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A letter to my racist in-laws
“It’s because you have foreign blood in you, that’s why you live 350 miles from home,” my uncle says to me. Noah* is sat next to me. Embarrassed, I look down into my dinner and mumble “well, what about my brother? He’s always lived close by.” I try and disrupt his logic. “Well he’s different, isn’t he?” My uncle carries on talking. I stop listening. I’m angry. Why has no one interrupted him? Why is no one sticking up for me?
It’s Easter Sunday, 2018. I’m at my parents’ house for a family gathering with both sides of my family. My uncle is white. My dad is white. My mum is brown. I’m mixed race. My mum was born in Mauritius, she moved to the UK when she was a baby in the ‘50s. My parents, who have been together since the ‘80s have never addressed the issue of race. I think they just wanted to keep their heads down in the hope that things would get better. Racist comments like those from my uncle are commonplace at my family gatherings.
Noah is my partner. He’s white. His family are racist too.
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Since kids are falling by the wayside, we should consider nixing celebrations of women who claim they can do it all. 24-Oct-2019
What Kids Who Bully Often Have In Common
When parents, educators and mental health professionals talk about bullying, there is understandably a lot of emphasis on the victims. But in focusing solely on victims in anti-bullying efforts, an important part of the equation gets forgotten: the kids who do the bullying.
“Bullying is not a one-time event or a random act of mean behavior but rather a pervasive, ongoing pattern of aggression targeted toward another child who in some way has less power in the relationship,” explained school psychologist Rebecca Branstetter, noting that it’s important to distinguish it from other forms of aggressive behavior or typical childhood conflicts.
Obviously every child who bullies comes from different circumstances and has different reasons for this behavior. There is no one profile of a bully, as each child who engages in this conduct has a unique set of challenges. But there are many common traits and experiences among bullies, and examining them can be beneficial.
Police: 3-year-old boy starved to death; brother survived
An Alabama couple who police said didn't believe in doctors could face life in prison if convicted of aggravated child abuse in the starvation death of their 3-year-old boy.
News outlets report Ashley Elizabeth Catron and Frederick Anthony Frink were denied bond Thursday. Huntsville officers testified that the couple's boys were severely malnourished. Prosecutor Tim Douthit said Hendrix Frink died of starvation weighing just 13 pounds (5.9 kilograms). He told the court his 4-year-old brother survived, barely, weighing 15 pounds (6.8 kilograms).
Indiana Teen Attacked In Locker Room for Being Gay
An Indiana high school student has faced ridicule after being attacked in a locker room for being gay. After other students started circulating video of the incident around school, the teenage boy’s mother shared the story with Indianapolis TV station WTHR.
“I’m not OK, but I will be,” the student told the news outlet.
And he’s telling anyone else who ever finds themselves the victim of a hate crime to stay strong in spirit.
"Stay true to yourself,” he said, “and if you get hit, do the best you can to make sure it never happens again."
Rockies Apologize After Employee Tells Lesbians Not To Kiss
Watch this gay man handle a drunk woman screaming slurs like the true queen he is
Todd Chrisley's estranged daughter Lindsie Chrisley speaks out on family's legal drama
Lindsie Chrisley is speaking out on the heels of her reality television star dad and his wife being indicted on tax evasion and other federal charges this week.
“Lindsie would like to thank all of her fans and supporters. The circumstances Todd and Julie find themselves in, is quite unfortunate," her Atlanta-based attorney Musa Ghanayem released in a statement on her behalf. “It was reported that Lindsie was the source of the information that led to her father’s arrest. That is untrue."
DC Priest Found Guilty of Sexually Abusing Girls in Church
The Catholic priest accused of sexually abusing two children of his Washington, D.C., parish has been found guilty.
Urbano Vazquez was convicted Thursday on four felony counts of child sexual abuse.
Vazquez groped a 9-year-old girl and 13-year-old girl in 2016, two years after he was ordained as a priest in the Capuchin Franciscan religious order.
Katy Perry accused of sexual harassment by a second person
Audrina Patridge’s ex Corey Bohan addresses claims he sexually abused daughter
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California Pedophile Sentenced To 230 Years For Raping Girl 'At Least 90 Times'
A prosecutor in California described the case of a pedophile who was just handed a 230-year sentence as “possibly the most egregious child sexual assault case" he has ever seen.
Deon Austin Welch, 30, was sentenced Friday after being convicted of 16 counts of aggravated sexual assault of a child with a sentence-enhancing great bodily injury allegation. Welch had raped a girl he lived with dozens of times, leading to her getting pregnant. The case has since generated considerable criticism of Riverside County's child welfare agency, which had settled with the victim for $10 million last summer after failing to remove her from the home.
