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My Husband Failed Two Polygraph Tests About His Infidelity 

 

Dear Prudence,
I am a professional woman who has been married for 16 years. My job is stressful, and I often work 12 hours or more. We have no children. At first things were wonderful, and my husband always seemed like a sweet, mild-mannered, caring man. Three years in, he was laid off because his company ran into financial trouble. Because I am a high-earner, I told him he didn’t need to go back to work as long as he kept the house up and did basic repair projects. He never went back to work, but he never kept the house up, either. We also hired housecleaners to visit every two weeks, but in between nothing got done. I asked him to go back to work. He didn’t. I strongly suspected he was having affairs a few years later, but he always denied it. I have no concrete proof, but he did many suspicious things like hiding months of phone bills and having midnight texts. Years later he voluntarily took two polygraph tests to save the marriage (we stopped having intimate relations five years ago mostly because I no longer admired, respected, or trusted him, and because of my resentment toward him on several levels). He failed the tests.

Until lately, I generally ignored all my feelings and went about trying to have a good life. My husband will not discuss our issues because, he says, he clams up or needs time to think. I verbalize my needs and frustrations all the time. At one point he started snapping at me and rolling his eyes, but I firmly and strongly told him to stop, which he mostly has. I demanded that he get a job, and he finally works 25 hours a week making a small salary. He knows I no longer love him (in the least), but he won’t leave. We now live in separate bedrooms. We have been to two marriage counselors. I have told him I will go back if he is willing to discuss his unfaithfulness, which he still denies. He states the lie-detector tests are invalid. The house and everything we own are paid for by me alone. I need to divorce, but he will take everything I own, plus alimony. On the surface, he is a nice, charming, religious guy. None of our friends know about our marriage troubles, and they would be shocked to hear this. Advice, please.

—Trapped

My Husband Failed Two Polygraph Tests About His Infidelity

Tags: Advice, Cheating, Choices, Divorce, Environment, Hate, Marriage, Men In Charge, Mental Health, Power, Struggling, Survival, Violence

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19-Nov-2020


We Walked In on My Husband With a Man. Now Our Son Is Acting Homophobic. 

 

A few weeks ago, I was supposed to take my sons to an outdoor activity that ended up getting canceled due to weather. We found out about the cancellation when we were halfway there. Before I turned around, I texted my husband that we would be heading home and never got a text back. This wasn’t unusual, as he usually puts his phone on “do not disturb” while he’s working. When we got home, I opened the door to find my husband and his best friend, “Ryan,” completely naked, and having fairly rough sex on our dining room table. They had music blaring, so they didn’t hear us come in, and my sons and I were all in shock and just stood there for a good 30 to 60 seconds before I was able to shut the music off, and they realized what was going on and could cover up. Obviously, this is a bit of a chaotic situation.

Ryan is like an uncle to my kids, has dinner at our house several times a week, has occasionally lived with us, and he and my husband actually work together. My husband and I are planning on staying together and are still trying to figure a lot of things out. Here’s the problem: My younger son (6) is pretty oblivious and thought Uncle Ryan was wrestling with his dad. My middle son (9) is very confused about the mechanics of what we saw (we’ve had the sex talk with him, but in hindsight, we made the mistake of only talking about heterosexual sex). My older son (12) is having a very difficult time. My middle son has a lot of questions that I’m not really sure how to answer, and I’m not sure how much detail I should be going into, and who should be leading this conversation (me? my husband? a doctor?). I’ve been getting phone calls home from my older son’s school. Ever since the incident, he has apparently been making derogatory remarks about gay people, using slurs, and is also refusing to speak to his father (they were previously pretty close). The school is threatening to expel him. We’re on the waitlist for individual and family therapy, but I was wondering if you guys had any advice about what to do with my two older sons?

—What Now?

We Walked In on My Husband With a Man.

Tags: Advice, Cheating, Children, Choices, Environment, Gay, Hate, Hypocrisy, LGBTQ, Men In Charge, Mental Health, Neglect, Parental Burden, Parental Crime, Reaction, Sex, Sex Identity, Youth

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15-Nov-2020


Dear Fuck-Up, 

 

I am currently in the very shady shitty midst of a divorce. Our marriage ended for a lot of valid reasons (incompatibility, mutual depressions, denial, etc.) that truly don’t have much to do with the following bit of info. My husband had a very (very!) close friendship with a female mutual friend of ours. They’d been friends since childhood (20+ years) and she subsequently became a really good friend of mine in the 10 years of our relationship. BUT in the last eight months of my marriage they engaged in an “emotional affair.” It was very unsubtly inappropriate and disrespectful. The extent of which I may never fully know because, they, obviously, both turned out to be disappointing, dishonest, and shitty people.

