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Two Houses Is Better Than a Divorce
Getting married is like voluntarily committing oneself to ride a tandem bike forever with no real destination. When one person gets tired, the other has to pedal harder or the entire operation collapses, and most divorce proceedings are just both partners yelling that if the other had pedaled hard enough then the bike would still be moving. Perhaps the appeal of living apart together (LAT) is avoiding this pressure for married couples to constantly synch up and operate in tandem rather than operating as separate entities that come together when it suits. LAT seems like an ideal solution for many of the problems that arise over the course of a marriage, affording the opportunity to be responsible for one’s own bike without having any reason to critique anyone else’s peddling.
After the 136th failed and waste of attempt to establish a LTR with a man, my mother exclaimed that it doesn't seem boy on boy relationships work. After more than 30 years of fighting it, I gave up and concurred. Every gay man wants one, few achieve it and many of us have no fucking idea how to score it. Sometimes I feel our legacy is just loving puppies and swallowing dick. 14-Jan-2020
Sometimes I believe our community has become what we most hated. 11-Jan-2020
The less we brag, the less they'll hate. (If we are all equal, what is the need?) 09-Jan-2020
What Today’s Teen Boys Really Think About Sex, Toxic Masculinity, and #MeToo
Conversations around toxic masculinity, consent, and the ways boys are taught about sex and relationships are extremely prevalent today. How have these conversations affected boys’ real lives? Or are they still dealing with the same trappings of masculinity and rape culture that they were 10 years ago?
Boys still brag a lot about how they “never cry.”
Brené Brown calls emotional vulnerability the secret sauce that holds relationships together. So, if we cut boys off from the ability to feel or express that, we’re basically cutting them off from the ability to have, establish, and engage in healthy relationships.
I started noticing how often boys used ‘hilarious’ or something being ‘funny’ — those were the words they used — when what they really meant was that something was disturbing, that it violated their morals, that it was reprehensible, that it disgusted them. Hilarious or funny were a default position. If you see something as hilarious when you don’t know how else to respond to it, then you won’t be targeted or mocked.
It’s another way that boys are disconnected from what they truly feel. Their heads are disconnected from their hearts. Among other things, that also undermines their compassion for the target of whatever is hilarious, which, in a situation of sexual misconduct, is a girl. I noticed some of the really high profile assault cases with high school boys as the perpetrators. What those boys said when people said, “How could you have done this horrible thing?” They’d say, “Well, we just thought we were being funny. We thought it was hilarious.”
How to Talk to Boys About Porn, Consent and Sex, According to Boys & Sex Author
ACLU calls for tampons and feminine hygiene products to be placed in men’s restrooms to achieve 'menstrual equity' for transgender and non-binary individuals
The American Civil Liberties Union is asking that men's restrooms now include tampons and other menstrual products to push back against sex discrimination for 'every person' who menstruates.
The ACLU released a statement on Tuesday presenting their argument for accessible menstrual products in men's bathrooms to fully accommodate transgender and non-binary people.
'While free menstrual products are not uniformly provided in women’s restrooms, they are almost never available in men’s restrooms, even for pay,' the statement read.
If we indeed intend for it to get better, we must stop discarding each other like the impertinent society that blasphemes us...lest people think us inhuman. 12-Dec-2019
Jason Derulo Angry After Instagram Removes His Revealing Underwear Photo: 'I Can't Help My Size'
Jason Derulo can’t believe Instagram took down his steamy viral photo.
On Tuesday, the “Talk Dirty” singer, 30, shared a screenshot of the notice he received from the social media platform, which claimed the content went against Instagram’s guidelines.
Derulo also took the opportunity to protest the removal by reposting the particular photo, which went viral last month after fans couldn’t help but notice the visible outline of the star’s crotch under his bottoms — a trending topic Derulo himself enjoyed participating in online.
Rap without toxic masculinity. 15-Oct-2019
Sports without toxic masculinity. 15-Oct-2019
The bible without toxic masculinity. 15-Oct-2019
Sex without toxic masculinity. 15-Oct-2019
Protection without toxic masculinity. 15-Oct-2019
The army without toxic masculinity. 15-Oct-2019
We end up lonely in life when our expertise is just sex. 28-Sep-2019