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Help! My Aunt Says It’s a “Choice” to Be Offended by Racial Slurs. 

 

Q. Aunt wants to “get over” racial slurs: My aunt (father’s sister) and I have had a fairly acrimonious relationship since I was in my teens, mostly because of her dislike of my mother. Fast forward to Christmas of this year, when I texted my aunt and her husband to thank them for some cookies they sent me. We started talking again, exchanging memes and discussing our shared love of photography, in what I had hoped was a fresh start. Talk turned to politics eventually, because we both believed our politics aligned somewhat—me more as a leftist, and her a liberal.

However, when I mentioned that I was happy to see white people experience consequences when they used slurs such as the N-word, she said it was a “choice” to be offended by slurs like that, and how people needed to get over it. She even spelled it out. I was totally bewildered. We are both white women. I told her it was inappropriate and racist for her to write or say that word. She continued to use it, saying she should be able to because it was “just a word.” I went on to provide her with multiple sources about why it was offensive and racist. She then said how I was “looking for reasons to have contempt for her” and how she and “the family” have never understood why I’ve always hated her. This went on and on until I eventually stopped responding. However, she’s texted me every day this past week, trying to talk again like nothing’s happened. So how do I address the obvious racism with someone who thinks she’s “the most accepting and multicultural person in our family” for one, and secondly, always makes herself out to be the victim when I disagree with her on anything?

Help! My Aunt Says It’s a “Choice” to Be Offended by Racial Slurs.

Tags: Advice, Argument, Choices, Family, Judgment, Misconduct, Racism, Relationships, Segregation, Struggling, Treatment, Words

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18-Feb-2021


The little girl who can't stop laughing: Baby, 7 months, ALWAYS seems happy even when she's not - but it's caused by a rare condition that turned her parents' world upside down 

 

A seven-month-old girl has a rare genetic condition that means she only sleeps for four hours a day, never cries and is almost always smiling.

Fiadh Baird was born three weeks early at Melbourne Women's Hospital on April 18 this year.

Like most premature babies, she slept for the first week of her life, until she suddenly woke and screamed - non-stop, for 24 hours a day.

Her mother Galatea Young told Daily Mail Australia the crying finally ended when Fiadh was put on medication for colic and reflux.

But when the wailing was replaced with smiles and laughter at two weeks old, the 28-year-old mother sensed something was wrong.

The little girl who can't stop laughing: Baby, 7 months, ALWAYS seems happy even when she's not - but it's caused by a rare condition that turned her parents' world upside down

Tags: Children, Disease, Evolution, Health, Illness, Medicine, Mental Health, Parental Heartbreak, Science, Struggling, Survival, Words

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30-Nov-2020


Landlords skirt COVID-19 eviction bans, using intimidation and tricks to boot tenants 

 

Cash-strapped renters nationwide say their landlords tried to skirt COVID-19 eviction moratoriums by changing locks, removing trash containers so waste piled up and – in one case – attempting to unbolt the front door right off an apartment.

They told state attorneys general that they were kicked out of their homes after landlords accused them of violating tenant rules, like smoking cigarettes inside their units or failing to take the hitches off of their mobile homes.

Like Heidi Stach, who lost her job due to the pandemic and fell behind on rent, they assumed they were protected. But Stach says her landlord found an end-run to Wisconsin’s eviction ban: Instead of starting a court process, he sent her a notice to vacate this summer because he was not renewing her lease.

Landlords skirt COVID-19 eviction bans, using intimidation and tricks to boot tenants

Tags: $, Abuse, Environment, Eviction, Home, Homeless, Inhumanity, Lifestyle, Nobody Cares, Poverty, Power, Protection, Respect, Sacrifice, Self Interest, Struggling, Tragedy

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20-Nov-2020


My Husband Failed Two Polygraph Tests About His Infidelity 

 

Dear Prudence,
I am a professional woman who has been married for 16 years. My job is stressful, and I often work 12 hours or more. We have no children. At first things were wonderful, and my husband always seemed like a sweet, mild-mannered, caring man. Three years in, he was laid off because his company ran into financial trouble. Because I am a high-earner, I told him he didn’t need to go back to work as long as he kept the house up and did basic repair projects. He never went back to work, but he never kept the house up, either. We also hired housecleaners to visit every two weeks, but in between nothing got done. I asked him to go back to work. He didn’t. I strongly suspected he was having affairs a few years later, but he always denied it. I have no concrete proof, but he did many suspicious things like hiding months of phone bills and having midnight texts. Years later he voluntarily took two polygraph tests to save the marriage (we stopped having intimate relations five years ago mostly because I no longer admired, respected, or trusted him, and because of my resentment toward him on several levels). He failed the tests.

