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10 Outdated Disney Movies Parents Won't Show Their Kids, According to New Poll
With screen time limits completely out the window due to the coronavirus pandemic and weeks on end indoors, my husband and I have been letting our 20-month-old watch more TV and movies than we otherwise would. When we couldn't take one more Blue's Clues episode or Trolls rewatch, we broke out the next social distancing tool up our sleeves: Disney+, Disney's streaming service.
Mickey Mouse Clubhouse, Moana, and Toy Story were all hits—we've got a major Buzz Lightyear fan on our hands—but when it came time to watch 1953's Peter Pan, we were struck by how outdated it was. I certainly didn't remember all of the racism and sexism. Between Peter Pan telling Wendy that "girls talk too much," the guns (!!), Tinker Bell trying to kill Wendy over jealousy, and the treatment of Native Americans (“What makes the red man red?"—seriously?!), I was happy when my son walked away to play with his toys and just wasn't that into it.
‘I just want to talk to someone’ – how coronavirus is increasing isolation among older LGBTQ people
Coronavirus is having a particularly negative effect on older members of the LGBTQ community.
Older people already experience high levels of loneliness and social isolation, but that issue can be even more prevalent among those in the LGBTQ community, who are more likely to not have children and lack family networks.
Now, with lockdown and social-distancing measures in place as a result of the COVID-19 pandemic, it’s worried that the problem will become even worse, as visits from loved ones or carers become even less frequent or stop altogether.
Opening Doors London is the largest charity providing information and support to LGBTQ people over the age of 50 in the UK. They’ve had to halt hundreds of face-to-face visits to ensure the safety of their older members and volunteer supporters.
“For some of our members, seeing their befriender or going to one of our groups is the only time in the week that they get to be around other LGBTQ people and feel part of a community who appreciates them for who they are,” explains Befriending Coordinator Meghan Herring.
“Having to suspend our face-to-face activities, we knew that it would be hard on a lot of people. One of our members said, ‘I just want to talk freely to someone to help give my brain a break. I really need to rest it more but my thoughts have nowhere to go’.”
Gays Must Stop Cheek-Kissing During the Coronavirus Outbreak
The French call it "la bise." For many gay men, it is a customary greeting at Sunday brunch or any other communal gathering: cheek-kissing, where one or both sides of the face receive a smooch from a friend.
However, such a gesture could help spread the outbreak of COVID-19 (or coronavirus disease), say world health officials, who are cautioning against cheek-kissing, hand-shaking, and high-fives.
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New CDC guidance says older adults should 'stay at home as much as possible' due to coronavirus
Some older gay men date younger partners – but the reasons are more complex than you think
“It is intellectual, and it repeatedly exists between an older and a younger man,” began Oscar Wilde during his testimony for gross indecency in 1895.
“When the older man has intellect, and the younger man has all the joy, hope and glamour of life before him. That it should be so, the world does not understand. So the world mocks at it.”
Over 100 years on, it is still largely true that “the world does not understand.” So much so, these very words by Wilde are used in the context of contemporary queer cultural discussions today.
Science tells us that trauma is often carried with us for life and can lead to complicated repercussions when it comes to sexual attraction. One resultant effect is that gay men are far more likely to fetishise body image and form deep sexual attractions to certain types of men – such as an insistence on dating particularly masculine, particularly feminine or particularly old or young men – and are likely to carry those image obsessions with them throughout their lives.
"I'm 51 and gay, but I can't come out": callers opens up to James O'Brien
This is the powerful moment a caller came out as gay to James O'Brien and opened up about why he can't tell anyone else.
This Morning presenter Phillip Schofield, who has been married for almost 27 years and has two grown up daughters, has announced that he is gay.
James' caller Joe found the story "amazing" and felt compelled to call in because he is gay and feels unable to tell anyone.
"I've turned to drugs," said Joe, "I'm 50 years old and I turned to drugs 12 months ago."
