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Men Always Make the Exact Same Comment to Me After Sex
Dear How to Do It,
I’m a fiftysomething straight woman. Throughout my dating life, I’ve had men comment on the “tightness” of my vagina over and over. I know that women will tell men that they’re big or well-endowed as a compliment, but do men do the same with women? Tell them that the fit is tight or snug, even if it’s not? I’ve recently started seeing someone new, and he constantly remarks on my “tightness.” I can’t ask my girlfriends about this because who is going to say that they are loose? And what defines loose, anyway? And what defines tightness? When I first started having sex, it took several sessions before my boyfriend was able to achieve full entry. Sex has never been painful since then, and I’ve also given birth. My doctor has never noted anything out of the ordinary during routine exams. I do Kegels regularly if that makes a difference, and I’ve had various sizes of penises over the years that fit comfortably. I’ve only turned down one, and that one was way too big (he was OK with that). Obviously, it’s not something that one can brag about, but what do men mean when they say this? I guess it’s a compliment—but is it, really?
Men Always Make the Exact Same Comment to Me After Sex
Women tend to keep their distance from gay men described as sexually promiscuous, study finds
New research suggests that sexual promiscuity negatively impacts social responses toward both gay and straight men. The study, published in the journal Psychology of Men & Masculinities, found that women are more likely to seek to avoid gay men described as promiscuous compared to gay men who are not described as promiscuous.
“Perceptions of masculinity, and stereotypes toward gay men, are multifaceted,” said study author Corey Cook, an assistant professor of psychology at Pacific Lutheran University.
In the study, 354 heterosexual undergraduate students were randomly assigned to report their social attitudes towards either gay men, straight men, gay men who are sexually promiscuous, straight men who are sexually promiscuous, gay men with very feminine qualities, straight men with very feminine qualities, gay men with very masculine qualities, or straight men with very masculine qualities.
To assess their attitudes, the participants were asked how strongly they agreed or disagreed with statements such as “I would like for a member of this group to work in the same place as I do” and “Members of this group are the kind of people that I tend to avoid.”
Girls Are Sharing Things Guys Think Are Cool That They Actually Hate, So Men, Take Note
On Sunday, Reddit user u/baldski_is_jesus asked girls, "What is something many guys think is cool but is actually the opposite?" Here are the best responses:
This is the ideal penis size to make women climax: survey
Bigger is better — to a point.
With hair loss on the rise, Asia's men grapple with what it means to be bald
Despite his father having an "m-shaped" hairline, Alex Han from northeast China never thought he'd experience hair loss in his 20s.
While studies have suggested almost all Caucasian men will eventually face some degree of male pattern baldness -- and around half can expect to lose their hair by middle age -- Asian men, and East Asians in particular, have historically experienced the lowest incidence of hair loss in the world.
A 2010 study from six Chinese cities found that fewer than 3% of men aged 18-29, and just over 13% of those in their 30s, experienced male pattern baldness. Earlier research from South Korea suggested that only 14.1% of the entire male population was affected, while Japanese men were found to develop male pattern baldness approximately a decade later than their European counterparts.
But as Han, now 34, later discovered, genetics isn't everything. Stress, poor diet, lack of sleep and smoking can all contribute to hair loss. And with lifestyles in China changing dramatically in recent decades, so too are the country's hairlines.
Masculinity Is Dead. Long Live Masculinity.
The reality is that masculinity is changing. As it often has. Men have routinely adapted to the culture and times around them. American manhood has been idealized – or feared – in a variety of ways over the last half century. Here’s a short list:
The Organization Man of the 1950s, who followed the rules and helped build the grand structures we now know as corporations.
His children, the “delinquents,” the scourge of the 50s and early 60s. They chafed under his rules and were epitomized in West Side Story (especially the Jets) and the career of James Dean.
The Sensitive New Age Guy of the 1970s, who explored his feelings, his sexuality, and pretty much anything else he could think of.
The macho guys of the 1980s, epitomized by a new generation of action films starring guys named Schwarzenegger and Stallone. Reagan’s bluster and one-day wars also fit the bill.
The 1990s saw another set of rebels, this time via the Grunge movement. They certainly didn’t look clean and their drugs were a lot harder.
There’s no particular rhyme or reason as to why these particular images of masculinity made it to the top of the heap, nor is there any meaningful way to draw a straight evolutionary line through all of them. The Organization Man doesn’t logically precede or contribute to the macho guys, while the delinquents and the grunge-rs don’t seem terribly different from each other.
Good Men Project
Schools, Sex, and Masculinity
Boys are watching a lot of pornography.
Consent is the bare minimum.
Boys must be empowered with the emotional strength it takes to endure being alone.
The narrative of the “good guy” can get in the way of moral growth.
Boys are growing into men they don’t want to be, and this unleashes untold harm in the world. Though it is often awkward and difficult to talk about sex with boys in school, having these conversations can help prevent a great deal of cruelty and unhappiness. We must create school cultures that allow us to have the types of conversations that will help usher in the type of future our boys need if they are going to grow into morally responsible men.
Good Men Project
Syphilis soars to highest level in 70 years, gay and bi men top league table
Clinics are diagnosing a new STI ever 70 seconds in England with cases soaring among gay and bi men.
Sexual health charity Terrence Higgins Trust (THT) and the British Association for Sexual Health and HIV (BASHH) say syphilis is now at its highest level since World War Two.
Gay and bisexual men are particularly impacted by STIs. They account for 75% of all new cases of syphilis in 2018.
At the same time, the government has slashed spending on sexual health services by a quarter since 2014.
THT and BASHH say their State of the Nation report, released today, should be a wake-up call for the government.