He moved in with her (sorry, “rented a room” from her) six weeks after we decided to end our marriage and now three months later is in a public relationship with her. This has been a fully awful and emotionally devastating experience for me. I’ve been heartbroken, angry, humiliated, stressed the fuck out.

My actual question revolves around how I can express my feelings about this devious gash. My husband will pay (a fucking lot) in our divorce settlement, and he has enough self-awareness to know he is a bad man and a miserable shit. His personal shame kind of settles my animosity towards him.

But her! I am a sex positive person who is pro-sex-work and loudly disparages people who attempt to besmirch strippers, porn actors, or prostitutes. YET, all I want to do is call this dumb bitch a stupid whore. Ditsy hoe. Dirty slizz. Etc.

How can I reconcile my feminism with my need to hate on this horrid bitch? Especially since now that I am single af, I am ‘bout to hit up all the dick?

Signed,

Not So Feminist

Dear Fuck-Up,

Tags: Advice, Anxiety, Cheating, Choices, Divorce, Environment, Etiquette, Feminism, Friendship, Men In Charge, Mental Health, Misrepresentation, Perception, Threat, Treatment, Woman's Rights

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05-Nov-2020


Dear Abby: Her pet name for my husband is out of line, but they won’t stop 

 

DEAR ABBY: A young, attractive female co-worker of my husband’s addresses him by his first name ending with “ly” (example: “Georgely”). When I asked how the name was acquired, both of them claimed they didn’t remember.

They know I do not approve, particularly on social media for the world to see.

I consider pet names a term of endearment, to be reserved for one’s significant other. Am I out of line, or are they?

NAME-DROPPING IN WISCONSIN

Dear Abby: Her pet name for my husband is out of line, but they won’t stop

Tags: Advice, Cheating, Horniness, Marriage, Men, Profiling, Relationships, Sex, Threat, Woman's Rights

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23-Oct-2020


Ashley Madison: Extramarital affairs soar in pandemic with technology’s help 

 

Shortly after U.S. lockdowns began, the Ashley Madison “married dating” site saw an uptick in members. Today, more than 21,000 people are signing up each day for the online membership service, up from 17,000 a day in March. That’s on top of a worldwide base of 65 million members around the world in 2019.

“We’re in such unprecedented catastrophic times,” sex and relationship therapist Dr. Tammy Nelson said. “It’s so apocalyptic that you have got to have something to look forward to.”

The vast majority of Ashley Madison members have said that having affairs keeps them married. In an effort to understand the motivations behind choosing infidelity over divorce during a pandemic and how marriage will be impacted in the future, the company conducted surveys of its members. The results backed up Ashley Madison’s belief that marriage is a pragmatic arrangement that offers inherent value despite a partner often failing to provide sufficient love, support, or desire.

Ashley Madison: Extramarital affairs soar in pandemic with technology’s help

Tags: Anxiety, Cheating, Coronavirus, Effect, Environment, Etiquette, Marriage, Relationships, Release, Satisfaction, Sex, Social Distancing

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30-Sep-2020


If Not Sex Addicted, Then What? 

 

The couple looked troubled. Everything that they thought they'd figured out, that had been explained by their pastor, no longer made sense. "OK, then, if it's not sex addiction, what is the problem?" A moment passed. Then another. "Well," I said, "for starters, it's worse than you think."

Sex addiction, as a pseudoscientific concept, is so very emotionally appealing. First of all, it definitely labels the objectionable sexual conduct as a disease and nothing but a disease so, really, there's no need to look any further. But the reason I told my clients it's worse than what they thought is because it's not the so-called addict who has a problem. The problem is about them as a couple.

If Not Sex Addicted, Then What?

Tags: Advice, Cheating, Choices, Environment, Etiquette, Freedom, Marriage, Mental Health, Misrepresentation, Modernization, Psychology, Relationships, Sex, Treatment

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25-Aug-2020


Dear Abby: Man smells trouble in wife’s last-minute trip extension 

 

DEAR ABBY: I have been married a little over a year. My wife took a trip to Florida to get some things out of storage, and turned it into a two-week vacation. She's now traveling back with the in-laws, which I wasn't expecting.

