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A therapist shares the 7 biggest parenting mistakes that destroy kids’ mental strength
We live in an increasingly stressful world, which is why it has never been more important to foster emotional and mental resiliency in our children.
Not only are mentally strong kids better prepared to tackle future problems on their own, but studies have found that they’re also more likely to be engaged in school and in their future jobs.
It won’t be easy for parents, but avoiding these common mistakes can help.
1. Minimizing your kid’s feelings
Kids need to know that it’s healthy to express and talk about their emotions. When parents tell their kids things such as “don’t be so sad about it” or “it’s not a big deal,” they’re sending the message that feelings don’t matter and that it’s better to suppress them.
If your kid is displaying expressions of fear during a loud storm, for example, considering saying, “I know you’re scared right now.” Then ask them what they think would make them feel better. This teaches them how to manage and cope with emotions on their own.
The goal is to help them practice brainstorming solutions until they find something that works.
Glennon Doyle thinks our kids suck. And it’s all our fault.
New York Times bestselling author Glennon Doyle is unequivocal in her opinion on modern parenting.
In her new book Untamed, she describes how parents receive a ‘terrible memo’ from society as soon as our kids are born.
This memo says that our kids are our saviours and parenting them is akin to a religion. We must give them every opportunity possible and most importantly, we must never allow anything difficult to happen to them.
According to Glennon, not only does this disastrous memo make us parents feel exhausted, neurotic and guilty; but it is also the reason why our kids suck.
The reason our kids suck, she says, is because we no longer allow our children to learn how to lose, or to struggle, or to be rejected.
Catholic bishops are calling for the US federal government to crack down on porn, claiming it causes “pain” and “ongoing harm”.
The United States Conference of Catholic Bishops sent a letter US attorney general William Barr on April 30, calling on the Trump administration to “confront the ongoing harms wrought by the pornography industry”, especially as use of porn sites has spiked during the coronavirus pandemic.
In the letter, the bishops wrote: “The current pandemic is exacting a heavy and widespread emotional, social, and financial toll in our communities.
“In the face of the pandemic, the Church expresses her solidarity with all who are struggling or alone.”
Anti-LGBT+ Christian group accused of ‘actively promoting gay conversion therapy’ while masquerading as a charity
Britain's biggest Islamic authorities say child sexual abuse in Muslim communities is 'underreported' because young victims are too scared to tell anyone about it
Anti-LGBT+ Catholic activists just found out what a ‘glory hole’ is and they are not OK
Yale psychiatrist Bandy Lee: Lockdown protesters resemble “child soldiers” and “urban gangs”
A Yale psychiatrist has warned that pro-Trump lockdown protesters, who exhibit similar psychology as "child soldiers," could quickly turn into "armed troops in the streets" if the president loses his re-election bid.
Lee has also served as a project group leader for the World Health Organization Violence Prevention Alliance. She told Salon that Trump's recent call to "liberate" Democratic-led states was a dog whistle to his core supporters.
"Subconsciously, it is a loyalty test for the people," Lee said. "In Africa, where I did some ethnographic work, child soldiers would be recruited and made to kill a family member to demonstrate their allegiance to the government and not to the family. Similarly, in urban gangs in America, one may be challenged to kill a police officer to prove one's willingness to uphold gang rules over societal rules.
"When Donald Trump suggests that the virus be taken as a 'hoax', that people gather in churches or that people protest for their own sacrifice, he is actually testing people's loyalty to the 'laws' of his mind over the laws of nature, or even impulse for survival. The more he abuses them, the greater their devotion grows, since the psychological cost of admitting their mistake is ever higher — and so it becomes easier to dig a well of unreality than to see the obvious truth.
Man accused of hiding in girl’s bedroom, sexually abusing her for a month
A Washington state man sexually abused a 12-year-old while hiding out in her bedroom over the course of a month, federal prosecutors said.
Zacharias Adrian Cavasos, 21, initially contacted the girl on social media in December before traveling from Washington to Oregon to meet the child at the Wildhorse Resort and Casino in Pendleton in February, according to court records cited by The Oregonian.
Cavasos then secretly moved into the girl’s room on Feb. 10, hiding from her grandfather by staying in a cavity beneath the girl’s bed after removing slats that held her mattress, Assistant US Attorney Jennifer Martin said.
Hong Kong man pleads guilty to sexually assaulting his daughter since she was 6
Former DC Detective Charged With Child Sexual Assault
Teenager Ran Away to Be With Boy She Met on Dating Site. A Week Later She Was Dead.
California father is accused of tossing his daughter, one, to her death off a steep cliff after stabbing the girl's pregnant mother and a bystander
Calif. Banker Expecting His 4th Child Is Allegedly Killed by Neighbor Accused of Terrorizing Him
South Dakota teen admits to fatally shooting Wyoming girl
Mich. Mom with 'Beautiful, Caring Soul' Was Trying to Leave Boyfriend Accused of Murdering Her
Fugitive arrested in Minnesota slaying of real estate agent
Cops catch ‘Most Wanted’ Bronx double murder suspect in Ohio after eight months on the run
Sometimes I feel all sexuality is based upon what a cis privileged man needs. 07-May-2020
An NYC man tried to forcibly remove Asian-American nurse from the subway, police say
An Asian-American nurse was on a subway train in New York Sunday when a man approached him making discriminatory statements, police told NBC News.
According to police, the man then grabbed the nurse by his wrist and shoulder and tried to remove him from the train.
"Hey Chinaman, you're infected," the man said, according to police. "You need to move to a different car. I'm going to beat this Chinese nigger up."
