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8 warning signs that a man is having a midlife crisis
Sports cars and hairpieces. Robbing the cradle and running away. Sure they're cliche, but if these images leap to mind when you hear the words "midlife crisis," you're not alone.
The thing about cliches, though, is most are based on fact. In this case, the facts are staggering. More than half of respondents to a poll on Notmuch.com, a website produced by Wisconsin Public Radio, said that the midlife crisis is a "very real, gut-wrenchingly depressing experience that we all go through at one time or another."
Does this mean that the man in your life is suffering through a crisis of his own? Not necessarily, but here are eight symptoms of the male midlife crisis and what you can do about them:
4. He makes a dramatic change in his personal style or appearance and is suddenly spending lots of time in front of a mirror
If your man has kicked up the vanity a notch (for example, wants hair plugs or starts getting facials even though he used to take pleasure in shower-free weekends), then you may have a problem. If the guy who always prided himself on his Roman nose is now talking about rhinoplasty, then your problem is a little bigger. The first step in boosting your man's bruised (and aging) ego is to compliment him. Sometimes, however, this isn't enough. That's when you just have to be patient.
Unfortunately, an increased sense of vanity is sometimes a sign that a man is having an affair. Obviously this is a bigger problem that usually requires couples counseling to repair the relationship, if it's possible at all.
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Why do so many gay men feel lonely? A life coach gives the unfiltered truth
The gay men I work with range from their 20s to 50s. The guys in their 20s are often more attuned to coaching. They’re proactive about their growth and preempt problems by making informed choices. They can be savvy about the need for personal investment.
For older guys, certain issues come up regularly. They include learning to thrive as a gay man as they get older, finding meaningful work and creating authentic connections.
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A new documentary premieres this evening at the Luminate Festival in Glasgow.
Return To The Closet was commissioned especially by Luminate and LGBT Health & Wellbeing. Filmmaker Glenda Rome helmed the production.
The documentary talks to several LGBTI people in Scotland aged 50+ about their fears as they age. Many of these revolve around losing independence and having to rely on support from carers or enter residential care.
‘I fear, if I go into care, I don’t want to return to the closet. I’ve been out of the closet since my early 20s, so it’s something that bothers me,’ says one participant.
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What I Learned About Loving My Body as a Gay Man
Everyone has a story about their body. Some of us want to look great for the beach, to feel powerful and sexy when we’re in bed with someone, or to move easily without pain or discomfort.
My body’s story has everything to do with being gay.
As a kid, I was always sick and had more allergies than you could count. I had allergies to foods, dust, pollens, and fragrances. I reacted in many ways, from a skin rash to hives, earaches that were beyond painful, diarrhea, flu-like symptoms, and days spent sick in bed. To make matters worse, I was diagnosed as ADHD. Imagine pairing an allergic reaction and ADHD together! Suffice to say I never felt like I had much control over my body as a child.
Being sick a lot made me aware of how my body responded to food and foods that did not agree with me. Perhaps because of my mother’s intervention and being so reactive to food as a child, I never got fat. I was always skinny. When you’re sick all the time it’s difficult to gain weight.
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Senior safety in focus in wake of Palm Springs home invasion and sexual assault
"It is a concern, it is my age bracket, it is a very serious matter," said Frobish.
86-year-old Chuck Miller of Yucca Valley says Monday's incident should serve as a "wake up call".
"My reaction is seniors hopefully will be more alert and more astute to their surroundings," said Miller.
The Palm Springs Police Department revealed some details of the crime during a press conference Tuesday.
Judge rules against elderly lesbians rejected from retirement home
A federal judge this week ruled against a lesbian couple who sued a Missouri retirement home for rejecting their apartment application because their marriage is not "understood in the Bible.”
Bev Nance, 68, and Mary Walsh, 72, were married a decade ago in Massachusetts and have been in a committed relationship for roughly 40 years.
Report: CBS Honcho Les Moonves Was Obsessed With Destroying Janet Jackson After Her Super Bowl ‘Wardrobe Malfunction’
According to a report by Huffington Post, Les Moonves, the CEO and chairman of CBS, was obsessed with destroying the career of Janet Jackson following the 2004 Super Bowl’s notorious half-time show, during which the singer’s breast was exposed, allegedly inadvertently, for nine-sixteenths of a second. According to HuffPo’s sources, Moonves did all he could to make sure her career was wrecked in a ditch.