"Because the stress of keeping it secret was too much for you?" asked James, and Joe confirmed that he at times has felt suicidal having to hide the truth after realising he was gay at 12.
I'm at the age where food has taken the place of sex in my life. In fact, I've just had a mirror put over my kitchen table.
Rodney Dangerfield 17-Jan-2020
Tampa Man Charged With Threatening to Wipe Out City's Gay Community
A Tampa, Fla., man has been arrested on charges of making a threat to wipe out the city’s gay community in a mass shooting.
Ralph Perkins, 50, made the threat after being rejected on a dating app, police told the Tampa Bay Times. The app was not identified.
Terrorists planted a bomb in their gay brother’s luggage because he brought “shame” to the family
Attackers kicked & punched a gay man while shouting slurs. Now the victim is fleeing New York City.
Gay newlyweds say their honeymoon was ruined after cruise ship staff mocked them nonstop
Judge who was sanctioned for being anti-LGBTQ sues to get a religious exemption from the law
The Epidemic of Gay Loneliness
For years I’ve noticed the divergence between my straight friends and my gay friends. While one half of my social circle has disappeared into relationships, kids and suburbs, the other has struggled through isolation and anxiety, hard drugs and risky sex.
None of this fits the narrative I have been told, the one I have told myself. Like me, Jeremy did not grow up bullied by his peers or rejected by his family. He can’t remember ever being called a faggot. He was raised in a West Coast suburb by a lesbian mom. “She came out to me when I was 12,” he says. “And told me two sentences later that she knew I was gay. I barely knew at that point.”
This is a picture of me and my family when I was 9. My parents still claim that they had no idea I was gay. They’re sweet.
Jeremy and I are 34. In our lifetime, the gay community has made more progress on legal and social acceptance than any other demographic group in history. As recently as my own adolescence, gay marriage was a distant aspiration, something newspapers still put in scare quotes. Now, it’s been enshrined in law by the Supreme Court. Public support for gay marriage has climbed from 27 percent in 1996 to 61 percent in 2016. In pop culture, we’ve gone from “Cruising” to “Queer Eye” to “Moonlight.” Gay characters these days are so commonplace they’re even allowed to have flaws.
Gay Loneliness Is Real—but “Bitchy, Toxic” Culture Isn’t the Full Story
8 warning signs that a man is having a midlife crisis
Sports cars and hairpieces. Robbing the cradle and running away. Sure they're cliche, but if these images leap to mind when you hear the words "midlife crisis," you're not alone.
The thing about cliches, though, is most are based on fact. In this case, the facts are staggering. More than half of respondents to a poll on Notmuch.com, a website produced by Wisconsin Public Radio, said that the midlife crisis is a "very real, gut-wrenchingly depressing experience that we all go through at one time or another."
Does this mean that the man in your life is suffering through a crisis of his own? Not necessarily, but here are eight symptoms of the male midlife crisis and what you can do about them:
4. He makes a dramatic change in his personal style or appearance and is suddenly spending lots of time in front of a mirror
If your man has kicked up the vanity a notch (for example, wants hair plugs or starts getting facials even though he used to take pleasure in shower-free weekends), then you may have a problem. If the guy who always prided himself on his Roman nose is now talking about rhinoplasty, then your problem is a little bigger. The first step in boosting your man's bruised (and aging) ego is to compliment him. Sometimes, however, this isn't enough. That's when you just have to be patient.
Unfortunately, an increased sense of vanity is sometimes a sign that a man is having an affair. Obviously this is a bigger problem that usually requires couples counseling to repair the relationship, if it's possible at all.
Midlife Crisis Signs & Guide
Why do so many gay men feel lonely? A life coach gives the unfiltered truth
The gay men I work with range from their 20s to 50s. The guys in their 20s are often more attuned to coaching. They’re proactive about their growth and preempt problems by making informed choices. They can be savvy about the need for personal investment.
