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Authorities warn that abbreviating "2020" on documents could leave you vulnerable to fraud
The new year has just begun, providing a new opportunity for scam artists to forge documents. Authorities are warning that shortening "2020" to just "20" could leave you vulnerable to fraud.
If you wrote a signed check dated "1/3/20," for example, a scammer could easily change the date to read "2019," "2000," or any other year from this century. The scammers could use this change to try and cash an old check or forge an unpaid debt.
The Ostensibly Straight Men I’m Dating Sound Gay
Is it homophobic for me to find that unattractive?
Dear How to Do It,
I recently started dating again and have just recently been confronted by a situation that’s left me scratching my head. I have met two men who would like to date me, and they both are great! And, they both sound completely gay—like, out-of-the-closet, effeminate-speech gay. This is kind of a libido killer for me, and it makes my brain spin. I am not proud of my response, which is to not want to go out with them again. I can’t even tell if I sound homophobic here, but is it homophobic to be a straight woman and not want to date a gay man? See? My brain is a mess. Here are my specific fears—that one or both of these men are in denial about their gender preferences OR that I’m passing up on some fantastic men because they are indeed straight. I know it’s up to me to decide if I find them attractive and move ahead, but I guess I want someone to tell me that it’s possible that I’m a nincompoop here and that straight men can “sound gay.”
Having a preference doesn't mean you hate, it means you are an individual. Let's stop torturing people for being themselves lest we are obliged to apply the same empathy to killers and rapists.
A good question to ask would have been, "why are you attracting so many effeminate men?" 23-Dec-2019
How to survive the holidays when your family doesn't know you're gay
No one wants to spend Christmas in the closet, but for many people, it’s a fact of life. Even though I am very publicly queer, some of my extended family members have opted out of processing that message. I rarely see them, but when I do, everyone pretends I’m not gay. While I’m a big fan of coming out, for some folx, coming out can be emotionally or physically dangerous. Trying to spend quality time with people who don’t acknowledge your identity can be alienating and painful. I asked some of my most trusted mental health experts how we can deal with spending the holidays with family who don't know you're gay.
Identify what your choices are...
The first thing you need to know is that you have choices. “I think one of the most important things is to decide whether or not you want to spend time with family members who don't know,” says Stefani Goerlich, a Detroit-based psychotherapist. “Not everyone is ready to come out to their relatives, but for those that are ready, being forced back into the closet for the holidays can be an incredibly painful experience.”
A letter to my racist in-laws
“It’s because you have foreign blood in you, that’s why you live 350 miles from home,” my uncle says to me. Noah* is sat next to me. Embarrassed, I look down into my dinner and mumble “well, what about my brother? He’s always lived close by.” I try and disrupt his logic. “Well he’s different, isn’t he?” My uncle carries on talking. I stop listening. I’m angry. Why has no one interrupted him? Why is no one sticking up for me?
It’s Easter Sunday, 2018. I’m at my parents’ house for a family gathering with both sides of my family. My uncle is white. My dad is white. My mum is brown. I’m mixed race. My mum was born in Mauritius, she moved to the UK when she was a baby in the ‘50s. My parents, who have been together since the ‘80s have never addressed the issue of race. I think they just wanted to keep their heads down in the hope that things would get better. Racist comments like those from my uncle are commonplace at my family gatherings.
Noah is my partner. He’s white. His family are racist too.
Are Kids Naturally Racist?
How to deal with unaware racist parents
I Stood Up To My Racist Dad Because It’s Time To Break The Cycle
I Just Experienced a Sexual Horror Story. Will I Ever Bounce Back?
I recently went on a couple of dates with a guy I’ve had a crush on for a while. I was very much looking forward to jumping his bones. The dates went well, and we went back to his place, and ... I didn’t perform well. At all. He was really sweet about it, but I was mortified.