Until lately, I generally ignored all my feelings and went about trying to have a good life. My husband will not discuss our issues because, he says, he clams up or needs time to think. I verbalize my needs and frustrations all the time. At one point he started snapping at me and rolling his eyes, but I firmly and strongly told him to stop, which he mostly has. I demanded that he get a job, and he finally works 25 hours a week making a small salary. He knows I no longer love him (in the least), but he won’t leave. We now live in separate bedrooms. We have been to two marriage counselors. I have told him I will go back if he is willing to discuss his unfaithfulness, which he still denies. He states the lie-detector tests are invalid. The house and everything we own are paid for by me alone. I need to divorce, but he will take everything I own, plus alimony. On the surface, he is a nice, charming, religious guy. None of our friends know about our marriage troubles, and they would be shocked to hear this. Advice, please.

—Trapped

My Husband Failed Two Polygraph Tests About His Infidelity

Tags: Advice, Cheating, Choices, Divorce, Environment, Hate, Marriage, Men In Charge, Mental Health, Power, Struggling, Survival, Violence

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19-Nov-2020


Child Regression Amid The COVID-19 Crisis: When To Worry And When Not To 

 

At this point in the coronavirus pandemic, there is plenty of evidence that it’s taken a toll on children’s mental health.

Mental health experts who work with kids say that, anecdotally at least, all of this on the rise. So if your child is regressing during the pandemic, they’re in good company. Here’s what parents need to know.

Children (and adults!) go through regressive episodes because they’re feeling anxious, unsure, and because they’re looking for a bit of reassurance and comfort. In some ways, these momentary behavioral regressions are a typical part of childhood development: Kids grow and change, they maybe get a bit rattled, and they retreat for a bit.

Other times, like during an ongoing global pandemic, regressions are a clear response to a particular stressor.

“It’s not limited to early developmental stages,” said Julie Ross, executive director of Parenting Horizons and author of “Practical Parenting for the 21st Century.” “You might have a kid who is 13, 14 coming into mom and dad’s bed every night. They’re returning to an earlier time when they felt safe in the ‘cocoon’ of mom and dad.”

Child Regression Amid The COVID-19 Crisis: When To Worry And When Not To

Tags: Children, Coronavirus, Environment, Parental Burden, Psychology, Responsibility, Struggling, Treatment

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21-Oct-2020


My Partner Thinks I’m a Monster for Getting My Building’s Maintenance Workers Fired 

 

I live in a huge apartment complex with about 500 tenants. I happen to live on the back side of the complex, with a window facing the dumpster in the alleyway. Many of the maintenance workers hang out in that alley when they’re not working. I’ve been working from home for six months now, meaning I spend way more time overhearing their conversations than I used to. They probably spend three to four hours a day just shooting the breeze. They laugh loudly, speak at a way higher volume than necessary, and tell an endless number of sexist jokes in Spanish (I speak Spanish fluently so I can understand every word). I hate having to listen to sexist vitriol for literally hours every day. I’ve tried headphones and a white noise machine but neither block out the sound.

I finally gave up and emailed management. Three of the guys were fired. They have been replaced with workers who spend significantly less time joking and hanging out in the back alley. I view this as a win: I don’t have to be subjected to this for hours every day, and the guys learned a valuable lesson about not going on sexist rants at work. My partner, on the other hand, is angry at me. They say I should’ve just talked to the men myself (which seems naïve, considering they clearly hate women) or, in my email to the complex, asked for the men not to be fired. I disagree. All I did was speak up about an issue that affected me—it’s not my responsibility how the complex chooses to handle it. My partner is basically saying I’m a monster for getting blue-collar workers fired. We cannot seem to move past this issue. Did I do the right thing? What can I do now to get my partner and I past this difference of opinion?

—Not Sorry They’re Gone

My Partner Thinks I’m a Monster for Getting My Building’s Maintenance Workers Fired

Tags: Advice, Backlash, Complaint, Effect, Employment, Etiquette, Interference, Mental Health, Racial Tension, Relationships, Struggling

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17-Oct-2020


More and More Moms Are Renting Hotel Rooms Amid the Pandemic 

 

For many working mothers, Jill Krause’s story might sound familiar. In the midst of the pandemic, she says she became the 24/7 “default parent” that her kids would run to for their every need (and then some), while their dad worked more traditional hours. “My presence and flexibility sent out a clear signal to my four kids: ‘Mom may or may not be working, so cling away! Ask away! Tantrum away!’” she tells InStyle.