For older guys, certain issues come up regularly. They include learning to thrive as a gay man as they get older, finding meaningful work and creating authentic connections.
Gay Star News
Jake Bain, Who Made Headlines as Out Gay Football Player, Quits Indiana State Team
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Police accused of breaking into gay man’s home & taunting him with slurs while they assaulted him
Attack Leaves Trans Performer's Face Partially Paralyzed
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This gay man has great advice about having sex when you get older
Older LGBTI people fear having to return to the closet
A new documentary premieres this evening at the Luminate Festival in Glasgow.
Return To The Closet was commissioned especially by Luminate and LGBT Health & Wellbeing. Filmmaker Glenda Rome helmed the production.
The documentary talks to several LGBTI people in Scotland aged 50+ about their fears as they age. Many of these revolve around losing independence and having to rely on support from carers or enter residential care.
‘I fear, if I go into care, I don’t want to return to the closet. I’ve been out of the closet since my early 20s, so it’s something that bothers me,’ says one participant.
Gay Star News
What I Learned About Loving My Body as a Gay Man
Everyone has a story about their body. Some of us want to look great for the beach, to feel powerful and sexy when we’re in bed with someone, or to move easily without pain or discomfort.
My body’s story has everything to do with being gay.
As a kid, I was always sick and had more allergies than you could count. I had allergies to foods, dust, pollens, and fragrances. I reacted in many ways, from a skin rash to hives, earaches that were beyond painful, diarrhea, flu-like symptoms, and days spent sick in bed. To make matters worse, I was diagnosed as ADHD. Imagine pairing an allergic reaction and ADHD together! Suffice to say I never felt like I had much control over my body as a child.
Being sick a lot made me aware of how my body responded to food and foods that did not agree with me. Perhaps because of my mother’s intervention and being so reactive to food as a child, I never got fat. I was always skinny. When you’re sick all the time it’s difficult to gain weight.
The Good Men Project
'What happens when I'm no longer desirable?' How fear of ageing took over my 20s
Have you ever felt lonely whilst being in a romantic relationship?
Senior safety in focus in wake of Palm Springs home invasion and sexual assault
"It is a concern, it is my age bracket, it is a very serious matter," said Frobish.
86-year-old Chuck Miller of Yucca Valley says Monday's incident should serve as a "wake up call".
"My reaction is seniors hopefully will be more alert and more astute to their surroundings," said Miller.
The Palm Springs Police Department revealed some details of the crime during a press conference Tuesday.
Judge rules against elderly lesbians rejected from retirement home
A federal judge this week ruled against a lesbian couple who sued a Missouri retirement home for rejecting their apartment application because their marriage is not "understood in the Bible.”
Bev Nance, 68, and Mary Walsh, 72, were married a decade ago in Massachusetts and have been in a committed relationship for roughly 40 years.
Report: CBS Honcho Les Moonves Was Obsessed With Destroying Janet Jackson After Her Super Bowl ‘Wardrobe Malfunction’
According to a report by Huffington Post, Les Moonves, the CEO and chairman of CBS, was obsessed with destroying the career of Janet Jackson following the 2004 Super Bowl’s notorious half-time show, during which the singer’s breast was exposed, allegedly inadvertently, for nine-sixteenths of a second. According to HuffPo’s sources, Moonves did all he could to make sure her career was wrecked in a ditch.
The incident, which happened in a show produced by CBS and MTV, was explained as a “wardrobe malfunction,” and many believe that the whole thing was more the fault of Justin Timberlake. However, Moonves — who was recently accused of decades of sexual misconduct — allegedly never bought that explanation, believing that the whole thing was an intentional attempt to foment controversy and publicity by Jackson. He believed Jackson was insufficiently repentant, and, the report claims, he singled her out for vengeance.
New Yorker details 6 new allegations of sexual misconduct against CBS chief Les Moonves
Les Moonves is out at CBS after harassment allegations, corporate battle
Accused CBS producer is a no-show at work following Moonves resignation
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