Riverside County Superior Court Judge Bernard Schwartz explained his choice of handing down the most severe possible sentence in this situation, while condemning the system which allowed the crimes to continue without intervention.
West Bank Man Indicted in Sexual Abuse of 45 Underage Girls
The world wonders what's happened to America
What happens to a country that is an idea, when that idea turns ugly?
Since the collapse of the Berlin Wall, the United States has been the leader of the free world economically, militarily, but also -- as communism and fascism fell by the wayside -- as an idea.
They went too far in Iraq in 2003, got too greedy before 2008, and let Syria down in 2013. But still, the US' obsession with painstakingly transparent self-analysis, allocation of blame and rooting out failure, got it back on top. However much you hate it, the idea seemed to justify its existence.
But this has been a difficult month. Well, a difficult year. Actually, scratch that too: everything since November 2016 has been discombobulating. I recall watching American expats, Europeans, Lebanese aghast in Beirut when Donald Trump won. It seemed to them like the wheels were coming off civilization. But surely, they could not forever, as the idea of the United States was designed to be tamper-proof?
Authorities Search For Pa. Teen Who Allegedly Sexually Abused, Tried to Smother 5-Year-Old Girl
Police in Pennsylvania believe a 16-year-old boy who is wanted for the sexual assault and attempted murder of a 5-year-old girl may be in Maryland.
The search for Octavian Perez continued Thursday — days after police first obtained a warrant for the boy’s arrest.
According to that warrant, provided to PEOPLE, Perez allegedly sexually assaulted the child at a residence inside a Gettsyburg home, demanding the little girl manipulate his penis.
Yet Another USC Doctor Has Been Accused of Sexual Assault
Parishioners Shocked After Abuse Allegations Against Father George Clements
Four dead in brutal knife attack in Southern California: 'We know this guy was full of anger'
A Southern California man reportedly stabbed and killed four people Wednesday during a two-hour stretch of violence that also included several robberies and other assaults, according to The Associated Press.
The 33-year-old suspect has been arrested but not publicly identified by police. He was arrested in Santa Ana, California, at a convenience store shortly after allegedly killing a security guard and taking his gun.
Armed suspect breaks into woman’s home. Good thing she was armed, too — with red-hot cooking grease.
Mom Accused of Killing 4-Year-Old Son in Scalding Bath, Taking Lyft to Dump His Remains
Father who killed his son because he was gay let out of jail after two years behind bars
A father who is accused of killing his own son for being gay has been placed on house arrest. Now the victim’s mother is speaking out.
In 2017, Giovanni Melton, 17, was shot and killed in Henderson, Nevada. His father Wendell Melton was arrested because police believed that he was responsible for the murder.
Now a judge has let Wendell Melton out on $200,000 bail and placed him on house arrest as he awaits trial.
“I felt betrayed,” said Veronica Melton, Giovanni Melton’s mother.
Antigay, 14-Year-Old Vlogger Soph Threatens to Shoot Up YouTube
A racist, Islamaphobic, homophobic teen threatened to shoot up YouTube headquarters after the company terminated her account for posting a hateful, anti-LGBTQ screed in late July, according to Business Insider.
Responding to YouTube’s removal of her account last week for violating its three strikes in 90 days rule, 14-year-old Soph tweeted a picture of an assault rifle with the caption, “youtube headquarters here I come.” She later deleted the tweet saying that it was a joke.
The video that finally led to her removal from the site was entitled “Pride and Prejudice.” In it, she wore a short-haired wig and a t-shirt intended to be ironic.
“Unfortunately, as you know, last month was Pride, which meant we all had to endure 30-days of AIDS-carrying pedophile victims patting themselves on their backs for their lifestyles,” Soph said in the video. “I had an especially hard time considering that I live in California where there was a puddle of diseased load waiting for me whenever I dared to step out of my house.”
Florida Diner Wrote Anti-Gay Message on Bill in Place of Tip Before Stuffing It Down Female Manager’s Blouse
A diner in St. Augustine, Florida was arrested for battery after he wrote an anti-gay message on his restaurant bill in place of a tip, and then ripped it up and stuffed it down the female manager’s blouse when confronted.
According to the Naples Daily News, Smith wrote “if he wasn’t gay” in the tip line of the receipt along with a big zero for a tip. The waiter showed it to the manager, and she confronted Smith outside. Smith took the bill from her, tore it up, grabbed her collar, and shoved it down her blouse, touching her breast.
