All Posts Tagged as 'Parental Burden'

My parents are currently trying to “help” my 29-year-old brother by allowing him to move out to their new beach house and subsidizing his rent so he can get a fresh start in life.

My parents have always seemed to favor my brother, and I was finally able to heal and move on from the hurt a few years ago. I am two years younger and my husband and I have our own house, own two new cars, and have two stable incomes.

I have worked for everything that I have in life, and I am grateful for how I was raised because being forced to earn everything, including my parents affection, has allowed me to have the life I do now

My parents have always supported my brother emotionally and financially. They currently pay for his phone plan, his cell phone, his car loan — after he totalled his last car two weeks ago — and now his rent.

He depends on them for almost everything in life. They are encouraging him to move to get a fresh start on their dime instead of taking a leap and getting an apartment. They are doing this because they didn’t want him to have a mortgage.

Meanwhile, I am finishing my accounting degree before sitting for the CPA (my husband and I are paying 100%), and my parents are encouraging me to NOT get my master’s degree because it’s useless and would make my brother feel worse. They say that we are already married and have a house so why do we need more.

A New Jersey woman has filed suit against Starbucks, claiming she was wrongfully terminated for refusing to wear an official company Pride T-shirt that she says violated her religious beliefs.

When Betsy Fresse began working as a barista at a Starbucks in Hoboken in 2018, she alleged in court filings, her managers knew of her religious beliefs. She regularly requested Sundays and certain evenings off to attend church gatherings.

A few months later, Fresse transferred to a Starbucks in Glen Ridge, New Jersey.

In June 2019, she and other staffers attended a meeting in the store manager’s office where, she claims, she saw a box of Starbucks Pride T-shirts on the floor by his desk. After the room cleared out, Fresse asked the manager if she would be required to wear the shirt during her shifts. According to Fresse, he said she would not.

An NYPD cop accused of masturbating in front of a 10-year-old girl resigned on Monday after another arrest — this one for allegedly sexually abusing an 11-year-old girl, police and sources said.

Shaun Frazier, 40, who had been suspended without pay following his Sept. 2019 arrest, was caught in Bensalem Township, Pennsylvania on Saturday and extradited to New York on Monday, police sources said.

He was charged in Brooklyn with criminal sexual act, sexual abuse and endangering the welfare of a child, police said.

Frazier’s newest charges were brought following an internal affairs investigation and are alleged to have occured in 2017.

The alleged victim in that case is a family friend who was 11 at the time, sources said.

In any other year, a glittering homecoming dance in McDonough, Georgia, wouldn’t be controversial.

But during the raging coronavirus pandemic, from which at least 257,072 Americans have died, Ola High School had no plans to host a mass gathering of singing and sweating teenagers. So parents in the town about 35 miles south of Atlanta did it themselves, with few precautions, on Nov. 14.

“It’s my daughter’s senior year, so I hosted a dance,” one parent, Beth Knight, told The Daily Beast over Facebook messenger. “It was terrific.”

“We sold over 300 tickets, but only about 250 kids actually showed up because they were warned by teachers and coaches that they should not attend because of the virus,” Knight added. “The kids who came had fun.”

Throughout my life, ever since my earliest memory, I have never even spared a single, solitary thought on the idea that I was in any way unequal to a man. It never crossed my mind that I would not have my own career, be in any way financially dependent on a wallet with testicles. It never occurred to me that a woman could not run the country (I was born under Thatcher), that a woman could not be a boss (my mum was one) that a woman could not shoot, ride and fight like a man (yes, I may have watched a lot of Calamity Jane and Buffy growing up).

Gender inequality? It was a systemic issue to be toppled, sure, but not a lived reality for me.

And yet now, at 31, I find myself wrestling with a belated and thoroughly unpleasant notion.

We are not equal.

Why? Because I’m in that decade, the one where marriage and babies becomes, not a ‘one day’ concern, but an approaching reality. And yet- should I be lucky enough to have a baby- the idea of having one fills me with an absolute, vicelike dread. Because it may take two to bonk that baby into existence, but after the fun part’s over; it’s all on me.

