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You’re Just Not His Tribe: Rejection and the queer community 
Getting older and wiser doesn’t mean you’ll face less rejection. In fact I think most of us would agree that you’ll encounter it more.
Take dating, which is primarily a social dance of rejection and attraction amongst the billions of people who’ve inhabited our planet. Technology has had an immeasurable effect on meeting and courting and coupling. At no other time in history has mankind had the ability to browse an infinite pool of potential partners each day, filtered for you by location, hobbies, fetishes, degrees, etc. I could, potentially, use Grindr’s Explore feature to place myself in Tokyo, meet a guy on the app, and be sipping warm saki with him in a week’s time. Were you to tell someone about this ten years ago, they’d side-eye you before looking back at their Blackberry.
On the flip side, dating has never brought about the sheer volume of rejection we currently face. One hundred guys can reject you on Grindr in a day—more, if you’re tenacious. Mythology suggests that the Greek poet Sappho threw herself off of a cliff due to her unrequited love for a ferryman named Phaon. Imagine if she’d been rejected one hundred times in a day? There aren’t enough cliffs in the world.
Take dating, which is primarily a social dance of rejection and attraction amongst the billions of people who’ve inhabited our planet. Technology has had an immeasurable effect on meeting and courting and coupling. At no other time in history has mankind had the ability to browse an infinite pool of potential partners each day, filtered for you by location, hobbies, fetishes, degrees, etc. I could, potentially, use Grindr’s Explore feature to place myself in Tokyo, meet a guy on the app, and be sipping warm saki with him in a week’s time. Were you to tell someone about this ten years ago, they’d side-eye you before looking back at their Blackberry.
On the flip side, dating has never brought about the sheer volume of rejection we currently face. One hundred guys can reject you on Grindr in a day—more, if you’re tenacious. Mythology suggests that the Greek poet Sappho threw herself off of a cliff due to her unrequited love for a ferryman named Phaon. Imagine if she’d been rejected one hundred times in a day? There aren’t enough cliffs in the world.
You’re Just Not His Tribe: Rejection and the queer community
‘Below Deck Med’ Charter Guest Says Rob Westergaard Was ‘100%’ Flirting With Her
Charter guest Hannah Yu recently shared that not only did deckhand Rob Westergaard from Below Deck Mediterranean flirt with her, but she also didn’t realize he was dating Jessica More.
Yu said she also didn’t know More and Westergaard were fighting. “Oh my God no, I had no idea,” Yu said on Another Below Deck podcast. Adding, “I didn’t even know they were together until the last night.”
“I completely thought he was single with all the things he was saying to me,” she continued. “I figured he was this guy that, you know how guys are … they just say stuff. And I was like whatever. But I was shocked.”
Rob Westergaard was totally flirting with her
Yu offered more context to the moment when Westergaard overtly flirted with her as he applied jellyfish ointment to her elbow.
Yu said she also didn’t know More and Westergaard were fighting. “Oh my God no, I had no idea,” Yu said on Another Below Deck podcast. Adding, “I didn’t even know they were together until the last night.”
“I completely thought he was single with all the things he was saying to me,” she continued. “I figured he was this guy that, you know how guys are … they just say stuff. And I was like whatever. But I was shocked.”
Rob Westergaard was totally flirting with her
Yu offered more context to the moment when Westergaard overtly flirted with her as he applied jellyfish ointment to her elbow.
‘Below Deck Med’ Charter Guest Says Rob Westergaard Was ‘100%’ Flirting With Her
Across the country, Black Americans feel under siege from the coronavirus pandemic and raw from the police brutality fueling Black Lives Matter protests. But some are nursing another intimate wound: their church’s failure to acknowledge their pain. Many Black parishioners, especially those at multiracial institutions, bristle when they hear rhetoric from church leaders that ignores how health inequities and racism are affecting the Black community right now. Others are hurt by their church’s conspicuous silence on these issues. The result is a quiet but resolute contingent of Black church members leaving their congregation to seek spiritual healing elsewhere.
Like others I talked with, Delisha, 58, isn’t one to miss church. For the past seven years, she has made sure to be in the faithful number of a large, multicultural New Orleans congregation. But after the pandemic hit in March, she decided to attend services only via live-stream. Black people like her are disproportionately at risk for severe illness or death from COVID-19, and Delisha, who lives with her elderly mother and a daughter with asthma, has hypertension. (Delisha asked that I identify her using only her middle name, because she had not yet contacted the church about her concerns.)