The incident, which happened in a show produced by CBS and MTV, was explained as a “wardrobe malfunction,” and many believe that the whole thing was more the fault of Justin Timberlake. However, Moonves — who was recently accused of decades of sexual misconduct — allegedly never bought that explanation, believing that the whole thing was an intentional attempt to foment controversy and publicity by Jackson. He believed Jackson was insufficiently repentant, and, the report claims, he singled her out for vengeance.
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Burt Reynolds was able to live out his final years at his longtime Florida estate thanks to a loving landlord who helped him out of a financial crisis.
Here's the backstory -- Burt sold his home in 2015 to his friend and neighbor Charles Modica after years of money woes and a decade-long struggle to unload it, but Charles allowed him to stay there for the rest of his life ... similar to Hugh Hefner at the Playboy Mansion.
Maryland Woman Killed by Pit Bull She Adopted Just 2 Weeks Earlier: 'The Dog Went After Her'
A 64-year-old Maryland woman is dead after her newly adopted pit bull mauled her to death on Monday in her backyard, police say.
Elderly lesbian gains victory against retirement home for harassment
An elderly woman said she was harassed and discriminated against at her retirement home in Illinois for being a lesbian. On Monday (28 August), a US appeals court granted her a crucial victory.
Marsha Wetzel moved into Glen St. Andrew Living Community in Niles, right outside of Chicago, after her longtime partner passed away.
While residing there, she said she faced terrible homophobic abuse, including residents yelling slurs at her and spitting on her.
In another incident, Wetzel alleged one resident rammed into her scooter and toppled it over. She said she fell and bruised her arm.
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Mario Batali Now Under Criminal Investigation by Boston Police for Allegedly Groping Woman
Mario Batali is now facing criminal investigations in two states for sexual assault.
Natali Tene, the 28-year-old woman who is suing Batali in Massachusetts for groping her in a Boston bar last year, also filed a complaint against the chef with the Boston Police Department over the alleged assault. BPD confirmed to Eater that it is investigating Tene’s claim, which she made on June 22.
Tene, whose story was detailed in an Eater investigation earlier this year, claims that Batali rubbed her breasts, grabbed her buttocks, and forcibly kissed her in a Boston bar last April when the former fan took selfies with celebrity chef; she is suing Batali for assault and battery and seeking damages for emotional distress and humiliation. After Eater reported on Batali’s pattern of sexual misconduct in December, Tene — along with a number of other women — came forward to tell their accounts of being groped by Batali.
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Drunken Rampage at Pride Festival Nets Man Hate-Crime Charge
Sean Wiley, 31, is accused of going on a drunken rampage at this month's Delaware Pride Festival, and now he's facing multiple charges, including a hate crime, reports Philadelphia's ABC affiliate.
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Police use Taser on 87-year-old woman cutting dandelions with a knife
An 87-year-old grandmother using a knife to cut dandelions in the woods near her rural Georgia home last week was taken down by a police Taser and arrested, according a police report.
Martha Al-Bishara was arrested for criminal trespass and obstruction of a police officer, according to the report. Chatsworth Police said Al-Bishara did not drop a steak knife despite several commands and a demonstration by officers. At one point, she walked toward officers with the knife, police said.
Police had gone to a wooded area near a Boys and Girls Club last Friday after an employee called 911 to report that an elderly woman was walking around with a knife in the community, around 80 miles north of Atlanta.
"There's a lady walking on the bike trails, she has a knife and she won't leave," the caller told a dispatcher. "She told me she doesn't speak English, and she's walking up the trail with a knife towards me."
"It looks like she's walking around looking for something, vegetation to cut down or something. She has a bag too," the caller said.
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Do gay men have a particular problem with getting older?
Are gay men particularly terrified of getting older?
None of us wants to get older and we’d all like to stop the clock if we could. But I’m beginning to wonder if gay men in particular struggle with ageing.
Now in my late 40s, I think my mental health is pretty good most of the time. For that I’m grateful. But when I look around, I see too many of my peers battling to cope. Struggling to the point of suicide.
Again, this isn’t just a gay problem. Despite the privilege we enjoy, men are disproportionately likely to die from suicide than women by a ratio of around 3 to 1. Some associate this with issues around masculinity: not talking about one’s feelings, and being too afraid or embarrassed to ask for help.
Combine toxic masculinity with homophobia (both internal and external), and it’s little surprise that gay men suffer from additional mental health challenges.
But this still doesn’t explain why I’m seeing so many gay men in their 40s and 50s in distress
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