We know that women make less than men during the best of times—in 2018 women’s weekly wages were 81.1% that of men, according to a report from the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics. During this recession not only were sectors with higher proportions of female employees disproportionately affected, but female employees have been disproportionately more likely to be laid off than their male counterparts. Women-owned businesses are also more likely to be in the healthcare, education, or retail sectors that have been so hard hit during COVID-19. Partially due to lower income overall, women also tend to have less buffer to weather financial storms.

This paints a dire picture for women’s mental health. We can readily empathize with financial strain, the fear that accompanies it and the catastrophic negative impact it can have on mental health. We may also appreciate that despite the reluctance we might frequently feel to get out of bed and go to work on a Monday morning, there is a well-established link between employment and mental health. We know that becoming unemployed is associated with depression and suicidality, and that gaining employment is associated with an improvement in mental health. Furthermore, in a socially distanced world in which women are substantially less able to receive household help or have contact with females outside their immediate household, there is a greater burden on the support that partners provide. Unfortunately, we know that within relationships, financial concerns are a major driver of conflict between partners, jeopardizing the support available to struggling mothers.

My best friend passed away unexpectedly nine months ago. It was not something that I ever thought would happen.

"She left behind 3 children, 8[Male], 4[Female] and 1[Female]. My husband and I were written to be her children's godparents."

We have never wanted children of our own and do not have any, but we accepted the role of being godparents because we figured that it's just a formality. Plus my best friend did not have many other people she could rely on."

"I want the children. My husband does not. He said he's willing to take care of them on weekends or something but not be their permanent guardian."

"He said keeping the children would violate a pretty big part of our marriage, considering he has never wanted children and has even got a vasectomy to prevent them."

“They told me I was a bad child,” Ethan told the court, according to AL.com. “They told me no one loved me or would ever love me.”

In November 2016, when he was 14, Kelly was brought to a local hospital by his parents. He was malnourished, unable to talk, drooling, had tremors, and Richard Kelly had used duct tape to cover a wound on his knee, police said.

“There was a chance Ethan would not make it,” medical staff told detectives, AL.com reported. The teenager reportedly weighed 55 pounds at the time.

"It all changed when I saw Ethan’s bedroom,'' Det. Sean Boczar said in court. “I had to second-guess myself that someone was actually living in that room.”

Ethan’s bathroom trips were monitored, investigators said. Sometimes he was forced to use a litterbox, and other times was provided with diapers, they added.

From age 11 until his removal from the home, Ethan Kelly spent up to 23 hours a day imprisoned in the tiny room.

“I cried every night and prayed for Jesus to end it all,” he said in court, WBMA-LD reported. “I’m not who I used to be. I’m not even who I was supposed to be. I lived the story of Cinderella with no happy ending.”

President Trump is reportedly considering signing an executive order ending birthright citizenship before he leaves the Oval Office.

On Friday, various sources told The Hill that members of the Trump Administration have been discussing the issue with increasing frequency. They are hoping to push the President into taking action before Joe Biden is sworn in on January 20.

Under current law, all babies born in United States are automatically granted citizenship, regardless of whether or not their parents are American. An executive order signed by President Trump would likely put an end to such legal protections.

Two boys who claim to have been kidnapped, beaten, raped and buried alive in a ten-hour ordeal have given their terrifying account of the attack to Swedish police.

The pair described a night of terror that unfolded in a cemetery in the Solna region, north of Stockholm, on August 22 - beginning with an offer of drugs, and ending with them looking like they'd 'showered in blood'.

During the assault, the pair say they were kicked and punched countless times, stabbed, burned, stripped naked and forced to dig their own graves.

Nearly 200 people have been arrested in a shocking child sex trafficking case centered on one teenage girl whose own mother allegedly sold her for sex or drugs in Florida.

Officials say the victim was 13 and 14 when most of the alleged offenses occurred but the abuse may have started before her 13th birthday.