What she saw on video one Sunday dismayed her. As the camera panned over the congregation, she noted that some people had masks on and some didn’t. The church did not require them. What’s more, the pastor, who is white, scolded the missing members over live-stream: “Why are y’all not here today? You scared?”
Like others I talked with, Delisha, 58, isn’t one to miss church. For the past seven years, she has made sure to be in the faithful number of a large, multicultural New Orleans congregation. But after the pandemic hit in March, she decided to attend services only via live-stream. Black people like her are disproportionately at risk for severe illness or death from COVID-19, and Delisha, who lives with her elderly mother and a daughter with asthma, has hypertension. (Delisha asked that I identify her using only her middle name, because she had not yet contacted the church about her concerns.)
What she saw on video one Sunday dismayed her. As the camera panned over the congregation, she noted that some people had masks on and some didn’t. The church did not require them. What’s more, the pastor, who is white, scolded the missing members over live-stream: “Why are y’all not here today? You scared?”
Why some Latino essential workers remain overlooked amid racial reckoning protests
The vast majority of Latinos living in the U.S. (around 60.6 million) are not undocumented, but 15.7% lived in poverty in 2019, a number that had been falling, but is still more than double their white counterparts, according to Census data.
Latinos also make up a large portion of the labor force in service sectors that were considered essential after the COVID-19 pandemic started (some 65%) -- like some construction, health care and food service workers -- leaving them at higher risk of being exposed to the disease without the protections typically afforded first responders and other traditional essential workers.
"Why are Latinos dying at a higher rate? Because we have no choice," said Frankie Miranda, the president of the Hispanic Federation, which supports Latino-led non-profits around the country. "We have to go to work, stock the shelves, deliver the food, be the sanitation workers, and of course we don't have the protective gear or any kind of information that can help us really navigate this. We know this for sure because our member agencies -- that were already underfunded and under-resourced -- were the ones that needed to step in and be the first responders for our communities."
When asked why he believes the Mexican community has not jumped into action and demanded racial equality following the Black Lives Matter protests, Alvarez suggested: "We are too afraid. Even if you want to do a peaceful protest, you don't want to be arrested because you can get deported."
Alvarez's case points to another situation that many Latinos say is affecting the community: lack of unity.
Latinos also make up a large portion of the labor force in service sectors that were considered essential after the COVID-19 pandemic started (some 65%) -- like some construction, health care and food service workers -- leaving them at higher risk of being exposed to the disease without the protections typically afforded first responders and other traditional essential workers.
"Why are Latinos dying at a higher rate? Because we have no choice," said Frankie Miranda, the president of the Hispanic Federation, which supports Latino-led non-profits around the country. "We have to go to work, stock the shelves, deliver the food, be the sanitation workers, and of course we don't have the protective gear or any kind of information that can help us really navigate this. We know this for sure because our member agencies -- that were already underfunded and under-resourced -- were the ones that needed to step in and be the first responders for our communities."
When asked why he believes the Mexican community has not jumped into action and demanded racial equality following the Black Lives Matter protests, Alvarez suggested: "We are too afraid. Even if you want to do a peaceful protest, you don't want to be arrested because you can get deported."
Alvarez's case points to another situation that many Latinos say is affecting the community: lack of unity.
Why some Latino essential workers remain overlooked amid racial reckoning protests
Colt’s friendship with Vanessa was a huge point of contention in his relationship with Jess during the last season of 90 Day Fiancé: Happily Ever After? It caused several fights and, ultimately, pushed Jess to break up with Colt for good.
Colt finally admitted that he’d cheated on both Larissa and Jess with Vanessa. During the tell-all, he said he’d emotionally cheated on Larissa with Vanessa and that he slept with her while he was with Jess.
After the tell-all, Vanessa’s ex, True Lamaun, was interviewed by 90 Day Fiancé blogger John Yates to share his side of the story.
True says he knew Vanessa would speak regularly with Colt but he thought he was just a “buddy.” But as time went on, Vanessa and Colt started to spend more and more time together, including intimate lunches and road trips.
Colt finally admitted that he’d cheated on both Larissa and Jess with Vanessa. During the tell-all, he said he’d emotionally cheated on Larissa with Vanessa and that he slept with her while he was with Jess.
