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Health/Food Posts Tagged as 'Preference'

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I’m a Straight Woman Who Married a Gay Man 

 

I met my husband 13 years ago, and we’ve been together ever since. We fell deeply, madly in love with each other and have been married for nine wonderful years now. He’s patient, kind, gentle-hearted. He’s also always been honest about being gay and has never hidden it from me. Only one of our mutual friends knows this about my husband. Our son also knows, since we thought it would be best to remain open with him about it, so he never “found out” by surprise or from our mutual friend. Our son took the news very well and doesn’t care that his father was gay.

I’ve never told my family, or really any of my friends, as I think they’d all be judgmental. My siblings don’t like my husband, but that’s a different letter in itself. So I’ve always kept it bottled up inside. He’s been married before, and divorced, to a straight woman, with whom he has a grown daughter. I’m a straight woman too. I’ve asked my husband about it, and he confirms that he’s gay, not bisexual. He left his first wife because of a lot of problems (and her infidelity), then he was in a few different relationships with other men, before he met his ex-boyfriend. They were still living together when we met. I’m confused by it all, and it has, at times, caused problems in our marriage, because of my lack of self-confidence. I have doubts that he might leave me someday for a gay relationship like he did his ex-wife. We’ve both been faithful to each other, and he loves me, and I love him. But is that good enough for him? Would you consider him bisexual or gay?

—Not-Quite-Lavender Marriage

I’m a Straight Woman Who Married a Gay Man

Tags: Advice, Gay, Humiliation, Investment, Lifestyle, Marriage, Masks, Men In Charge, Mental Health, Modernization, Neglect, Preference, Respect, Self Interest, Self-esteem, Sex, Sex Identity, Treatment

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20-Mar-2021


Why Women Don't Fall for Hairy Guys Remains a Scientific Mystery 

 

Humans are not nearly as furry as our closest primate relatives, a fact that has puzzled evolutionary biologists for more than a century. One common theory for our relative hairlessness suggests that women long ago adopted a preference for less hairy guys as a way to avoid lice and other nasty bloodsuckers that might call a pelt home.

"According to evolutionary view, hairless men should be preferred, particularly in areas (or cultures) with high parasite threat, which means close to the equator, where parasite richness is highest," study researcher Pavol Prokop, a professor of biology at Trnava University in Slovakia, wrote in an email to LiveScience. "We compared only two countries that differ in parasite threat, but we found no differences in women's preferences."

Why Women Don't Fall for Hairy Guys Remains a Scientific Mystery

Tags: Choices, Environment, Hair, Parasite, Preference, Representation, Statistics, Women In Charge

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09-Mar-2021


Sorry, I'm Not Going to Congratulate You On Your Engagement 

 

Let it be known that I am thrilled for all of the newly-engaged. In most cases, I know (and like!) my friends' new fiancés, I've been expecting the news, and I'm pumped to party at their wedding. But I absolutely hate wishing people congratulations on their engagement, and I won't do it anymore.

By definition, "congratulations" means an expression of praise for an achievement. Congrats on your new job! Congrats on buying that house! Congrats on watching the entire backlog of Gilmore Girls in one weekend so that you can be culturally relevant this fall! Congratulations, to me, implies that you've achieved something others haven't, something you've worked hard for and earned.

Engagements aren't an achievement. Engagements are a grown-up decision made between two people who have discussed their relationship and decided that, hey, they're clearly better together than not, so why not make it official? That's a wonderful moment that deserves celebrating, but calling it an achievement implies that you've succeeded at something (i.e. landing a husband) you otherwise may not have had the drive to go forth and accomplish. Then not being engaged must mean you haven't achieved something, and, for the sake of this argument, that you're the marital equivalent of someone sleeping in their parents' basement at 30. It implies failure on the part of the un-engaged, and that's uncool.

Sorry, I'm Not Going to Congratulate You On Your Engagement

Tags: Celebration, Etiquette, Friendship, Investment, Preference, Priorities, Psychology, Sacrifice, Self-esteem, Women

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09-Mar-2021


'Not enough to go around': US states struggle to decide who should get Covid vaccine first 
 

Colorado public health experts planning for an imminent Covid-19 vaccine recommended a vulnerable population living in crowded housing for early vaccination – the state’s prison and jail inmates.

It is a population living in tight quarters where it’s almost impossible to social distance, and these institutions have seen some of the largest outbreaks of Covid-19 in the nation. For all those reasons, they were part of an early phase of the state’s vaccination plan.

But inmates are not, as a rule, a politically popular constituency.