Tampa-based, Akemi Sue Fisher had been working from her single floor home with two yappy Yorkies, her 11-year-old daughter, and her work-from-home husband. Akemi, CEO of Amazon Consulting agency Love & Launch, was used to lots of action — early morning international calls, full days of clients and planning — anything the day brought, she conquered with high energy and zest. But when quarantine orders came down, she found herself ill-prepared for the chaos of a full house. She began to look for office space with poor results. Frustrated, she and her husband went to regroup over lunch at a new local hotel. While at the Current (with rates in the $150 per night range), they met the manager, who shared the property’s 20% occupancy rate. Her husband suggested they take a look at a room, and according, to Akemi, it was love at first sight. She struck a deal with the manager for a reduced rate on a room, and signed the lease through the end of the year. Akemi and her assistant quickly settled into their new rhythm. The suite was comfortable and the hotel a constant source of buzz — just the right recipe to feed Akemi’s extroverted personality. “My productivity has gone through the roof — I feel the energy again, and that is exactly what I needed.”

More and More Moms Are Renting Hotel Rooms Amid the Pandemic

Tags: Children, Choices, Coronavirus, Environment, Family, Freedom, Health, Mental Health, Parental Burden, Portrait, Responsibility, Sacrifice, Safety, Social Distancing, Struggling, Treatment, Unruly Child, Women In Charge

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06-Oct-2020


Coronavirus: The slow death of the American all-you-can-eat buffet 

 

Buffets - from the humblest hotel breakfasts to the grandest casino banquets - are struggling to stay afloat as new health restrictions come into place and wary diners eschew the self-serve dining tradition.

The appeal of all-you-can-eat food, with no waiter there to judge your food pairings or quantity, led the Washington Post this month to describe buffets as an "offer [of] public gluttony at an affordable price".

As many buffets go out of business across the US, others are innovating and trying desperately to keep the business model relevant and appetising.

In March, the US Food and Drug Administration (FDA), which regulates food safety for the federal government, recommended "discontinuing self-service buffets and salad bars" until the pandemic subsides.

BBC

Tags: Business, Coronavirus, Environment, Etiquette, Food, Neglect, Restaurant, Safety, Shortage, Struggling, Survival

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19-Jul-2020


Dental Hygienist Worries If People Will Get Teeth Cleaned For Fear Of Coronavirus 

 

When the temperature gets above freezing, it's a good day. Not just because it feels better, but it's also good for the electric bill and because Grenier can no longer justify paying $50 to $70 to get her driveway plowed.

The dental practice where she has worked for two decades shut down in mid-March, just before her son, Ryeder, also lost his job at an auto body shop.

She had hoped to use accumulated sick leave and paid time off to cover some of her expenses, but the dental office couldn't afford to pay that out. Unemployment benefits took time to process, she says, because there have been so many layoffs.

npr

Tags: $, Coronavirus, Employment, Environment, Family, Mental Health, Parental Burden, Portrait, Poverty, Struggling

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06-May-2020


Parents 'Cannot Cope with This Insanity' While Homeschooling Kids During Pandemic 

 

It’s been nearly two months since schools in the United States closed their doors and sent students home to carry on their lessons through a screen.

Due to the coronavirus, American pupils from kindergarten to senior year were forced to swap blackboards for Zoom — much to the dismay of the parents now forced to step in as surrogate teachers.

A viral tweet from archeologist and University of Alabama at Birmingham professor Sarah Parcak summed up many frustrated parents’ emotions after she said homeschooling after completing other household chores was a “fucking joke” that made her “want to barf.”

“We just wrote a hard email. I told our son’s (lovely, kind, caring) teacher that, no, we will not be participating in her 'virtual classroom,' and that he was done with the 1st grade,” she wrote on April 8. “We cannot cope with this insanity. Survival and protecting his well being come first.”

People

Tags: Backlash, Environment, Family, Hate, Ignorance, Lifestyle, No more Heroes, Overpopulation, Overreaction, Parental Burden, Parental Laziness, Priorities, Psychology, Sacrifice, Social Distancing, Struggling, Study, Training, Unruly Child

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02-May-2020


My Husband Wants to Bone Through the Pandemic. I Keep Thinking About My Parents Dying. 

 

Dear How to Do It,

I live in a small apartment in New York City, and I’m currently “sheltering in place”/self-isolating with my family (husband, two small kids). I was sent home from my job that I love, with no idea if or when they will ever reopen. My parents fall in the coronavirus “at risk” category of 60+ with underlying conditions. I, myself, have a rare lung condition, and I don’t know if that puts me in a higher risk group, too. So, having said all that, I’m struggling with thoughts of existential anxiety 24/7 and have zero libido. My husband, while largely in the same boat, does not have this problem and his sex drive is as high as ever. He thinks I should try to take my mind off things, and the best way to do that is with an orgasm. I think the odds of me orgasming right now are … zero. I can’t turn my brain off. Even during foreplay, I find myself worrying about my parents dying, worrying about the upcoming bills we have with only one income, worrying about going grocery shopping and contracting COVID-19, even if we take precautions. I feel guilty for denying my high-sex-drive husband sex, but I just don’t know how to relax enough to enjoy myself while we’re staying inside for the next weeks during this pandemic.