After the tell-all, Vanessa’s ex, True Lamaun, was interviewed by 90 Day Fiancé blogger John Yates to share his side of the story.
True says he knew Vanessa would speak regularly with Colt but he thought he was just a “buddy.” But as time went on, Vanessa and Colt started to spend more and more time together, including intimate lunches and road trips.
90 Day Fiancé’: Vanessa’s Ex Calls Colt ‘a Total Scumbag
Nico Tortorella Discusses Details of Their Polyamorous Marriage 
Nico Tortorella just gave fans a glimpse into their queer polyamorous marriage as well as their relationships with others. In a revealing interview with Attitude, they explained how their life is not defined by gender normative concepts but by love, loyalty, and exploration.
"I think that my own understanding of the binary of sexuality and the binary of gender has transitioned over the years,” Tortorella said, explaining they now try to educate others on the nature of their queerness rather than talk about “who I am with my family.”
Tortorella is married to non-binary and gender fluid activist and entrepreneur Bethany C. Meyers. Although they tied the knot officially in 2018, the pair have been friends and more for almost 15 years after having met during college. Their relationship is at its core one of affirmation and loyalty.
“I mean, Bethany’s my best friend and we have been through a ton of shit together,” Tortorella said.
According to Tortorella, their relationship with Meyers has been the anchor in both their lives.
"I think that my own understanding of the binary of sexuality and the binary of gender has transitioned over the years,” Tortorella said, explaining they now try to educate others on the nature of their queerness rather than talk about “who I am with my family.”
Tortorella is married to non-binary and gender fluid activist and entrepreneur Bethany C. Meyers. Although they tied the knot officially in 2018, the pair have been friends and more for almost 15 years after having met during college. Their relationship is at its core one of affirmation and loyalty.
“I mean, Bethany’s my best friend and we have been through a ton of shit together,” Tortorella said.
According to Tortorella, their relationship with Meyers has been the anchor in both their lives.
Nico Tortorella Discusses Details of Their Polyamorous Marriage
Marti Gould Cummings Wants Your Vote. But More Than That, They Want a Revolution
If you were going solely by that train wreck of a presidential debate on Tuesday night, it would be easy to lose some permanent measure of faith in the electoral system. One possible antidote to that hopelessness, though, is paying attention to the campaigns of the many local politicians who are furthering the fight to make America more equitable; one such politician is Marti Gould Cummings, a longtime activist and fixture of New York’s drag nightlife who is currently running for city council in New York’s Seventh District.
Cummings, who sits on the City of New York’s Community Board Nine and is an adviser on the NYC Nightlife Advisory Board, would be the first nonbinary person to hold public office in New York state if elected in 2021. This September, Vogue caught up with Cummings to discuss being one year out from their campaign launch, the challenges that COVID-19 has placed on nightlife, the need to defund the NYPD, and their vision for a more inclusive New York.
Cummings, who sits on the City of New York’s Community Board Nine and is an adviser on the NYC Nightlife Advisory Board, would be the first nonbinary person to hold public office in New York state if elected in 2021. This September, Vogue caught up with Cummings to discuss being one year out from their campaign launch, the challenges that COVID-19 has placed on nightlife, the need to defund the NYPD, and their vision for a more inclusive New York.
Marti Gould Cummings Wants Your Vote.
Lawsuits Challenge Virginia's Sexual Orientation Protections
High school bullies sing “For he’s a jolly good fa***t” after student comes out as bisexual
Porn Star Riley Reid Reveals The Person She Misses Most: 'We've Always Been Close'
Reid, born Ashley Mathews, revealed that she moved out from her family home nearly a decade ago and that her sister was “the person [she misses] most.” The porn star added that she “can’t wait” to see her sister again and “spend every day with her.”
But while Reid seems to share a close bond with her older sibling, the same may not apply to the rest of her family. She previously opened up about how her career has caused a strain in her relationships with her loved ones and affected her daily life.
“You have to be okay with being shamed every day of your life. You're putting yourself out there and the world is now judging you,” Reid said on her YouTube channel back in February.
But while Reid seems to share a close bond with her older sibling, the same may not apply to the rest of her family. She previously opened up about how her career has caused a strain in her relationships with her loved ones and affected her daily life.