'Not enough to go around': US states struggle to decide who should get Covid vaccine first

Tags: Choices, Coronavirus, Exclusivity, Leaders, Preference, Prison, Racial Tension, Treatment

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04-Dec-2020


Woman Clashes With Her Husband After They Agree To Take In Her Deceased Best Friend's Children 

 

My best friend passed away unexpectedly nine months ago. It was not something that I ever thought would happen.

"She left behind 3 children, 8[Male], 4[Female] and 1[Female]. My husband and I were written to be her children's godparents."

We have never wanted children of our own and do not have any, but we accepted the role of being godparents because we figured that it's just a formality. Plus my best friend did not have many other people she could rely on."

"I want the children. My husband does not. He said he's willing to take care of them on weekends or something but not be their permanent guardian."

"He said keeping the children would violate a pretty big part of our marriage, considering he has never wanted children and has even got a vasectomy to prevent them."

Woman Clashes With Her Husband After They Agree To Take In Her Deceased Best Friend's Children

Tags: Adoption, Children, Choices, Damage, Enforcement, Etiquette, Interference, Investment, Mental Health, Parental Burden, Preference, Priorities, Rejection, Responsibility, Superficiality

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23-Nov-2020


My Boyfriend’s Mom Suddenly Hates Me


 

Dear Prudence,

I’ve been dating an Asian American man for the better part of a year, and he’s the most wonderful person I’ve ever met. His mother and I got along for about six months. I was invited over for dinner, stayed at their house (he lives with his parents), and we even exchanged phone numbers. My boyfriend agrees that I was polite to her and never stepped on her toes. Recently they got into an argument (she didn’t know I was there), and she went on a tirade about how he shouldn’t bring his “little girlfriend” into her house anymore, that I was not a member of their family and was no longer welcome. He tried to reassure me that it was something she said in the heat of the moment, but she’s stood by those words. I’m devastated.

I can’t stop thinking that perhaps she wanted her son to date someone else. My free trial in their home has expired, and she’s ready for her son to date a woman from their heritage. When I’ve been in the house since then, she stands in the backyard until I leave. English is not her first language, and I’m not sure it’d be productive for me to talk to her myself. What would you do in this situation?

—No Longer Welcome

My Boyfriend’s Mom Suddenly Hates Me

Tags: Advice, Culture, Dating, Environment, Family, Hate, Judgment, Mental Health, Parental Burden, Parental Crime, Preference, Relationships, Termination, Threat

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08-Nov-2020


Worker resents having to pick up slack for working moms and dads 

 

Our federal workplace, under the Cares Act, permits parents to work 75 percent of their hours (30 hours/week, any days or times) for the same pay. I’m glad not to lose my teammates and work friends, and glad they can better balance their personal lives and work, but this has translated to a heavy burden on those of us who are child-free. I’m overloaded, and the assignments just keep coming, with no legitimate-enough excuse to make my “no, thank you” stick. The constant narrative from leadership is what heroes parents are — and they are, but those of us without kids are doing so much heavy lifting, and we have families, too.

I know that even though parenthood is a choice, having kids at home during a pandemic wasn’t. As an employed, teleworking, snugly housed and safe person, I know I’m privileged. That said, my workplace feels very unequal right now. It sounds ugly out loud, but as a married woman without children, I’m losing my empathy and patience after months of being treated as though my time is therefore infinite.

Karla: As I once said in response to a child-free worker disgruntled by parents working from home with kids: One worker’s right to work-life balance does not trump another’s.

Worker resents having to pick up slack for working moms and dads

Tags: Business, Children, Choices, Employment, Environment, Exclusivity, Hypocrisy, Interference, Parental Burden, Parental Laziness, Policy, Preference, Pregnancy, Protection, Sacrifice, Supremacy

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31-Oct-2020


Your dog may love you, but doesn't love the sight of your face, study finds 

 

You may think your dog is excited at the sight of your face, but research published Monday suggests that unfortunately, she probably isn’t.

The study, in the Journal of Neuroscience, shows that dogs aren’t wired to focus on human faces. What does make their brains spark is the glimpse of another dog. The sight of a human? Not so much.

Your dog may love you, but doesn't love the sight of your face, study finds

Tags: Animals, Identity, Nature, Preference, Profiling, Representation

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08-Oct-2020


Study Shows People Prefer Robot Over Their Boss: 6 Ways To Be A Leader People Prefer 

 

These are stressful times—among the most stressful in history—and people need help. Often, they turn to their employers and specifically their leaders. But they don’t always get what they need. A new global study reports people actually prefer robots to humans for help with mental health issues. So what’s going on, and how can leaders be more empathetic, supportive and preferable to robots?