Yesterday she announced she doesn't want to talk to anyone, including me, and will only text for the next three days during the trip because she's too tired. I feel rejected and like yesterday's news because she hardly calls me and she almost forgot to say goodnight. I don't think this is healthy for our relationship, and I have separation anxiety to boot. Is this normal? -- NEWLYWED GUY IN IOWA

Dear Abby: Man smells trouble in wife’s last-minute trip extension

Tags: Advice, Cheating, Relationships, Sex

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23-Aug-2020


People Are Sharing How They Caught Their Partners Cheating And My Mouth Is Wide-Open 

 

"A friend of mine was suspicious of her husband cheating, as he went to 'play soccer with friends' way too often. He always came back already showered, as he would sweat playing. One day, she sewed his soccer socks together.

People Are Sharing How They Caught Their Partners Cheating And My Mouth Is Wide-Open

Tags: Cheating, Marriage, Portrait, Relationships, Sex, Social Media

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10-Aug-2020


Straight man worries he’s sexist because he doesn’t care his wife is having an affair with a woman

 

In the letter, the man said he found out about the affair after “months of odd bank transactions, weird absences, and strange smells on her clothes”.

He finally confronted her wife, asking her if she was cheating on him, and she broke down and confessed.

Straight man said he was ‘relieved’ when he found out his wife was having an affair with a woman.
“I was upset until she revealed she was cheating on me with a female co-worker,” the man wrote.

“She apologised profusely and swore that she still loved me and wanted to make our relationship work.

“Oddly, I found myself relieved,” he said.

Straight man worries he’s sexist because he doesn’t care his wife is having an affair with a woman

Tags: Advice, Cheating, Choices, Marriage, Opinion, Sex, Sexism, Women In Charge

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31-Jul-2020


People Are Getting Busted for Affairs in Coronavirus Lockdown 

 

Over the last few weeks, as the coronavirus pandemic left millions stranded indoors, Chicago divorce attorney Mitch Gordon has started getting calls from people who’ve just learned some unwelcome information: their spouses are having affairs.

“The people who are juggling affairs are getting caught right now,” Gordon said. “I’ve had multiple calls from people who are like, ‘Alright, before this I wondered, but figured no. And now it’s clear it’s happening.’”

Vice

Tags: Cheating, Oops, Quarantine, Relationships, Superficiality

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22-Apr-2020


College Made Them Feel Equal. The Virus Exposed How Unequal Their Lives Are. 

 

The political science class was called “Forced Migration and Refugees.” Students read accounts of migrants fleeing broken economies and seeking better futures, of life plans drastically altered and the political forces that made it all seem necessary.

Then suddenly, the subject matter became personal: Haverford College shut down and evicted most students from the dormitories as the coronavirus spread through Pennsylvania.

Like many college courses around the country, the class soldiered on. The syllabus was revised. The students reconvened on a videoconferencing app.

But as each logged in, not everyone’s new reality looked the same.

One student sat at a vacation home on the coast of Maine. Another struggled to keep her mother’s Puerto Rican food truck running while meat vanished from Florida grocery shelves. As one young woman’s father, a private equity executive, urged the family to decamp to a country where infections were falling, another student’s mother in Russia couldn’t afford the plane ticket to bring her daughter home.

NY Times

Yale students are using the coronavirus crisis as an excuse to lower standards

Tags: $, Cheating, Demands, Education, Environment, Family, Fear, Lifestyle, Poverty, Priorities, Privilege, Safety, Struggling, Students, Support, Survival

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05-Apr-2020


I’m Having a Lifesaving Affair, but Social Distancing Is Keeping Us Apart 

 

Dear How to Do It,

I’m having a wonderful affair with a man. We’re both married, but we’re careful and responsible—it’s what we both need to survive in our marriages, and it’s what’s best for both of us. (Without saying too much, in our situation, divorce would destroy our big, happy, extended immigrant families. I’m not looking for judgment on that.)

The problem is social distancing because of the coronavirus. Our spouses and kids are now both home full time, and getting away to see each other has been impossible. I’m miserable without the sex and companionship, and so is the man I’m seeing. At one point, he suggested meeting in our cars by the grocery store. I obviously declined. Then today, he called me and said to go to my window and waved to me from his car (we live about two neighborhoods apart). I was moved by the gesture, but it worried me. I feel like I am on the verge of doing something risky, and all this time with my husband, who is a kind man, is making me want to lash out and tell him I don’t love him.

What can I do to keep my head on straight here? I would be cast out of my family if this came out, but this whole situation is making me feel out of control.

—Swelter in Place

Slate

Tags: Advice, Cheating, Coronavirus, Environment, Etiquette, Family, Health, Lifestyle, Parental Burden, Priorities, Reckless, Relationships, Safety, Self Interest, Sex

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01-Apr-2020


I Can’t Stop Cheating On My Wife 

 

Dear Prudence,

I’m a man in my mid-30s with a beautiful wife. We’ve been married for 15 years and had a great kid very early on in our relationship. We both have great careers, nice friends, a very kinky and active sex life. Others generally look at us with admiration and envy. My problem is that I became a serial cheater around eight years ago. I analyzed quite a lot why I feel the need to cheat (sex with my wife is definitely better than with other women) and think that I like the challenge of “conquering” and later the romantic aspects of it. My affairs usually last a few months. I’m also very open with my relationship status (and my unwillingness to change it) to my affair partners. I even developed great friendships with two last affair partners, and the whole experience has generally been extremely enriching and positive for me.

I never fell in love with another woman, and I want to stay with my wife forever, but I can’t seem, and also don’t want, to stop seeing other women. My job involves a lot of travel, so it’s easy to get away with cheating without arousing suspicion. In the beginning I didn’t really think too hard about it, but going forward I want to be “square and fair.” My wife doesn’t have the slightest idea of my cheating and would obviously be devastated if she found out.

A year or so ago I started talking about opening up our relationship as a way to slowly “legalize” my behavior. While she isn’t totally against the idea, it’s more something she can imagine in a distant future and in a very controlled setting. I reckon that the romantic aspects and durations of my affairs would be serious no-gos for her. While the easy answer would be “stop before you blow up your perfect life,” I feel like I’m not really able to. What are your thoughts?

—Can’t Stop Won’t Stop

Slate

Tags: Advice, Cheating, Etiquette, LGBTQ, Lifestyle, Marriage, Perception, Sex

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25-Jan-2020


Two Houses Is Better Than a Divorce 

 

Getting married is like voluntarily committing oneself to ride a tandem bike forever with no real destination. When one person gets tired, the other has to pedal harder or the entire operation collapses, and most divorce proceedings are just both partners yelling that if the other had pedaled hard enough then the bike would still be moving. Perhaps the appeal of living apart together (LAT) is avoiding this pressure for married couples to constantly synch up and operate in tandem rather than operating as separate entities that come together when it suits. LAT seems like an ideal solution for many of the problems that arise over the course of a marriage, affording the opportunity to be responsible for one’s own bike without having any reason to critique anyone else’s peddling.

Jezebel

Tags: $, Cheating, Choices, Dedication, Environment, Marriage, Men, Nature, Opinion, Perception, Portrait, Relationships, Responsibility, Sex, Substitute, Treatment, Women

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19-Jan-2020


Suicide By Women Is A Major Public Health Concern In India 

 

In June, M., a 28-year-old woman jumped from the second floor of her home in Madurai, India — 20 feet above a rocky, tar road — after a bitter argument with her husband. He had accused her of having an affair.

This was M.'s second attempt to kill herself. She survived the fall. M. had been prescribed antidepressants after her first suicide attempt seven years before but had stopped taking them. She was admitted to Madurai's Government Rajaji hospital shortly after her second suicide attempt. Three weeks later, doctors recommended that she have surgery using metallic plates to fuse her shattered spine, but her mother, uncertain and fearful about the outcome, refused to let M. go under the knife.

She was discharged a month after her ordeal and remains bedridden in her mother's home, unable to walk. Her two children, an 8-year-old girl and a 5-year-old boy, who last visited her a week ago, still live with their father. Her mother gave us the details of her story and asked that only her daughter's initial be used to protect her privacy.

npr

India strikes down sexist adultery law: 'Husband is not the master of the wife'

Tags: Cheating, Environment, Fear, Laws, Lifestyle, Men In Charge, Mental Health, Modernization, Parental Burden, Population, Protections, Study, Suicide, Woman's Rights, Women, World

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27-Sep-2018




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