Parents 'Cannot Cope with This Insanity' While Homeschooling Kids During Pandemic
It’s been nearly two months since schools in the United States closed their doors and sent students home to carry on their lessons through a screen.
Due to the coronavirus, American pupils from kindergarten to senior year were forced to swap blackboards for Zoom — much to the dismay of the parents now forced to step in as surrogate teachers.
A viral tweet from archeologist and University of Alabama at Birmingham professor Sarah Parcak summed up many frustrated parents’ emotions after she said homeschooling after completing other household chores was a “fucking joke” that made her “want to barf.”
“We just wrote a hard email. I told our son’s (lovely, kind, caring) teacher that, no, we will not be participating in her 'virtual classroom,' and that he was done with the 1st grade,” she wrote on April 8. “We cannot cope with this insanity. Survival and protecting his well being come first.”
My Husband Wants to Bone Through the Pandemic. I Keep Thinking About My Parents Dying.
Dear How to Do It,
I live in a small apartment in New York City, and I’m currently “sheltering in place”/self-isolating with my family (husband, two small kids). I was sent home from my job that I love, with no idea if or when they will ever reopen. My parents fall in the coronavirus “at risk” category of 60+ with underlying conditions. I, myself, have a rare lung condition, and I don’t know if that puts me in a higher risk group, too. So, having said all that, I’m struggling with thoughts of existential anxiety 24/7 and have zero libido. My husband, while largely in the same boat, does not have this problem and his sex drive is as high as ever. He thinks I should try to take my mind off things, and the best way to do that is with an orgasm. I think the odds of me orgasming right now are … zero. I can’t turn my brain off. Even during foreplay, I find myself worrying about my parents dying, worrying about the upcoming bills we have with only one income, worrying about going grocery shopping and contracting COVID-19, even if we take precautions. I feel guilty for denying my high-sex-drive husband sex, but I just don’t know how to relax enough to enjoy myself while we’re staying inside for the next weeks during this pandemic.
Teens Don’t Have Interest in Driving Anymore and That’s OK
When I was in high school, there was no bigger rite of passage than being able to drive. But today, there's a trend of teens not getting their license when they come of age. With ride sharing apps as a convenient way to get around, coupled with rising costs of owning a car and an eye on the environment, many teens don't feel the push to get their licenses.
In fact, only about a quarter of 16-year-olds had a driver's license in 2014, a sharp decline from nearly half in 1983, according to a study by Michael Sivak and Brandon Schoettle at the University of Michigan Transportation Research Institute.
As a parent of teen on the cusp of getting his license in these uncertain times, I often wonder if driving is a life skill that should be encouraged even if teens don't see the need for a license. Here's what the experts have to say.
People Are Coughing on Food and Pretending to Have Coronavirus—Why Would Someone Do That?
In New Jersey, a man coughed on a Wegmans employee and then claimed he had the novel coronavirus; he was arrested and charged with making a terrorist threat. In Pennsylvania, a woman walked into a local grocery store and coughed on $35,000 worth of fresh foods like produce, bakery goods, and meats. In North Carolina, a man who was arrested for claiming to have COVID-19 while filming a Facebook Live inside of a Walmart. And in California, a woman was in police custody after she entered a grocery store and licked a variety of items in the store, including meat, sparking panic among shoppers.
These are seemingly not isolated incidents. More and more reports have surfaced of people claiming to have COVID-19 or intentionally spreading germs in public areas, where others would obviously be alarmed—especially amid the pandemic. But why?
The answer could be a complicated one, Frank Farley, PhD, a psychology professor at Temple University in Philadelphia and a former president of the American Psychological Association (APA), tells Health. “This behavior hasn’t been much studied,” he says. “It is more embedded in this pandemic concept. It’s a threat you can’t see, can’t stomp it under your foot. You don’t know exactly what it is, but it seems to be almost overwhelming.”
Filipino politician tries to force LGBT+ people to kiss and ‘sexy dance’ as punishment for breaching coronavirus lockdown
A Filipino politician reportedly tried to force LGBT+ people to kiss each other and perform a “sexy dance” in front of minors as a punishment for breaking a coronavirus lockdown curfew.
Christopher Bombing Punzalan, captain (elected chairman) of the Pandacaqui barangay (district), posted a series of now-deleted Facebook live videos of him confronting a group breaking the 8pm lockdown curfew.
Study Reveals Gay and Bi Individuals Are 23% More Likely to Masturbate Weekly Than Their Heterosexual Counterparts
The results of a major study exploring the masturbation habits of men and women around the world have just been revealed. Sexual pleasure brand TENGA, in conjunction with pollsters PSB, conducted the masturbation study and polled 13,000 men and women, aged 18 to 74, in 18 countries. This included the United States, India, United Kingdom, Australia, Japan, Russia and Germany.
It identified a handful of differences between LGB people and straight people. These include gay/bi people saying they started masturbating, on average at age 13, compared with 15 for heterosexuals.
Some major takeaways from that study included:
Globally, on average, 78% of people masturbate. This figure tends to be higher for men than women.
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This ‘mostly straight’ guy is falling for his bisexual roommate while they’re trapped together in coronavirus lockdown
He wrote: “Jake’s a pretty casually physically affectionate guy in general… I’m not as much that way as he is because I was kinda raised in ‘men don’t hug’ kinda household where physical affection was rarely given, if it was given at all, but I’m cool with him being like that and actually kinda appreciate it.”
The two men are currently on lockdown because of the coronavirus pandemic, and have only had each other for company.
The original poster (OP) said he has a condition which causes extreme fatigue and so he needs to take naps during the day, and used to do this on the sofa when his roommate was out.
He said: “Since quarantine, he’s obviously been here every time. He’s been very accommodating and sweet about it.