“You have to be okay with being shamed every day of your life. You're putting yourself out there and the world is now judging you,” Reid said on her YouTube channel back in February.
Porn Star Riley Reid Reveals The Person She Misses Most: 'We've Always Been Close'
Eddie Redmayne Calls The Online Hatred Of J.K. Rowling "Absolutely Disgusting" 
The Fantastic Beasts star defended the author in a new interview with The Daily Mail, revealing that the "vitriol" against Rowling prompted him to write her a private note of support. However, he also made sure to stand up for the transgender community, saying that insults against them are "equally" disgusting. "Similarly, there continues to be a hideous torrent of abuse towards trans people online and out in the world that is devastating," he said.
"I would never want to speak on behalf of the community but I do know that my dear transgender friends and colleagues are tired of this constant questioning of their identities, which all too often results in violence and abuse."
"I would never want to speak on behalf of the community but I do know that my dear transgender friends and colleagues are tired of this constant questioning of their identities, which all too often results in violence and abuse."
Eddie Redmayne Calls The Online Hatred Of J.K. Rowling
TikTok 'Shadow-Banned' LGBTQ+ Hashtags in Several Languages
TikTok has "shadow-banned" several hashtags relating to the LGBTQ+ community.
A report released by the Australian Strategic Policy Institute indicated that terms like "gay," "lesbian," and "transgender" were restricted in several languages for global users, "no matter where in the world they live."
"TikTok users posting videos with these hashtags are given the impression their posts are just as searchable as posts by other users, but in fact they aren’t. In practice, most of these hashtags are categorised in TikTok’s code in the same way that terrorist groups, illicit substances and swear words are treated on the platform. On some occasions, hashtags are categorised as non-existent, when in fact they’re tagged on videos across the platform.
A report released by the Australian Strategic Policy Institute indicated that terms like "gay," "lesbian," and "transgender" were restricted in several languages for global users, "no matter where in the world they live."
"TikTok users posting videos with these hashtags are given the impression their posts are just as searchable as posts by other users, but in fact they aren’t. In practice, most of these hashtags are categorised in TikTok’s code in the same way that terrorist groups, illicit substances and swear words are treated on the platform. On some occasions, hashtags are categorised as non-existent, when in fact they’re tagged on videos across the platform.
TikTok 'Shadow-Banned' LGBTQ+ Hashtags in Several Languages
Gay hotel forced to remove BLM banner after anonymous complaint to city
US Marine who murdered a transgender woman was just pardoned
Gay bar raided by COVID “SWAT team” just hours after mayor changes regulations
Ga. Man Who Was 'Beautiful Light' Is Allegedly Killed by Female Friend in Argument Over $5
Tamar Braxton's Ex-Boyfriend David Adefeso Claims He Was Physically Abused By The Singer
A 60-year-old retired schoolteacher showed up to Kenosha's Civic Center Park on Thursday to serve as a one woman cheering squad for Joe Biden as he arrived in town - two days after President Trump's visit drew hundreds of supporters and protesters to the same downtown park.
'Maybe I'm in the wrong spot, I don't know,' Michelle Stauder told DailyMail.com just before a few Biden supporters walked over to join her. 'I hope to get it started.'
She waved a Biden-Harris sign and sported a red, white and blue cowboy hat, blue hair, flags and Joe buttons she crafted for the occasion, saying: 'I made my signs and buttons, I'm really excited.'
'Maybe I'm in the wrong spot, I don't know,' Michelle Stauder told DailyMail.com just before a few Biden supporters walked over to join her. 'I hope to get it started.'
She waved a Biden-Harris sign and sported a red, white and blue cowboy hat, blue hair, flags and Joe buttons she crafted for the occasion, saying: 'I made my signs and buttons, I'm really excited.'
Gay People Do Not Have License to Weaponize Homophobic Slurs
San Francisco, it turns out, is not all flowers and gentle people. Livable California, the statewide anti-density organization with headquarters in the city, recently used a homophobic slur about my coworker and me. In a July 9 response to someone else’s tweet on the topic of housing, Isaiah Madison, a member of the board of directors of Livable California, wrote:
"I don’t get paid by Livable California Mr. Anonymous. I fucking wish I did though lol. Maybe Abundant Housing can hire me like they did the other brown &black faggots to push for new housing on vacant parcels of land/strip malls once y’all get the fuck off of my community’s homes[.]"