I’m pretty sure he’s open to seeing me again, because he seemed disappointed that I left so soon afterwards. (I was feeling terrible about it and just wanted to GTFO.) The problem is, I feel like I can’t go on another date with him until I prove that I’m actually good at sex! I usually get accolades from the people I’m with so this was a huge blow to my ego. I want to go out with him again but I feel like I won’t pay attention to anything until I get another chance at it. But even then I’m terrified that I’ll be too in my own head about it and it’ll happen again.
What should I do? Text him to see if he’s available for a quick hookup and get it out of the way? Go on another date with him and deal with the fact that we’ll both be thinking about how poorly last time went the whole time we’re sitting there? I like him a lot, and I don’t want to reduce him to this mountain I have to climb to prove my worth but .... yeah that’s kind of exactly how I feel. Help!
Bad Sex Haver
I’m Gay. So Why Don’t I Belong to ‘Gay Culture?’
I'm a gay transgender man, though I tend to keep the "transgender" part under wraps most of the time. I also live in a fairly small and conservative town. This makes talking about my childhood awkward unless I just say "my parents grew up in the city so we didn't really do a lot of outdoorsy stuff.” It's true without being too detailed, so that response is usually enough to get some pressure off me.
Anyway, I don't really have much interest in certain things considered part of "gay culture.” I watch Drag Race and follow some past contestants on social media. I feel a certain glee when characters in fiction I already like turn out to be LGBTQ. And while I'm not too familiar with the history of the Pride movement, I would love to learn more about it.
But that's about the extent of it. I simply cannot even pretend I like Katy Perry or Will & Grace. I've tried watching Sex and the City only to wonder if I'm supposed to like any of the characters. I'm basically someone who's been described as "Judas Priest gay.” Is there something I'm missing that's supposed to help me enjoy these things? Does this sound like a matter of preferring documentaries over other genres? Or is this just not as uncommon as I probably think?
Out of the “Fruit” Loop
This is what happened each time I showed public affection to someone
OK, I admit it. Nothing makes me want to barf more than an over-zealous display of public affection.
Seeing an improbably gorgeous woman locking lips with her jawbone hunk boyfriend makes me want to have my mind wiped. Especially when it’s in the middle of the street. More so if it’s during my lunch break, particularly when it’s right in front of my salad.
Do you want to know why it riles me up so much? It’s because as a gay man, I’m not afforded such simple luxuries.
Gay Star News
MADONNA SAYS GIVING PHONES TO OLDER CHILDREN ‘ENDED HER RELATIONSHIP WITH THEM’
Madonna has said giving phones to her two eldest children had a hugely negative impact on her relationship with them.
Despite having given 22-year-old Lourdes and 18-year-old Rocco phones when they were in their early teens, Madonna does not plan on doing the same for her 13-year-old son David.
"I'm going to stick that one out for as long as possible, because I made a mistake when I gave my older children phones when they were 13," the Madame X star told Vogue.
"It ended my relationship with them, really."
WHO's Screen Time Guidelines For Babies & Kids Under 5 May Be A Game-Changer For Parents
20 Popular Destinations That Are Unapologetically Anti-Gay
In many of the places on this list, LGBT rights improve every year. But, recognition rarely equals acceptance. In some countries, same-sex marriages are recognized and celebrated. But, toleration and acceptance of the LGBT community is far from universal. Being queer is illegal in nearly 80 countries and punishable by death, including some very popular travel destinations.
Although some of these countries welcome tourists, that doesn’t mean travelers are safe to be themselves. It’s crucial that gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and queer travelers use extreme caution while traveling abroad.
Adult son finds tons of gay x-rated videos on his dad’s computer–Now what?!
A 20-something man says he recently logged onto his dad’s personal computer and made a shocking discovery. Now, he’s turning to Reddit for help.
It all started when the man, who claims to be 26 and straight, used his father’s laptop to go to YouTube.
“As I typed in ‘you’ it tried to autofill me into the website Youporn with some homosexual title to the video,” the man writes. “At first I couldn’t believe what I was seeing given my father has been married to my mother for around 20 years.”
The man says his father is generally a “pretty negative and miserable person to be around,” but he’s never given any indication that he might be into dudes.
