Someone asked me the other day what my favorite movie was, and I immediately said Arthur, like I always do. Then they said, “Never heard of it? When did it come out?” I didn’t answer 1981, nearly 40 years ago. At that moment I felt old, out of date, and superficially shallow.

Thus, I was not surprised by a new report from The Fenway Institute that found older LGBTQ+ adults in the state of Massachusetts have been diagnosed with depression at twice the rate of their straight, cisgender peers. It could be Massachusetts or any other state, or any other country because depression among older LGBTQ+ people is real, and no doubt much more widespread than we ever realize. I always tell people that if it could happen to me, the proverbial life of the party, it can happen to anyone. Having dealt with severe depression, and then having sought out many older LGBTQ+ people who also experienced similar circumstances, I found it remarkable that we all suffered from some sort of PTSD from our youths.

Again, not surprised that the report also found that LGBTQ+ individuals were twice as likely to fall and be injured in a fall over the past year, and I wouldn’t be shocked to hear if some of that was related to dangerous behavior about feeling alone and useless. Another woman, a lesbian, told me that she had a life-threatening operation, and has not been the same since and feels there’s nothing to live for, except her cat, who is 10. Otherwise, she is alone, without her partner who died, and without a family to take care of her. The family has made her feel shame for who she is, and she worries about being alone for the remainder of her life. Some days, she doesn’t feel like getting out of bed, and subsists on her Social Security checks, desperately afraid that she’ll end up in a nursing home left to die. We didn’t discuss it, but I’m sure she feels equal trepidation about not being able to pay the costs of round-the-clock care.

George Michael’s ex was busted for smashing his way into the late pop star’s London home — just days before the fourth anniversary of the singer’s Christmas Day death, according to reports.

Troubled hairstylist Fadi Fawaz, 47, was confronted Tuesday morning after breaking a window to get into the “Last Christmas” star’s empty $6.75 million home, the Sun said.

“This is my place. George wanted me to have it,” he allegedly yelled at officers who arrived at the house that Fawaz was kicked out of by Michael’s family last year, the UK paper said.

As an asexual person, I can often feel excluded from the wider LGBTQ+ community. It can feel as if we are tolerated rather than welcomed, and sometimes even like we’re outright rejected. Having our validity disputed by LGBTQ+ peers is the most hurtful form of exclusion I have experienced.

On Tuesday's episode of Slightly Offens*ve, Elijah Schaffer, sat down with Abel Garcia, a transgender woman who regrets transitioning medically from a man to a woman at age 18.

After hormone and surgical procedures, Abel realized the lie he says was pushed on him as a young person -- too young, in fact, to even buy alcohol or cigarettes. But when he decided it was time to go back to being a man, he found out it's not as simple as it sounds.

Gay male culture is probably the biggest contributor to depression in my life. I relate to almost everything you've said! I've been called a "heteronormative prude" simply for stating that I like monogamy. Many gay men are very judgmental overall about penis size, muscles, looks, fitting into a "tribe" (bear, otter, jock, etc). As someone that desires a monogamous relationship and doesn't want to hookup anymore, it's VERY difficult to find others. It's the hardest thing in my life as a 36 year old gay man.

Luther Vandross seemed to have it all, but according to Lenny Kravitz, the late singer struggled behind the scenes. Kravitz says Vandross was a lonely man and he tried to hide his sexual orientation from the public. The singer wanted nothing more than to live his life, but he held on to this secret until his death.

During an interview on Watch What Happens Live with Andy Cohen, Patti LaBelle spoke about Vandross’ hesitance to come out. She says he told her he didn’t want to upset his mother. He also didn’t want to disappoint his female fans.

The gay men I work with range from their 20s to 50s. The guys in their 20s are often more attuned to coaching. They’re proactive about their growth and preempt problems by making informed choices. They can be savvy about the need for personal investment.

For older guys, certain issues come up regularly. They include learning to thrive as a gay man as they get older, finding meaningful work and creating authentic connections.