It’s important to know the issues plaguing employees are significant. In a just-released global study involving more than 12,000 people across 11 countries by Oracle and Workplace Intelligence, 78% of people reported their mental health had been negatively affected during the pandemic. In addition, people said stress, anxiety and depression were reducing their productivity (42%) and increasing poor decision making (40%).

And interestingly, 68% say when they have stress or anxiety at work, if given a choice between a robot or their boss, they would rather talk to a robot than their own manager. While the results may not indicate our future managers will all be robots, they do illustrate important ways leaders can improve and support their employees.

Study Shows People Prefer Robot Over Their Boss: 6 Ways To Be A Leader People Prefer

Tags: AI, Employment, Equality, Investment, Mental Health, Performance, Preference, Robot, Satisfaction, Study, Treatment

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07-Oct-2020


Americans Are Drinking More During the Pandemic, Study Finds—But Perhaps Not as Much as You'd Think 

 

Humans, like nature itself, abhor a vacuum—and there’s been no vacuum lately quite like the tedious months of COVID-19 quarantine. In nature, air rushes in to fill the empty space. In the time of pandemic, it’s been alcohol. That, at least, is the finding of a new survey of American adults conducted by the RAND Corporation and published Tuesday in JAMA Network Open. But the study bears close reading.

From the very start of the pandemic, it was clear that alcohol was going to be the medication of choice for a lot of Americans, especially during the early days when panicky shoppers were hoarding toilet paper, hand sanitizer, bottled water, and groceries. During the week ending March 21, national alcohol sales increased 54% from the same week a year before and online sales leapt a staggering 262%.

The question was, with more alcohol on hand—and plenty more available as soon as stores began to reopen but stay-at-home guidelines remained in place—would people actually consume more? The answer, according to the RAND researchers, who surveyed a sample group of 1,540 adults, was: And how.

Americans Are Drinking More During the Pandemic, Study Finds—But Perhaps Not as Much as You'd Think

He looks like Michael from MAF: Australia calling Stacey a bunch of nasty things. 29-Sep-2020

Tags: Alcohol, All Rights, Enforcement, Environment, Fear, Life Sucks, Mental Health, Preference, Safety, Social Media, Society, Survival, Toxic, Treatment

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29-Sep-2020


Prefer morning sex to nighttime sex? Science could explain why 

 

The coronavirus pandemic and the anxieties it’s triggered have pretty much stolen my mojo. But pre-pandemic, evening sex, post-dinner and drinks, was absolutely my jam. My partner, on the other hand, was always more down to bone morning or night. I’ve been pondering the cause of my erstwhile evening horniness, and why the time of day didn’t matter as much for my partner. My bigger question: What determines whether you’re horny in the morning or at night?

Prefer morning sex to nighttime sex? Science could explain why

Tags: Anatomy, Men, Preference, Sex, Study, Women

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24-Sep-2020


Black women who don't straighten their hair are 'less likely to get jobs because employers perceive them to be less professional', research suggests 

 

Black women with 'natural' hairstyles, such as curly afros or braids, are perceived as less professional than those who straighten their hair, a new study claims.

In experiments, the researchers found black women with natural hair are deemed 'less competent and professional' than black women with straightened hair and white women with curly or straight hair.

The job candidates with natural hair were subject to discrimination when they were being evaluated for jobs in consulting, according to the researchers, which they deem an industry with conservative dress norms.

Black women who don't straighten their hair

Tags: Beauty, Business, Choices, Culture, Employment, Hair, Inclusion, Policy, Preference, Race

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12-Aug-2020


Beware of Corporate Promises 

 

Change is afoot in corporate America. For the past two months, everyone from Chevron to Comcast and Hershey’s to Harvard Business School has put out statements containing the phrase “We stand in solidarity with the Black community,” or some very close variant. The sudden outpourings of corporate sentiment were widely dismissed as meaningless, hypocritical, opportunistic, or all three. But there’s reason to believe that such vocal calls for change from corporations could actually be worse than meaningless—and in fact damage the chances that corporations will follow through on meaningful change in the months and years ahead.

Why? Less than a year ago, nearly 200 CEOs signed a solemn pledge, issued by the Business Roundtable, to stop caring primarily about their shareholders and to serve the needs of their workers, communities, and country too. The Wharton management professor Tyler Wry has been compiling data on the signatories’ behavior since. “We were interested in whether these statements were worth the paper they were printed on, or just symbolic,” he told me recently. “When COVID hit, it was a natural experiment and a chance to see if companies were living up to their word.”

