "2000," or any other year from this century. The scammers could use this change to try and cash an old check or forge an unpaid debt.
The Ostensibly Straight Men I’m Dating Sound Gay
Is it homophobic for me to find that unattractive?
Dear How to Do It,
I recently started dating again and have just recently been confronted by a situation that’s left me scratching my head. I have met two men who would like to date me, and they both are great! And, they both sound completely gay—like, out-of-the-closet, effeminate-speech gay. This is kind of a libido killer for me, and it makes my brain spin. I am not proud of my response, which is to not want to go out with them again. I can’t even tell if I sound homophobic here, but is it homophobic to be a straight woman and not want to date a gay man? See? My brain is a mess. Here are my specific fears—that one or both of these men are in denial about their gender preferences OR that I’m passing up on some fantastic men because they are indeed straight. I know it’s up to me to decide if I find them attractive and move ahead, but I guess I want someone to tell me that it’s possible that I’m a nincompoop here and that straight men can “sound gay.”
Having a preference doesn't mean you hate, it means you are an individual. Let's stop torturing people for being themselves lest we are obliged to apply the same empathy to killers and rapists.
A good question to ask would have been, "why are you attracting so many effeminate men?" 23-Dec-2019
How to survive the holidays when your family doesn't know you're gay
No one wants to spend Christmas in the closet, but for many people, it’s a fact of life. Even though I am very publicly queer, some of my extended family members have opted out of processing that message. I rarely see them, but when I do, everyone pretends I’m not gay. While I’m a big fan of coming out, for some folx, coming out can be emotionally or physically dangerous. Trying to spend quality time with people who don’t acknowledge your identity can be alienating and painful. I asked some of my most trusted mental health experts how we can deal with spending the holidays with family who don't know you're gay.
Identify what your choices are...
The first thing you need to know is that you have choices. “I think one of the most important things is to decide whether or not you want to spend time with family members who don't know,” says Stefani Goerlich, a Detroit-based psychotherapist. “Not everyone is ready to come out to their relatives, but for those that are ready, being forced back into the closet for the holidays can be an incredibly painful experience.”
A letter to my racist in-laws
“It’s because you have foreign blood in you, that’s why you live 350 miles from home,” my uncle says to me. Noah* is sat next to me. Embarrassed, I look down into my dinner and mumble “well, what about my brother? He’s always lived close by.” I try and disrupt his logic. “Well he’s different, isn’t he?” My uncle carries on talking. I stop listening. I’m angry. Why has no one interrupted him? Why is no one sticking up for me?
It’s Easter Sunday, 2018. I’m at my parents’ house for a family gathering with both sides of my family. My uncle is white. My dad is white. My mum is brown. I’m mixed race. My mum was born in Mauritius, she moved to the UK when she was a baby in the ‘50s. My parents, who have been together since the ‘80s have never addressed the issue of race. I think they just wanted to keep their heads down in the hope that things would get better. Racist comments like those from my uncle are commonplace at my family gatherings.
Noah is my partner. He’s white. His family are racist too.
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