—COVID Coitus

Slate

Tags: Addiction, Advice, Choices, Family, Horniness, Mental Health, Psychology, Relationships, Sex, Struggling, Support, Treatment, Unruly Child, Vulnerable

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26-Apr-2020


Indians Forced Into Quarantine Are Dying in Lockdown—but Not From Coronavirus 

 

No one noticed when an 82-year-old man, forced into quarantine after returning from a trip to another state, died in his home in the village of Mohammadpur Khala in Uttar Pradesh.

His neighbors, who had refused to go near the man’s house out of fear he had brought back the coronavirus with him, only noticed something was wrong when the stench from his decomposing body became overwhelming.

Elsewhere in India, farmers are taking their own lives because they can’t get laborers to harvest their crops. Police are accused of beating lockdown violators to death. Migrant workers are dropping dead after being forced to walk hundreds of miles home. Alcoholics are dying from drinking methanol because all alcohol sales have been banned. Children are dying of starvation.

Vice

Tags: Coronavirus, Effect, Environment, Extinction, Health, Horror, Lifestyle, Mental Health, Murder, Overpopulation, Politics, Poverty, Sacrifice, Safety, Struggling, Tragedy, World

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19-Apr-2020


Renters Are Being Forced From Their Homes Despite Eviction Moratoriums Meant to Protect Them 

 

Millions of people in America are under shelter-in-place orders requiring them to stay home whenever possible, but a growing number don’t have that luxury. Their landlords are kicking them out for not paying the rent, despite moratoriums on evictions in more than 30 states and dozens of cities.

Some landlords change the locks when tenants are out. Others cut off power or utilities, or let themselves into tenants’ apartments and throw their stuff onto the street. Landlords also take the doors off the hinges if tenants won’t leave, says George Donnelly, an attorney at The Public Interest Law Center in Philadelphia. In most cases, experts say, the evictions are illegal, since landlords are required to go through the courts to evict tenants, and most courts are not currently processing eviction orders. In addition, sheriffs or marshals, not landlords, are supposed to enforce eviction orders, including supervising removal companies to carry away a tenant’s belongings if the renter refuses to leave.

Time

There’s Been a Spike in People Dying at Home in Several Cities. That Suggests Coronavirus Deaths Are Higher Than Reported.

Tags: $, All Rights, Backlash, Coronavirus, Death, Environment, Family, Health, Home, Homeless, Justice, Medical, Mental Health, Parental Burden, Poverty, Rejection, Rent, Safety, Statistics, Struggling, Survival, Threat, Treatment, Unity, Vulnerable

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15-Apr-2020


Lettuce Left To Die In California Fields As Produce Demand Withers Under COVID-19 

 

Americans stuck at home to help curb the spread of the coronavirus can’t buy enough toilet paper, cleaning supplies and alcohol, but there’s plenty of lettuce and leafy greens. In fact, there is so much that West Coast growers are letting some crops die in the field. That's because in good times the majority of lettuce and broccoli are actually sold to restaurants and schools, not supermarkets.

“This thing has been just like hitting a brick wall, and we don’t know how long it's gonna last,” Larry Cox, owner of Salinas, California-based Coastline Family Farms, tells Forbes. Normally at this time of year his farms that sprawl across more than 10,000 acres in California, Arizona and Mexico, would be sending out 120,000 boxes of iceberg lettuce, romaine, green and red leaf lettuce, broccoli and cauliflower a week. About 70% of that would be going to food service companies and 30% to supermarkets. “We’re lucky if we harvest much over 60% of what we have ready and scheduled to harvest the last couple weeks.”

Forbes

Tags: Farms, Food, Product, Struggling, Waste

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06-Apr-2020


College Made Them Feel Equal. The Virus Exposed How Unequal Their Lives Are. 

 

The political science class was called “Forced Migration and Refugees.” Students read accounts of migrants fleeing broken economies and seeking better futures, of life plans drastically altered and the political forces that made it all seem necessary.

Then suddenly, the subject matter became personal: Haverford College shut down and evicted most students from the dormitories as the coronavirus spread through Pennsylvania.

Like many college courses around the country, the class soldiered on. The syllabus was revised. The students reconvened on a videoconferencing app.

But as each logged in, not everyone’s new reality looked the same.

One student sat at a vacation home on the coast of Maine. Another struggled to keep her mother’s Puerto Rican food truck running while meat vanished from Florida grocery shelves. As one young woman’s father, a private equity executive, urged the family to decamp to a country where infections were falling, another student’s mother in Russia couldn’t afford the plane ticket to bring her daughter home.

NY Times

Yale students are using the coronavirus crisis as an excuse to lower standards

Tags: $, Cheating, Demands, Education, Environment, Family, Fear, Lifestyle, Poverty, Priorities, Privilege, Safety, Struggling, Students, Support, Survival

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05-Apr-2020




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