Overall 106 people face felony charges including human trafficking and lewd and lascivious battery on a child under 16, and 18 of those are being charged federally. Meanwhile, 72 face misdemeanor charges, including solicitation of prostitution, and notices to appear.

Some of the people linked to the case include a grade school physical education teacher and a high-profile booster for Florida State University, as per the Tallahassee Democrat.

'The sheer number. The all-day, everyday, all-the-time solicitation and sexual activity and talk about cash for money and clearly meeting. I had never seen something just that prolific,' Tallahassee Police Department Investigator Elizabeth Bascom, who first uncovered the victim being sold online, said.

'When you can go online and order a pizza and a girl at the same time, and the girl shows up to your door before the pizza, our society is in trouble. OK, that’s where we are. It is unbelievably accessible,' she said, calling the abuse 'horrific'.

Journalist Megyn Kelly has made the decision to quit New York City and take her children out of their 'far-left' schools as they 'gave gone off the deep end' following the death of George Floyd.

Kelly revealed she snapped after a letter was sent around to faculty in her sons' school that claimed 'white school districts across the country [are] full of future killer cops'.

It added that 'white kids are being indoctrinated in black death' and are 'left unchecked and unbothered in their schools'.

My husband and I have been together for four years and married for one. I love him immensely and would do just about anything for him—except have kids. We discussed this before getting married, and I was indifferent. I pushed past not wanting to get married, so I thought I’d be able to push past how I felt about raising children.

Then I came up with a solution that may be extremely harmful to us or may be the answer to our prayers. I’ve suggested he co-parents with someone local, with whom he can have shared custody. He would be able to interact with his child every day—nurture, love, and raise them. The child can live with us occasionally, and I could be like an aunt: caring but ultimately not responsible. My husband did not initially like this idea. He saw it as intentionally having an “outside” child and felt he’d be painted the unfaithful partner whose wife was gracious enough to accept his infidelity. He argued that no one would believe that it was my choice. After the nth conversation, I think he realized that what was indifference from me has turned into an actual no. So now he’s come around.

But now a new problem has arisen: Hearing him talk about this potential child and opportunity and how he would spend hours a day away so he could get maximum time with this child has made me … jealous? I’m not even sure what this feeling is, because I can’t identify it. I don’t even recognize myself—I’ve turned into a monster who is threatened by a nonexistent child. I actually feel ashamed. Now I’m stuck. On one hand, if we negotiate a co-parenting situation, he could be satisfied and even happy. Yet this feeling I’m having is starting to get worse. I’m thinking about all the possible ways it could go wrong: custody battles, garnished wages, him leaving me for this woman he will be co-parenting with, and (shamefully) my feelings being hurt. I don’t know if we’d survive, and I feel he’d blame me if it went awry. On the other hand, he wants kids, and there’s a very real possibility he could leave. There’s a part of me that says I could just have his kids and solve this problem, but then I’d be the miserable one. Is there a solution somewhere that I’m not seeing?

—His and Not Hers

A Christian school science teacher in Florida was detained on Monday for demanding that his student send him sexual videos, or risk getting a poor grade.

Dion Bryant, 25, was booked at the Orange County Jail on charges of lewd conduct with a student by an authority figure, use of a child in sexual performance and unlawful use of a two-way communication device.

Bryant was a science teacher at the Winners Primary school.

He was detained at the Orlando area school, WESH reports.

According to arrest affidavit from the Orange County Sheriff's Office, Bryant gave his phone number to a male student and later began soliciting explicit videos from the student.

Authorities in Florida have arrested two teenage brothers for the brutal murder of a 21-year-old man, who they say was lured to his death with the promise of sex before being stabbed, beaten with a baseball bat and dumped in an orange grove.

Danne Frazier was reported missing by his mother on November 4 after failing to return from work at a Publix supermarket warehouse.

Six days later, a work crew found the 21-year-old's battered body under a pile of debris in Lake Wales and contacted the Polk County Sheriff's Department, which determined that Frazier's death resulted from foul play.