"I don’t get paid by Livable California Mr. Anonymous. I fucking wish I did though lol. Maybe Abundant Housing can hire me like they did the other brown &black faggots to push for new housing on vacant parcels of land/strip malls once y’all get the fuck off of my community’s homes[.]"
Gay People Do Not Have License to Weaponize Homophobic Slurs
Fugitive dad arrested for slaying teen daughters in ‘honor killing’
A Texas father — one of the FBI’s Ten Most Wanted Fugitives — wanted for the slayings of his two teen daughters was busted after more than 12 years on the run, the federal law enforcement agency announced.
The teens were found shot multiple times in a cab outside an Irving motel after one of them called 911, saying she was dying, authorities said.
“Help,” the younger sister could be heard crying on a 911 recording. “I’m dying. Oh my God. Stop it.”
Relatives at the time told cops that Yaser threatened “bodily harm” against Sarah for going on a date with a non-Muslim.
The teens were found shot multiple times in a cab outside an Irving motel after one of them called 911, saying she was dying, authorities said.
“Help,” the younger sister could be heard crying on a 911 recording. “I’m dying. Oh my God. Stop it.”
Relatives at the time told cops that Yaser threatened “bodily harm” against Sarah for going on a date with a non-Muslim.
Fugitive dad arrested for slaying teen daughters in ‘honor killing’
Arsonist torches Jewish student center at University of Delaware
Joe Biden condemned the 'needless violence' in Kenosha, Wisconsin in the wake of police shooting Jacob Blake and said Wednesday he had spoken with members of Blake's family.
'Protesting brutality is a right and absolutely necessary, but burning down communities is not protest, it's needless violence,' Biden said. 'Violence that endangers lives, violence that guts businesses and shutters businesses that serve the community, that's wrong.'
The Democratic presidential nominee said he had spoken with Blake's mother, father and sister, and quoted his mother Julia Jackson in the short video Biden posted to Twitter.
'Protesting brutality is a right and absolutely necessary, but burning down communities is not protest, it's needless violence,' Biden said. 'Violence that endangers lives, violence that guts businesses and shutters businesses that serve the community, that's wrong.'
The Democratic presidential nominee said he had spoken with Blake's mother, father and sister, and quoted his mother Julia Jackson in the short video Biden posted to Twitter.
Joe Biden condemns 'needless violence'
CUNY president phased out white male staffers for minority women: suit
An ex-security chief at CUNY’s Kingsborough Community College claims that the school president has been systematically phasing out male white employees replacing them with minority women, new court papers show.
James Capozzi, an Italian-American, claims he was unjustly booted from his job as Director of Public Safety at the Manhattan Beach campus in 2019 — and that he was only the tip of the iceberg, according to a discrimination suit filed in Brooklyn Supreme Court.
The 58-year-old from Queens earned a $143,805 salary at the school in 2019, according to See Through NY.
College president Claudia Schrader — who earned $232,704 in 2019, according to See Through NY — told Capozzi, through his supervisor, that she wanted to go in a “different direction” when she had him fired just shy of his fifth year on the job, the court papers from Tuesday claim.
And Capozzi would have been eligible for a bonus if he’d made it through the fifth year at the school, the suit says.
Schrader replaced Capozzi with a black lieutenant who he says was less qualified, less experienced and less educated than Capozzi — whose qualifications included a law degree and 30 years in law enforcement, the court documents claim.
James Capozzi, an Italian-American, claims he was unjustly booted from his job as Director of Public Safety at the Manhattan Beach campus in 2019 — and that he was only the tip of the iceberg, according to a discrimination suit filed in Brooklyn Supreme Court.
The 58-year-old from Queens earned a $143,805 salary at the school in 2019, according to See Through NY.
College president Claudia Schrader — who earned $232,704 in 2019, according to See Through NY — told Capozzi, through his supervisor, that she wanted to go in a “different direction” when she had him fired just shy of his fifth year on the job, the court papers from Tuesday claim.
And Capozzi would have been eligible for a bonus if he’d made it through the fifth year at the school, the suit says.
Schrader replaced Capozzi with a black lieutenant who he says was less qualified, less experienced and less educated than Capozzi — whose qualifications included a law degree and 30 years in law enforcement, the court documents claim.
CUNY president phased out white male staffers for minority women: suit