The results have startled him. As COVID-19 spread in March and April, did signers give less of their capital to shareholders (via dividends and stock buybacks)? No. On average, signers actually paid out 20 percent more of their capital than similar companies that did not sign the statement. Then, as the coronavirus swept the country, did they lay off fewer workers? On the contrary, in the first four weeks of the crisis, Wry found, signers were almost 20 percent more prone to announce layoffs or furloughs. Signers were less likely to donate to relief efforts, less likely to offer customer discounts, and less likely to shift production to pandemic-related goods. “Signing this statement had zero positive effect,” said Wry. Why, though, would it produce a negative effect?

Beware of Corporate Promises

Tags: $, Business, Charity, Effect, Employment, Etiquette, Hypocrisy, Misrepresentation, Neglect, Politics, Preference, Priorities, Study, Treatment

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06-Aug-2020


Is My Middle Child a Monster? 

 

Dear Therapist,

My husband and I have three terrific kids, ages 6, 4, and 2. Our oldest is cautious, helpful, and precocious. Our youngest is easygoing, affectionate, and goofy. Our middle child is persistent, bold, imaginative, and tenderhearted. Her personality is not as easy as her siblings’, but she’s a great kid. If she makes me want to pull my hair out five times a day, then she makes me laugh, surprises me, or melts my heart 10 times a day.

The problem comes from others. Our elderly next-door neighbor dotes on the oldest and youngest and all but ignores the middle one. More than once, she has asked whether our doctors have diagnosed her with any disorders. I just look at her as if I don’t understand her question. I’ve had others “praise” me for being so patient with our middle child. These kinds of comments make me so angry and sad.

We recently visited my husband’s family, and I grew resentful of the way my in-laws talked about and treated our middle child. Conversations seemed to focus on all the bad things she had done that day, or ever in her life. I’m sensitive that these narratives we tell repeatedly can lock a kid into acting a certain way, especially when she is treated differently by the adults around her. My husband’s parents played favorites with him and his siblings, and one sibling has suffered long-lasting trauma from this, and now has several mental-health issues. The final straw was when our oldest picked up on the comments from the adults, and started joining in the criticism of her younger sister. I scolded my oldest with hopes that the adults around the table would take the message to heart, but I didn’t address their behavior directly. My husband and I have discussed these issues since the visit, but we are both at a loss as to how to improve things.

Is My Middle Child a Monster?

Tags: Advice, Children, Discipline, Environment, Etiquette, Family, Hate, Parental Burden, Preference, Profiling, Unruly Child

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03-Aug-2020


Why a generation is choosing to be child-free 


 

We are in the middle of a mass extinction, the first caused by a single species. There are 7.8 billion of us, on a planet that scientists estimate can support 1.5 billion humans living as the average US citizen does today. And we know that the biggest contribution any individual living in affluent nations can make is to not have children. According to one study, having one fewer child prevents 58.6 tonnes of carbon emissions every year; compare that with living car-free (2.4 tonnes), avoiding a transatlantic return flight (1.6), or eating a plant-based diet (0.82). Another study said it was almost 20 times more important than any other choice an environmentally minded individual could make. Such claims have been questioned. After all, does a parent really bear the burden of their child’s emissions? Won’t our individual emissions fall as technologies and lifestyles change? Isn’t measuring our individual carbon footprint – a concept popularised by oil and gas multinational BP – giving a free pass to the handful of corporate powers responsible for almost all carbon emissions? The only thing that isn’t up for debate is that we all know that we are living in ways that can’t continue.

Coronavirus isn’t likely to give us coronababies – but a pandemic isn’t the reason that having children has shifted from an inevitability to a choice, and now, a moral question. A long time ago, “Do we have children?” became “Should we?”

The Guardian

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Palm Springs boy, 7, in coma with ‘hole in skull’ after cruel neighbor randomly hurls a rock at him

‘Monster’ gets 70 years for repeatedly abusing Buffalo woman, son

Tags: Action, Advice, Arrest, Attack, Awareness, Books, Children, Choices, Contamination, Coronavirus, Crime, Death, Education, Environment, Etiquette, Exclusivity, Future, Health, Illness, Injury, Investment, Lifestyle, Lockdown, Mental Health, Parental Burden, Parental Crime, Politics, Population Control, Preference, Pregnancy, Priorities, Sacrifice, Safety, Saving The Environment!, Science, Statistics, Survival, Women In Charge, World

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25-Jul-2020




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