Woman claims her ex-husband is bisexual, so she told their son his father was “dead”
British Comedian Offers Hilarious and Heartwarming Advice for Parents of Gay Kids
On Saturday night’s episode of The Jonathan Ross Show, British comedian John Bishop shared heartfelt words of advice for fellow parents with gay children. The 51-year-old, who has previously spoken about one of his sons coming out as gay, said, “Just love them for who they are and allow them to feel safe, and then those little digs and the little knocks and the little abuse that they subtly get that we don’t know about, perhaps won’t penetrate as deep.”
3rd person alleges molestation by former Conroe priest at Houston church
A Houston man has identified himself as the third victim of a former Conroe priest accused of molesting two teens.
A lawyer for the victim alleged Thursday that Manuel La Rosa-Lopez inappropriately touched his client, then a 13-year-old boy, at least four to five times while he served as an altar boy at a Houston church in the mid-1990s.
Victim of Alleged Priest Sex Abuse Takes On the Vatican
Boss of police child abuse squad DEFENDS decision not to oppose bail for IT expert accused of raping boy, 13, in the front yard of his home
Brazilian man jailed for sexually abusing his wife's mentally-ill sister is released from prison but then murders his 13-year-old daughter
Surge in sexual and violent offences sees 17% hike in crime on UK railways
High School Volleyball Coach Arrested For Molesting Teen Boys In California
Tatum O'Neal shares emotional post about being sexually abused multiple times: 'I remember everything'
Teri Hatcher Writes Open Letter to Donald Trump Detailing Childhood Sexual Assault / THR News
A nun's rape allegations create a #MeToo moment in India's Catholic Church
Beyond ‘no means no’: What most parents aren’t teaching their sons about sexual consent
Breaking the silence: Talking to young kids about sexual assault and consent
Talking about #MeToo and the events of this week with anyone can be emotionally grueling and deeply triggering (particularly if you have been a victim of sexual assault). But it can feel absolutely overwhelming, if not impossible, to do so with your young children.
But these conversations with our kids are crucial. In the case of Fox News anchor Chris Wallace, discussing the sexual assault allegations against Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh with his daughters enabled them to open up to him about past “incidents” they’d kept secret. In an op-ed for the New York Times, ‘Top Chef’ host and author Padma Lakshmi, who was molested by a family member as a child and raped by her boyfriend when she was 16, stressed the importance of teaching her 8-year-old daughter that her body is hers, and that if anyone makes you uncomfortable “you get out there and tell somebody.”
Pope Francis tells parents not to reject gay kids, but send them to therapy to ‘see how things are’
Pope Francis wants to be seen as the cool modern Pope who’s down with LGBTQ people, but he keeps tripping over his own feet every time he tries.
On the Papal plane on his way back from a contentious visit to Ireland, where he was pressed on the church’s continued cover up of the sexual abuse of children by church authorities, Francis took time to answer reporters’ questions.
Calls Grow for Cardinal Wuerl to Resign Over Handling of Sex Abuse Allegations
Hollywood cleaned house. Why can't the Catholic Church?
This Jerusalem Pizzeria Is Being Sued for Refusing to Serve a Gay Man
A Jerusalem pizzeria is in legal trouble after allegedly discriminating against a gay customer.
Sammy Kanter, 31, was wearing an LGBTQ Pride t-shirt when he entered Ben Yehuda Pizza on August 3, the day after Jerusalem Pride. Almost immediately, Kanter says, an employee asked if he was gay. When he said he was, Kanter claims the staffer asked him and his friends to leave.
“The guy behind the counter said ‘Atah homo?’ (are you gay)?” Kanter, a rabbinical student at Hebrew Union College, wrote in a Facebook post. “I said yes. He said ‘out’ and pointed at the door. My jaw dropped, and he instructed my classmates and I to leave.”
Client attacks a gay photographer: ‘You’re going to burn in Hell’
States ask Supreme Court to limit LGBTQ workplace protections
Help! My Sister-in-Law Disowned Her 13-Year-Old Son After He Came Out.