Soaring STIs and hidden infections
The report says there were 447,694 cases of STIs diagnosed in England in 2018 alone.
Gay Star News
Two Houses Is Better Than a Divorce
Getting married is like voluntarily committing oneself to ride a tandem bike forever with no real destination. When one person gets tired, the other has to pedal harder or the entire operation collapses, and most divorce proceedings are just both partners yelling that if the other had pedaled hard enough then the bike would still be moving. Perhaps the appeal of living apart together (LAT) is avoiding this pressure for married couples to constantly synch up and operate in tandem rather than operating as separate entities that come together when it suits. LAT seems like an ideal solution for many of the problems that arise over the course of a marriage, affording the opportunity to be responsible for one’s own bike without having any reason to critique anyone else’s peddling.
What Today’s Teen Boys Really Think About Sex, Toxic Masculinity, and #MeToo
Conversations around toxic masculinity, consent, and the ways boys are taught about sex and relationships are extremely prevalent today. How have these conversations affected boys’ real lives? Or are they still dealing with the same trappings of masculinity and rape culture that they were 10 years ago?
Boys still brag a lot about how they “never cry.”
Brené Brown calls emotional vulnerability the secret sauce that holds relationships together. So, if we cut boys off from the ability to feel or express that, we’re basically cutting them off from the ability to have, establish, and engage in healthy relationships.
I started noticing how often boys used ‘hilarious’ or something being ‘funny’ — those were the words they used — when what they really meant was that something was disturbing, that it violated their morals, that it was reprehensible, that it disgusted them. Hilarious or funny were a default position. If you see something as hilarious when you don’t know how else to respond to it, then you won’t be targeted or mocked.
It’s another way that boys are disconnected from what they truly feel. Their heads are disconnected from their hearts. Among other things, that also undermines their compassion for the target of whatever is hilarious, which, in a situation of sexual misconduct, is a girl. I noticed some of the really high profile assault cases with high school boys as the perpetrators. What those boys said when people said, “How could you have done this horrible thing?” They’d say, “Well, we just thought we were being funny. We thought it was hilarious.”
How to Talk to Boys About Porn, Consent and Sex, According to Boys & Sex Author
ACLU calls for tampons and feminine hygiene products to be placed in men’s restrooms to achieve 'menstrual equity' for transgender and non-binary individuals
The American Civil Liberties Union is asking that men's restrooms now include tampons and other menstrual products to push back against sex discrimination for 'every person' who menstruates.
The ACLU released a statement on Tuesday presenting their argument for accessible menstrual products in men's bathrooms to fully accommodate transgender and non-binary people.
'While free menstrual products are not uniformly provided in women’s restrooms, they are almost never available in men’s restrooms, even for pay,' the statement read.
What Your Penis is Telling You Right Now!
You can tell a lot by taking a close look at your penis. Sometimes you look at it and everything seems perfectly normal. Other times it can feel fraught with danger, covered in lumps, spots, nodules, and protuberances that all look like evidence of your certain doom. We’re here to help you separate the facts from the panic attacks.
Men also have a ‘biological clock’ that poses serious health risks: study
The battle of the sexes just got a lot more equalized.
A new study out of Rutgers University finds that men have a ticking “biological clock” — just like women — and if they make babies in their 40s it can negatively impact the health of their partners and progeny.
“While it’s widely accepted that physiological changes that occur in women after 35 can affect conception, pregnancy and the health of the child, most men don’t realize their advanced age can have a similar impact,” says study author Gloria Bachmann, director of the Women’s Health Institute at Rutgers Robert Wood Johnson Medical School, in a statement.
The number of infants born to dads aged 45-plus spiked 10 percent in the US over the past four decades, likely due to assisted reproductive technology. Bachmann analyzed the effect of “advanced parental age” — brace yourself: it ranges from 35 to 45 — on fertility, pregnancy and the health of children for her study published in the journal Maturitas.
Guys who start siring spawn later in life put their lovers at risk for increased pregnancy complications such as gestational diabetes, preterm birth and preeclampsia. Plus, the resulting babies were found to be at higher risk of premature birth, late-term still birth, low Apgar scores and birth weight, higher incidence of newborn seizures and birth defects such as congenital heart disease and cleft palate.
Rich guys are most likely to have no idea what they’re talking about, study suggests
Researchers embarked on a novel study intent on measuring what a Princeton philosophy professor contends is one of the most salient features of our culture — the ability to play the expert without being one.
Or, as the social scientists put it, to BS.
Research by John Jerram and Nikki Shure of the University College of London, and Phil Parker of Australian Catholic University attempted to measure the pervasiveness of this trait in society and identify its most ardent practitioners.
Study participants were asked to assess their knowledge of 16 math topics on a five-point scale ranging from “never heard of it” to “know it well, understand the concept.” Crucially, three of those topics were complete fabrications: “proper numbers,” “subjunctive scaling” and “declarative fractions.” Those who said they were knowledgeable about the fictitious topics were categorized as BSers.
Expert reveals the warning signs of male mental health issues including the loss of appetite and struggling to sleep - and the practical steps you can take to help
Male mental health is once again in the news following the suicide of Love Island star Mike Thalassitis, who was just 26-years-old when he tragically took his own life last week.
But while many of us are concerned about how it might affect the men in our lives, we might not be aware of the warning signs we should be looking out for.
Dr Mark Winwood, director of psychological services at AXA PPP healthcare, from the UK, speaks exclusively to Femail about the red flags that might give you cause for concern, and what steps you can take if you recognise any in your loved ones.
Dr Winwood says that your boyfriend or husband could act out of character, or display a range of varying emotions:
'It could be anger, irritability and aggressiveness, or they could struggle to show or feel positive emotions.