Lyft Adopts New Policies After Drag Queens Refused Rides
Hate crimes in schools in region affected by anti-LGBT+ protests surge
One Million Moms Protest Whole Foods Over Drag Event: 'Absolute Filth'
Polish archbishop claims a “rainbow” plague is affecting the country
Police nab 3 suspects in cold-blooded daytime murder of Georgia gay man
We don't want to talk to kids about sex but we will allow them to assign whatever sex they like. When I was a kid I never thought about sex, even when I was being abused. I believe they should be allowed to express themselves but we shouldn't sway them either way and parents overreact when society views them. Loving them should come naturally. Putting so much pressure on it makes the media a bad parent. Why can't we accept that people will behave in a certain way when they have different beliefs. In the Bizzarro World my mother would have made me wear dresses because I played with a doll. I would have hated that. Pretending is not acquiescing. Eventually, they will hurt you. We need to encourage children to detach from negative people, not support them while they stab you in the back.
Parents destroy us but only the world can kill us. You want to create a better environment for LGBTQ youth to strive in, give them survival skills. Barking at other dogs isn't going to save them. You need to reach the wolves.
Hipitty-Hop and religion are notoriously hostile to LGBTQ yet we revere and turn the other cheek. God might strike us down and the black community will kill us. (We didn't struggle when they killed disco even though it spoke to our community.) So we keep going to Chick-fil-A and pretend that talking is finally singing. Why don't we hit what reverberates? Almost every gay white single has hip-hop listed as a preference but would never date anyone of color. We continue to masturbate to celebrities that hate us. We hate stereotypes but are constantly bombarded by them. We think commitment is a roommate and what's left over from a surrogate's abortion. We need to fix us to teach our children. We don't need coddling, we need action. My mother prays for everything while doing nothing. The world is ending...we can't save it...what do we do? (Give your kids some fucking books so they can become smart and solve that shit themselves.) Why are we making our lives more miserable to satisfy a kid of your kid I will never meet.
How about punishing parents who throw LGBTQ kids out into the street? It sounds like a crime. Start there. If parents raise a bully they should be fined and be required to attend parental classes. Fuck, make future parents get licenses to have kids.
If you're not going after the big guns, you are all hypocrites and your kids will continue to perish.
Campaigns shouldn't ring bells but bang drums... 01-Aug-2019
As a society we assign tremendous power to family esp. "the parents." I've never met these "mortals fantastic," generated from a Hollywood dream. Every parent is a composite of things well intentioned and future regrets. They know they can't be perfect therefore the excuses.
Mother: I was a single mother with no money fighting for our lives yet I found a way to clean them and feed them. Wilfred was his name.
Everybody applauded her and put her on a pedestal. It was an argument no child could win. The world was incapable of seeing her true self. She brewed a glow from a mother's sacrifice. We were branded silly little liars if my sister or I complained to an adult. Now, I am clinically insane so they wont believe my stories of abuse. Family first. Keep your witnesses close and the snitches chained.
She accepted my coming out with a "but" and a lifetime of attempts at changing it.
Mother: thank God you're not a flamer. I wouldn't know what to do with myself.
You mean it could have been worst?
She drugged me so I could sleep with a cousin while two other cousins and herself, watched and cheered. She had my lesbian aunt make out with my boyfriend and grind on him so no one would question anybody's sexuality. When I would break up with a boyfriend she'd scowl at me and tell me to get over it. It wasn't real love. It was two guys. My stepfather concurred. I sounded like a maniac rendering my feelings.
Mother: you should stop this shit now with the guys. Only a woman can make you happy.
I had to come out every time it didn't work out with a boy.
To everyone, she represented survival and progression. She accepted everyone. She was a goddess. She knew the power of a woman. She was not a threat to her brethren and she knew what a man wanted. She told me it was pretense. It was a secret between mother and son. She created a role fitting the person she was trying to mentally seduce from pieces scattered in her reality. She changed them. (OMG. That's Errattic.)
Blah, blah, blah...she's a monster.
I believe every person deserves respect. Every time the media latches onto the joy of parenting without consideration to how the child feels, it's inconsiderate. You are giving them the right to kill us. Almost every person I've ever met has been abused by their parents. We act like it's an anomaly. My mother told me she loved me everyday and did unimaginable things to me. She'd rather celebrate my failures than allow me a win.
Mother: I told you so.
The scary parents aren't going to be talking to experts about their skills. Experts are for the privileged. They have their own fuck-ups. These are the parents we are confusing and bullying to love everything about a kid. Just because they said "hello" doesn't mean that they will love you. Those parents are going to bolt the door and you will find out about the abuse when he or she is dead. That's dangerous.
We don't need scary people pretending. They will infiltrate your lives and wait for that moment to slice you because..."they told you so."
Teach the kids to run. It never gets better. "They never understood, they just accepted it."
In old age mother finds different but no less strategic ways to abuse. It always takes me back to the room where I cowered from her fists as a wee.
I wish society would allow us to shoo away the monster without guilt.
"It only takes one member to poison a family." 01-Aug-2019