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YOU’RE NOT CRAZY: HERE’S HOW TO DEAL WITH GASLIGHTING IN ANY RELATIONSHIP
The trickiest part about knowing how to deal with gaslighting in a relationship is being able to decipher whether you’re actually being gaslighted in the first place. When I first started sifting through my mental archives, I wasn’t even sure I had ever experienced it. Then I remembered the last time my ex randomly texted me the Wikipedia page of “narcissistic personality disorder,” saying he was “trying to help.” There was also the time I “invented” that he told me he broke up with his new girlfriend over the weekend, despite texts confirming such events were literally in my phone. Or like 40 other incidents that resulted in him saying, “you’re being crazy right now” to me. So basically, I realized years later that gaslighting was the defining quality of my longest on-and-off relationship.
Better late than never? Maybe, but I’m assuming you don’t have a decade of your life to waste, so let’s cut to the facts, here. Psychotherapist Tammy Nelson, PhD, a sex and relationship expert, says it’s one thing to be lied to, but “it’s another when your partner denies the truth when they look you in the eye, and you know they are lying to you. You have proof, and they keep denying it.” Essentially, it’s the language and behavior a person uses to usurp your sense of what’s actually going on.
“When they lie to you when they’ve been confronted and try to deny your reality in the face of proof, it’s denial,” says Dr. Nelson. “If they try to convince you that you’re crazy for seeing the reality in what they’re doing, that’s gaslighting. Being gaslighted means they are trying to make you feel like your reality is a lie, even when you know you’re not imagining it.”
Well and Good
Why You Shouldn't Use The Wi-Fi In Your Airbnb, According To A Hacker
Most Airbnb users book stays with no major issues. But staying in a stranger’s house means you inevitably make yourself vulnerable to some risks, some of which have included scams, hidden cameras and discrimination. It can be hard to let your guard down while renting an Airbnb ? and you shouldn’t, even if everything seems to check out.
That’s because there could be another danger lurking in your rental that’s harder to detect: the Wi-Fi.
Beware The Wi-Fi
You probably know to use extra caution when using public Wi-Fi networks such as those at your local coffee shop or the airport. Even when a password is required to access the network, you’re at risk of a number of different kinds of attacks, according to Jason Glassberg, an “ethical hacker” and co-founder of Casaba Security.
To The Left! How To Tell When You’ve Reached A Relationship Dead End
Have you been dating someone for a while and, even though you both agreed to be exclusive or continue out your “situationship,” you feel like everything just flatlined? You wonder, “should I keep trying or is time to cut your losses?”
Here are 7 things to consider to help you decide whether it’s worth sticking it out or if it’s time to move on
1. Your Time Isn’t Being Valued
A definitive guide to tipping at restaurants, because we know you have questions
Paying the check at the end of a meal can make you sweat when you’re trying to figure out what to tip. Do you move the decimal over? Add a zero to the first number on the check? Call your mom for help? While there are plenty of ways to decide how much to tip at restaurants, there are a few etiquette and cultural rules you’ll want to follow to make sure you’re tipping properly. Unfortunately, some customers choose to make their own rules.
A recent Twitter post from CNBC on this topic caused an uproar: it offered a “hack” diners could use to save money, but ultimately, the trick amounted to tipping your server less. As you can imagine, this didn’t go well on Twitter. With more than 5 million views and 7,000 comments, people obviously had thoughts on the matter.
Some on Twitter said there were better ways to save money that didn’t involve skimping on the tip: